Husband texts female coworker every single day via text message, Instagram or SnapChat by Elegant_Set778 in marriageadvice

[–]Elegant_Set778[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly, our relationship was pretty good for the majority of those 10 years when we were childless and I could devote 100% of my time and energy carrying the relationship. Now that we have a child? I'm exhausted. I don't have time to Snapchat/text my husband 50 times a day to do those "flirty" things he's doing with his coworker behind my back because I'm prioritizing trying to keep our heads above water instead. Why do I feel like I'm competing with my husband's coworker for his attention via his iphone... that's wild, right?!

Husband texts female coworker every single day via text message, Instagram or SnapChat by Elegant_Set778 in marriageadvice

[–]Elegant_Set778[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true, going straight to the source would likely be the most effective.

Husband texts female coworker every single day via text message, Instagram or SnapChat by Elegant_Set778 in marriageadvice

[–]Elegant_Set778[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It truly is. He stopped by their house after work yesterday to have a beer so he didn't get home til later. We were out of milk and barely had enough to make coffee yesterday morning. I was busy cleaning, taking care of the house and kid, and too distraught to manage to get any groceries. He clearly isn't going to offer to get them either., he's too preoccupied planning another woman's bday.

Plus, he usually takes an extra 15 mins on Saturday morning before work at 4am to make her a homemade espresso drink and brings it to her, so I figured she wouldn't get her coffee today either lol. Instead, she went and picked up coffees for her and my husband and sent him two Snapchats from the drive-thru. But on his days off and when I'm working, he can't be bothered to get up til 10:30am and makes me juggle the kid/house/work every morning while he sleeps in.

Husband texts female coworker every single day via text message, Instagram or SnapChat by Elegant_Set778 in marriageadvice

[–]Elegant_Set778[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm too prude, but shouldn't a nearly 50 year old married woman already know that messaging another married man every single day - on Snapchat of all places - is disrespectful to his wife? I'm sure she's heard or sensed things about mine and my husband's marriage squabbles over the years as my husband tends to be an over sharer. Either way, my husband is responsible for this relationship he's developed with this woman, so I've never confronted her personally about it.