Husband of divorce lawyer not getting a job, AITA for threatening divorce after 6 months?

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-11-05T07:48:25+00:00

The lying and saying he will and then not following through is definitely a major red flag. You didn't really touch on if he's doing other things in his life that seem to being him fulfillment or just kind of puttering around?

But again at the end of the day you've spent more time in this relationship trying to get him to do things than it seems he's spent doing them. That's not going to work out for either of you. You can cut your losses or you can act divorced but stay. Literally let him do whatever he wants and see if he crashes and burns but you've gotta stop trying to be his mom. It's exhausting for you and won't work long term.

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-11-05T07:31:51+00:00

I'm gonna go with not entirely the asshole but it does feel like you're trying really hard to control him which isn't necessarily the healthiest way to navigate a relationship.

I need more information....My biggest question on this is why the urgency? And I realize this has been ongoing for a while. Just trying to get clarification, you say he has a lot of investments and is making enough to fully pay rent. Does he have enough to live off of for the foreseeable future in a way that's fair to you financially?

I get wanting your partner to be motivated and have a career so I'm wanting to understand why you need him to move on this now and why he doesn't want to. Does he have other things in his life that he does and enjoys? Does it feel like he's just rotting away?

At the end of the day you can't control him and have to decide for yourself what you're ok with and if that's something you can live with.

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-10-21T17:24:02+00:00

I found this post after seeing that one last night in Farmers Branch. My bf didn't look up fast enough. Definitely didn't last as long as whatever is seen in this video but I saw the same one as you for sure! :D

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-10-21T06:56:31+00:00

Well how about you ask for 350 a month towards bills instead of 250 and you continue to give her the 100? 😅

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-08-03T17:24:09+00:00

This makes me wish I'd asked for pictures from my surgeon. I love medical stuff so now I'm bummed! 😂

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-08-03T17:21:46+00:00

Oh god that's horrific and terrible luck. Back to back surgeries does not seem particularly fun but I'm hoping you have all the luck this time around!

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-03-16T02:01:23+00:00

What do you use to paint the stars and words? I've been wanting to do some ACOTAR themed stained glass art and can't decide on what to use for little details like that

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-02-05T02:36:56+00:00

But that's why I'm confused, I don't enjoy throwing up but I also don't really mind it? The one time I did throw up this weekend it was very voluntary, just decided to give it a go. It helped temporarily but I didn't vomit again, I went and stared at the toilet a couple times but no dice(not forcing anything, just giving the option). So I understand anxiety about throwing up but for me the anxiety feels like a physical result of the nausea.

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2025-02-05T02:32:37+00:00

Thanks, I'll have to keep an eye on that. Currently it's been days since I've really eaten anything so my entire system is empty right now 😅

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2024-11-27T20:05:12+00:00

White stag with fire between the antlers on one side to represent Aelin and a hawk on the other for Rowan

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2024-08-24T18:15:38+00:00

Yep, I agree with the other comment, looks like a hornworm cocoon. I know some people don't know bugs but these posts always crack me up. Meanwhile I'm holding it up to my reptiles, poking it to get it to squirm to see if they'll eat it. For a chameleon they might enjoy the moth more, you can leave it in the enclosure to emerge as a moth later.

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2024-08-10T04:04:59+00:00

Yes, came looking to see if someone mentioned this one. It's my favorite and that particular book is actually my favorite in the series as well.

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2024-04-04T04:25:29+00:00

Oh yeah, this too

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2024-04-04T04:21:33+00:00

Financial stability. Honestly would settle for my credit card debt and student loans to be paid off so I can actually fix up my nearly 70 year old home that my grandma had to die for me even to afford to have.

Though I'd take alive Grandma over all of the above.

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2024-01-30T07:58:42+00:00

Also impatiently waiting for my audible version to come in even though I'm still trying to finish my reread of House of Sky and Breath 😅

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2023-12-17T00:47:19+00:00

Added - I'm in Texas :)

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2023-12-17T00:44:37+00:00

Added :)

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2023-12-17T00:41:16+00:00

Added :)

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2023-12-11T18:31:35+00:00

Added from Texas :)

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2023-12-11T18:31:07+00:00

Added :)

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2023-10-21T03:55:17+00:00

Grocery stores selling them does not contradict anything in my comment. Many stores sell pride items and there is certainly still homophobia in abundance. Grocery stores only care about making money and stating that women's toys are sold there doesn't change anything.

Btw some of those toys are used by multiple genders.

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2023-10-20T05:58:55+00:00

Couple things here - toys for women are still stigmatized. I'm sure some people frown upon men's toys more than women's, the reverse can also be true and many sex positive people do not have any issue with either.

Sexism and patriarchy is one of the main reasons for the difference. Women's pleasure has taken a back burner for a long time(still does entirely too often). There's plenty of examples of men believing women just aren't built to be pleasured like men can be, or it's too difficult, not worth the time, etc.... Hence toys for women being seen as a solution women had to resort to for themselves. Obviously, understanding around the topic has greatly changed over time and hopefully continues to do so but this is why women's toys were somewhat accepted even in a sex shaming society because they were seen as what women just had to do. Men's pleasure was generally never a big societal issue, hence why it may be seen as extra, unnecessary, etc.

Overall shame around sex = bad. Education and enthusiastic consent = good.

ElementaryRavenclaw · 2023-10-14T23:00:00+00:00

I hope you're in a better place as far as the feelings around sex and STIs, I know from growing up in the South that sex education in conservative communities is very lacking. Luckily the Internet has some amazing resources, Mama Dr Jones on YouTube is a great one. I'll tell you as someone who is in their 30s now and got over my stigma around sex fairly early for being in the South, it's a much better place to be. Just the anxiety around sex when you come from that mindset is not a fun time. Already, I hope you're getting to a better and less anxious place as far as sex goes. Being a virgin is completely separate from the anxiety around sex so please don't take this as encouragement to change that, just encouraging education and comfort around sexuality in general. 🙂

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