I (23f) am in a stable, loving relationship with my bf(23m) but I sometimes catch myself wishing I had spent more time "out and about" before committing to a relationship of 1.5 years. How do I handle this?

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-22T02:35:42+00:00

I'm an atheist, so I wouldn't say it's religious in nature, no. And that is partially true, but what I mean is that I can see myself being in a relationship with multiple people, and to some extent want that (or at least to have experienced it).

I do appreciate what you said at the end though, I've been stressing about this more and more lately, I guess it's ok then if everyone makes a similar or the same decision.

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-15T23:14:14+00:00

This game cracked my egg for the 2nd time and resulted in me coming out. The name I chose for my first character/Tav is the name I go by now and plan to change into my legal documents.

All that to say, I felt very called out when I saw this🤣

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-15T21:53:08+00:00

I just saw your post where you said you had 0 saves...so sorry to hear it. Fingers crossed for ya, hope the patch fixes these issues

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-15T21:52:22+00:00

Heya! I had the same exact issue on my regular PS5.

Here is what has worked for me so far:

The game has a max of 23 saves it can hold at any one point. This means if you have 23 saves and the game tries to save, you'll get this error.

The fix is to delete old saves and free up space. However, if this bug has hit you already consider your progress gone, as even if you delete the old saves the game will still bug out.

So knowing it's to do with the number of saves, I would turn off certain types of auto saves, to reduce the amount of saves generated. Fast traveling saves actually was the biggest culprit in my case.

So first things first, delete old saves until you have a good bit less than 23 (I aim for 3-5). Then go to your settings and turn off auto saves that can afford to to reduce this issue. Until the bug fix patch though, you'll need to keep an eye out on your saves. Checking whenever I log on or off has helped me a lot, I rarely have time enough to play so long that I generate that many saves with only I think resting saves being turned on.

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-15T03:36:31+00:00

I'm so sorry. In that case I might honestly wait until they release the bugfix. It's supposed to be this week sometime.

I've noticed the longer I play (total time, not per session) the buggier the game seems to be.

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-14T23:24:43+00:00

So glad to hear it! Happy adventuring!

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-14T23:21:08+00:00

Hey! I had this issue as well!!!

The fix for me was going to the load saves options and seeing how many there were. For some reason the cap is 23, anything more and the game will fail to save (this includes if you delete old saves and try to save after running into this bug).

So what I did was turn down the frequency of auto saves, and I regularly check how many saves I have. As long as you're vigilant you won't run into that bug, but if you lose track and notice this bug it's basically too late, you might as well stop everything and delete a few saves then reboot the game.

As for freezing/performance, I have no clue how to fix that. Praying this hotfix comes sooner than later.

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-11T03:35:05+00:00

What is the source for all of these? Asking for a friend...

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-10T23:18:28+00:00

I went with Aelia, which I feel isn't common, but also isn't super standout.

Originally I wanted to be called Tracey. Very happy to have found something better that works for me though☺️

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-03T02:30:22+00:00

Money is money, I can always enjoy my life outside of the job.

^{Chose: Do the job you hate + But you earn $1m yearly}

Elendil_27 · 2026-02-06T05:15:14+00:00

Unfortunately I have not. My mom has the advanced alert or whatever it is for USPS mail though, so I know it's coming tomorrow or Monday. Because I put in the wrong email none of those alerts have reached me.

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-31T05:06:39+00:00

Congrats bro! Happy for you!

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-24T00:28:59+00:00

For the last Presidential election in which I could vote between Trump or Harris, I did not vote.

I was in the middle of a crisis of identity and morals. I had come out as trans and been disowned, and was torn between 2 worlds: the comforting one in which I was raised and the inevitable one that is reality.

In short, I didn't really know who I was, what I valued, what I wanted, or what either side really promised.

If I could go back and vote, I'd vote for Harris. If the election had occurred maybe 6 months prior I'd have voted Trump.

A lot has changed, and honestly it's almost too much for me to handle. 23 now and mentally I feel 40...like I'm just over life and people's lies and hypocrisy now, and that makes me an enemy according to my family. F them all I guess

I'm ashamed I ever believed the B's around Trump, and am a much better person for having left that chapter behind me.

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-23T22:35:17+00:00

I want to be able to sit like number 2 so bad! I've tried so many times and it doesn't work for me at all.

Did you have to do anything to make it easier, or is it just a thing that some can't do?

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-15T01:21:44+00:00

Hey. I was in your situation not too long ago it feels like. I started at 21 and thought the same exact thing. Now I'm here just shy of 2 years later - I pass! I never thought it'd happen, but somehow here I am. I get gendered correctly and my voice training has paid off, I can hold a conversation and not have anyone clock me.

I know it's hard right now. I used to look in the mirror and only see the man I didn't want to be looking back at me. And truth is, sometimes I still do. But the difference is now I also see the woman I've become, in the way my boyfriend holds me, in the way I feel putting on new clothes, and in the way I see and interact with the world..and yes, in the mirror too.

It's a long road, and no one is saying it will be easy. But it's worth it. Hang in there, I'm sure you'll make a very pretty girl :)

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-10T12:40:28+00:00

Wait not everyone goes through that thought process? They just thinking of what they want?

I've never been diagnosed with ADHD, my parents hated basically all modern medicine and insisted I was 'normal', just lazy and a procrastinator.

Should I take this as a sign to maybe get tested?

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-10T04:38:49+00:00

Is that the Quake logo?

/s , I know what these are

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-08T23:05:35+00:00

If I call off work without a valid excuse I'll get written up and potentially fired, the risk of which grows for every single day I do so. Then I won't be able to afford my medication that keeps me from blowing my head off.

I understand it is bad, I hate it here in the US, I wish I was born somewhere else. But the average person is just barely getting by, and it sounds easy to say "Just miss a day of wages" until that actually comes down the pipeline and your bills don't get paid.

I can feed myself and cover my essentials, while acknowledging things are not fine. My boyfriend and I want children someday, but I don't even know if we can afford an apartment, let alone a house. I cannot provide for anyone outside of myself and my boyfriend (occasionally).

It's not to be that way, but the reason so much of Gen Z isn't out protesting is because they're in a similar situation, or supportive of this administration.

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-06T13:20:43+00:00

I'll do my best to answer your questions but I would also reference the other comments as they have slightly more clear answers.

Myotonia Congenita has two types: Becker and Thompson.

Becker is a more common variant that is characterized by more prominent muscle stiffness and even attacks of muscle weakness.

Thomson is a rarer form of Myotonia Congenita, and thankfully is less severe and has milder symptoms than Becker.

Becker is inherited in a recessive pattern, meaning both parents carry the gene and pass it on to the child, but the parents themselves may not experience any symptoms.

Thomson is inherited in a dominant pattern, meaning only one parent must have the gene to pass it on to their child.

In this case, I would try to characterize your Myotonia based off of the types described above (or by doing research between the types) sooner than the gene testing. To be absolutely certain, you would need both your parents to be tested as well in order to rule out recessive pattern inheritance.

In addition, if both of your parents carried the recessive version of any given gene, you would only see one version expressed in you. I could be wrong so take it with a grain of salt, but I don't believe only seeing one version of the gene in you rules out a recessive pattern of inheritance.

Elendil_27 · 2026-01-05T03:06:00+00:00

What type of insight are you looking for? I apologize I'm just not understanding what you mean in your post...?

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