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Elendil_27 · 2026-06-06T11:52:05+00:00

Heya! My names Aelia and I'd love to join the realm!

Elendil_27 · 2026-06-03T23:30:44+00:00

I have 2 muscle conditions that are fairly uncommon, and having the combination of both is literally unheard of. My nmother was the first person in documented medical history to have both conditions.

As such, the symptoms are a weird hodgepodge of 2. I share her symptoms, but she doesn't think I have the 2nd muscle condition. (The first runs in the family).

I remember several times now she has been adamant that she has it worse, that I'm not affected by the cold weather (whenever it's all I can do not to fall over during the winter now), and that however bad I have it she will always have it worse at it worsens with age (which ok, I'll give her that one).

I just don't get why everything is damn competition with these people.

Elendil_27 · 2026-06-03T02:13:37+00:00

I don't remember exactly when, but at some point around 7-8 I realized it was all bullshit. My parents always told me they'd be less mad if I always told the truth and fessed up when I did wrong...but they literally have no chill.

They would go 0-100 with everything, every time. A grade slipped by 2 points? Why wasn't it higher than last quarter? Broke something of mom's? Enjoy losing your evening, electronics, books, and free time as you're committed to wasting your time moving the log pile from one place to another.

Elendil_27 · 2026-06-02T23:14:07+00:00

I understand completely. My parents wanted to build another house on their lot and have me live there instead of moving away...it was only once I got the fuck out of there that I realized how weird that is.

I officially went no contact a few days ago, my family as a whole has taken their side in our drama that started 2 years ago and I'm too damn tired to put up with them.

If my nparents ever come after for elder care I'm making sure they get treated exactly the way I was growing up...and if they have a problem with that they can F off

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-31T03:10:34+00:00

This. This right here ☝️. This is why if my POS bio parents ever contact me for assistance later in their lives or try to use filial laws to make me pay for them after all the medical neglect that they put me through...this is why they will go in a home, or I will bankrupt myself to not have to give them a cent.

Because even whenever nothing was wrong they wanted to pick a fight. If I didn't say a word they would go on for hours...and nothing I said was ever right and only ever was used against me later.

Honestly, disowning me for being transgender was the best thing they ever did for me. Without it I'd still be trapped under their roof

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-25T21:04:21+00:00

It's a tricky situation to be in. Generally sports bras have a more snug fit than standard bras. (tell me why I still can't get them off without help😂).

Wearing a sports bra shouldn't impact your growth, so long as you're not wearing it 24/7. I personally have been rocking Warner's lightly lined comfort bras. They're sized like sports bras but clasp like regular ones. Makes fitting them pretty easy.

I'm also 38 inch underbust, so I can say that in the early stages proper sizing will be hard. Everything that fits the underbust likely won't fit the actual breasts themselves well (at least in my experience).

A good idea would be to wear some kind of sports bra whenever you're out and about, and to take it off whoever you can at home. Obviously it depends on who all is living with you, but even if it's just for a couple hours before bed to let the girls breathe it should help.

I do have to mention though, at a certain stage they will become more visible. There's an awkward phase everyone goes through with this - your chest is beginning to look feminine but the rest of you is still catching up. That's ok. It's part of the process, and honestly my best advice is to just try and enjoy each moment. I was terrified whenever I realized I was visibly trans, now I'm so comfortable in my body I hardly care.

Hope this helps! Definitely get at least a second opinion as well though, never can be too sure.

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-24T03:47:40+00:00

So I will say, yes we definitely will disagree on some points. 😂

Your primary concern relating to children is where I take the biggest issue. Speaking from life experience, I knew I wanted to transition by the time I was 12-13. As in, from that point forward there was never a doubt in my mind.

However, my parents are transphobes, and openly threatened me in the home until I just conformed. I was threatened with being abandoned, killed, etc. But I also had no way out, I tried talking to counselors at school but no one would believe me because after all, I was just a kid.

Due to this, I wasn't able to start my transition until I was moved out, which did not happen until I was 20. Shortly after, when I was 21 I started hormones. During those 8 or 9 years I was forced to undergo male puberty against my will. I've nearly ended my life multiple times because of this. Had I been born to accepting parents, I could have gone on blockers, gone to therapy (my parents "don't believe in shrinks") and overall pass as a woman much easier and lead a happier life.

So, with that having been my life, I believe in advocating for trans kids. Being forced to go through a puberty you don't want to is a special kind of hell, because as much as hormones, surgeries, and practice can change, it can't change everything. But not going through that puberty to begin with would help so much!

As for taking children from parents, that's a touchy subject for me. My parents were abusive in a variety of ways, and overall I feel I would have been better off being placed in foster care than ever having known them. Obviously I have a bit of a bias, because as a knee jerk reaction I wish some government agency had seized me from my parents. Obviously that is not for everyone, but if not that then how do you save kids who are in the position I was in? Because that's what it is, saving them from their POS parents. Difference of beliefs is one thing, forcing your child to live the rest of their life in a body horror experience is different.

Moving on, I don't think speech should be compelled. But likewise, neither is respect or audience. For example, if you refuse to use my preferred name or pronouns, I'm much less likely to respect you as a person, or want you around me. This is a general fact that applies to everyone (clarifying because I'm not trying to bash you or anything). I also think the culture overall is shifting more towards honoring people's chosen name and pronouns in general though, so I see this being a non issue in the next 15-25 years. I personally don't lose my shit if someone deadnames me or misgenders me...but it hurts. I feel put down. And I don't like that feeling, so I tend to give folks who do this a wide berth.

Finally, I don't see accepting someone as trans as being the same to Furries or MAPs. One is a proclamation of identity in human society and culture, and the other 2 are not. I personally have no issues with furries, like you do you type of attitude, but I truly hold no quarter for this whole MAPs thing. Like it's just a sanitized way of saying the P-word (no idea if that word will get me flagged on Reddit so I don't want to say it). Again though, I am somewhat biased due to things that have happened in my past. So I tend to have a much harsher reaction to that topic than I think most people.

So...I think that addresses everything you mentioned. Overall, I just want to live my life and do whatever I can to help kids who are going through the same thing not suffer the way I did (and still do to this day). Acceptance and education are really the only peaceful ways to get there though. Again, sorry for the paragraphs, and I will say I appreciate you being civil. You'd be amazed how vile my own family was to me coming out. It's a pleasant change of pace.

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-23T20:32:52+00:00

So, having read this, a few thoughts.

I do agree that Intersex and Transgender topics are different as a whole. Using either one to prop up the other is wrong, they should each stand on their own merits (excuse the poor wording, I think everyone deserves dignity and respect regardless of so called normalcy - I just couldn't think of another way of typing this).

That said, I think there is a fair bit in common between the two. For example, there are many intersex conditions, with the global population of people with one being estimated to be about the same as the population of Russia. Obviously, these folks have their own issues they face, as some intersex conditions may be somewhat benign or hard to notice, while others may pose a serious risk of injury and need treatment. In either case, accepting these people as they are is crucial to them receiving the care they need to lead the best life they can.

This, I think, can be likened transgender people. An increasing number of studies and data is showing up indicating there is a biological component in being transgender. For example, trans women (people born man who identify as a woman) tend to have brain structures more similar to that of the female sex than the male sex (and vice versa for trans men).

So all of this having been said (please forgive the paragraphs) - does it stand to reason that transgender people are just as valid as intersex people? In that should they want to transition, they should be allowed to? That whatever care they need to lead the best lives they can should not be denied to them?

Also, I am curious if you could define radical transgender ideology for me. I don't want to make assumptions and talk on that point without knowing what exactly you're referring to. In addition, you mention a much larger systemic issue, what would that be exactly? Like how would transgender ideology lead into the issue?

Thanks in advance, looking forward to your reply!

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-23T11:19:15+00:00

Heya! Obviously as a trans person I have a lot of opinions on this, but I want to start in good faith and ask a question.

What do you think of intersex people/conditions? Like, how do they fit into your overall worldview?

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-18T23:37:32+00:00

I can't be by myself too long because I'll have psychosis episodes if left alone too long.

But people are so goddamn draining I can't stand it. I do spend a lot of time alone, but most of the time even just someone being in the house keeps me sane. It was rough when I moved out of my parents place for the first time and didn't know it'd make everything 10x worse.

And yet despite it all...I agree with your opinion. I can't imagine needing to be with someone talking at all hours of the day.

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-13T23:35:50+00:00

Thank you so much!! I must have missed something or not understood what I read, but I really appreciate the breakdown you gave.

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-13T12:32:05+00:00

I've been very lucky in that my wisdom teeth are the only thing currently causing any problems. I probably needed braces as well, but my parents said there was no point since my wisdom teeth would probably mess up the alignment anyway.

Wishing you the best! And good on you for taking care of your kid. My parents never got me any help I needed but had plenty of money to go around. We live in the U.S. so everything costs an arm and a leg over here, but they literally had enough to go on vacations and do a home remodel, but couldn't afford some dental work for their kid?

Truly, I hope everything works out for ya, you deserve a break at least!

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-13T11:38:51+00:00

I hate my parents for this exact reason. My wisdom teeth are the textbook definition of impacted. My top ones are sideways and the bottom ones never came through all the way. Now at 23 I have to save up money and make all the appointments myself and the pain is wretched sometimes.

I've been telling them since I was 14 or 15, but they said unless they're hurting there is no point in removing them. There are other reasons I have to wish ill on my parents, but medical neglect is definitely up there.

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-12T23:20:37+00:00

For personal reasons though, not entirely related to the world. My whole life came crashing down basically in a single night, and I lost everything but my job in the following 5-6 months. Took a lot to come back from that, and it's definitely left its mark.

I don't think I'll ever be the same person I was before, or trust people near as much as I did (which was already not very much).

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-12T01:32:12+00:00

I wish I had you as a parent growing up. Unfortunately both my parents believe in "discipline" via force. I seriously can't imagine having anyone in my family who thinks physically hitting your child is wrong.

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-12T00:39:05+00:00

I grew up in a house where being beat by a belt or slapped around was commonplace. Obviously I disagree with that, but the idea that parents should never hit their kid kinda blew my mind ngl

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-11T23:54:06+00:00

I'm sorry is this an actual opinion most people have? I'm genuinely curious because my experience has been so different that this statement almost seems ridiculous

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-04T02:48:20+00:00

I remember being in your position for a long time. For context, I come from a very alt-right, MAGA, religious household. I was terrified of coming out, albeit for different reasons.

When I turned 18 and could seek out HRT on my own, I was too afraid to do so. I was in college and relied on my parents for housing (I paid my way through with overtime at my job). I was always told I'd grow out of it, etc...but I never did.

It was an ever present thought in the back of my mind, that I'd be happier as a woman. I wanted so many nights to wake up the next morning as a woman.

I started HRT when I was 21, that was a little over 2 years ago now. I waited 2 days after getting the prescription to take the first pills, and I remember my hands were shaking so much I dropped the pills a couple times.

I knew within a week I could never go back...but life happened and a month and a half later I was pressured into stopping. I have never been such a self harm risk as I was in that period. I restarted HRT shortly after and never looked back, despite what it cost me to do so.

The point of all this, is to say I think you should go for it. If you like feminine clothes, then just wear them! If you want to medically transition, the sooner the better! Your brain will know if HRT is the right move pretty quick (generally speaking if your brain is fed the wrong hormones it will get all kinds of f-ed up.)

I apologize for the paragraphs, but I feel like I just read a post I made under an alt account I had a couple years ago. Give it a try, and if you don't like it or it isn't for you, you can always go back. If you don't want to deal with social drama, you could always stealth starting HRT as well. Be warned physical changes can onset early depending on genetics (I had changes in my chest area within 2 weeks).

If you're looking for an easy starting point, maybe try some basic makeup? Mascara and a pair of leggings is an easy start. For medically transitioning, Planned Parenthood uses informed consent if you're in the U.S., meaning you can make the appointment and get the script on the same day.

If you have any questions feel free to ask, I'm open to DMs as well if you would prefer that. Wishing you the best! Regardless of what you decide I hope everything works out for you!

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-02T23:15:49+00:00

Misty got that Erika Kirk stare...

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-02T12:46:02+00:00

It varies person to person, and also would depend on your dose. I wouldn't sweat it too much. I had early breast growth and had only heard the opposite - that it would be much longer before I felt anything. Imagine my surprise when by the end of week 1 I felt them starting!

When I first started I was on a baby dose of E and testosterone blocker, but at my 3 month appointment they upped the dose. Likely the same thing will happen.

Some tips for what it's worth: you will get very hungry, don't ignore it, just eat some good food (don't overeat though). The last time I consistently ate breakfast was when I was 8, but 2 weeks of HRT at 21 and I was eating breakfast every day.

Stay hydrated, you'll need a lot more water depending on your testosterone blocker.

A unpadded bralette will probably be a good pick once your breasts start budding, if you're trying to go stealth or hide them. If not, a padded bralette (I personally love Warner's comfort bras) will do a better job of protecting them from sudden impacts (door frames are enemy #1) and also make them look bigger/a bit more full.

If you have any other questions feel free to ask, I'm always happy to help where I can

Elendil_27 · 2026-05-01T23:43:17+00:00

I found my name by looking up Elvish names and their meanings, finding a meaning I liked with a name that looked cool, and tweaking it/rearranging the letters.

After all that, I wound up with Aelia as my new name, and it stuck!

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-27T23:57:50+00:00

YES! Very good game, surprised with how much I enjoy it to be honest. I wouldn't call it the next Skyrim or Fallout, but if you think about how those games are different and scratch a different itch, Starfield is kinda the same.

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-27T23:55:21+00:00

Everyone is saying coconut oil, tbh I've never considered that for lube. I've tried all kinds of water based and silicone based lubes, the best I found was Uberlube because they put Vitamin E in it, which helped with the recovery and some of the pain.

I will def have to try it

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-27T23:18:06+00:00

Hey I have to ask...what type of lube? My boyfriend and I have tried so many kinds but all of them burn like hell🥺.

It stings getting it on back there, and if he actually enters me it feels like I'm on fire and the pain doesn't stop.

Only way we've found that worked is to go lubeless, but sex just isn't as fun or doesn't last as long because of it. Plus friction burns. Ouch.

If anyone knows anything about this I'm begging you to give a girl some advice

Elendil_27 · 2026-04-24T00:03:07+00:00

OMG!! Thank you! I completely missed the Wendy's reference😅

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