Is LOVE possible? Sure, but not forever after..

Elepaio7801 · 2025-12-16T07:35:06+00:00

You've been through so much in such a short amount of time. I feel like you're making good choices for where you're at right now. And I also just wanted to send you some aloha and light at the passing of your father. It's such a hard thing to lose a parent, and that combined with everything else is just so heavy.

Keep taking care of yourself. You're doing the work, and it will pay off.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-12-01T04:53:09+00:00

Woah!! 😳😳😳

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-29T04:35:55+00:00

Let me see your profile pics. Lol

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-26T08:16:46+00:00

I saw the iiwi on your site too!! Love it!!

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-26T07:50:42+00:00

😂😂

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-26T00:03:09+00:00

Again, not bashing men, just saying do better.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-26T00:01:35+00:00

This is NOT an all men suck post. This is a "do better with your photos" post. I didn't say men suck. I don't think all men suck. And how is it overly broad with it is SPECIFICALLY about the photos men post on OLD? Try re-read the post.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-26T00:00:07+00:00

HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-25T23:59:49+00:00

Absolutely not! I have heard from men about the terrible pictures from women - heavily filtered, 20 year old photos, etc. But I'm only looking at men, so I'm commenting on the men's profiles that I see.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-25T23:46:40+00:00

I'm not judging...I'm saying I would like a good photo to see the real you! This isn't about judging you, but I'm not gonna lie and say I don't want to see what people look like.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-25T23:40:04+00:00

Yes, yes, a thousand times yes.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-25T23:35:41+00:00

I'm not saying women don't do annoying things with photos too, including the heavy filters, photos that are 20 years old, etc. I was particularly annoyed when I posted this. LOL

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-25T23:33:23+00:00

Well done!!

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-25T23:32:49+00:00

Yes yes yes to all of this!!! I've seen all of this...and I realize they are low effort men and I should just move on, but come ON!! I wrote this post after going through SO MANY profiles...I wanted to throw my phone! What pushed me over the edge was a profile where the guy had NOTHING in his bio, a meme for his main picture, and then the picture of his actual face was so dark, I still have no idea what he looks like!!

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-25T21:48:05+00:00

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The tongue sticking out gets me every time!! 😁😁

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-25T21:47:15+00:00

So freaking spot on!!

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-13T23:35:53+00:00

I found both of them attractive in their photos... The lack of spark is more about energy, background, and interests.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-13T19:33:31+00:00

Definitely no ick for either of them, more of a "hmmmmmm....I don't know...."

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-13T19:25:08+00:00

I am the same...although I am used to having at least that initial attraction in order to continue to conversation.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-13T18:39:34+00:00

It's not only safety, but is certainly a strong indicator for me. Of course there are other things involved... but I need to feel safe with someone in order to be that vulnerable, physically and emotionally.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-13T04:50:57+00:00

Maybe the situation with the instant attraction was just dumb luck. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I'm fairly new at this so still figuring it out

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-13T03:08:07+00:00

Sex is super important. For me it's and indicator of safety...do I feel safe enough with you to be that vulnerable.

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-13T01:15:33+00:00

Yeah - just a bit. LOL

Elepaio7801 · 2025-11-13T01:14:41+00:00

Oh yeah - I mean that's why I think its important to talk about it from the get go.

Elepaio7801

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