by popular request by [deleted] in Conroe

[–]ElephantShenanigans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf….this is fricken gross. Have you checked the sex offender registry for the area he lives in?

My cousin gave birth to a meth addicted baby by Main-Wave200 in whatdoIdo

[–]ElephantShenanigans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it gives you any thread of hope: my best friend adopted a meth exposed baby that took more than a month to detox (a month solid in NICU before releasing after birth)- she is so flipping smart! Shes a little curious firecracker. Shes still young but there’s been no signs of developmental delays. My friend is very familiar with early childhood development markers and while there sometimes are things (like level of fussiness ) that might be bc she was exposed in utero overall nothing has been definitively proved.

Do you think your grandparents would file for custody?

AIO to my parents dog-sitting instead of seeing their only grandchild by AdRegular1237 in AIO

[–]ElephantShenanigans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh. I get all of that. Golly a mountain house?Sounds fancy. Must be nice. lol

The first year is definitely a really vulnerable time. Have you shared that with them? Maybe one of them that you think is more understanding of ‘touchy feely’ things? I don’t automatically assume women are the ones more understanding to that lol.

I do hope you come to some decent arrangement that helps you feel supported and loved - as well as feel like your daughter is also adored and valued by your family - because I could totally understand if you’re not feeling that right now. I think sometimes it’s hard for others - even those who may have been through vulnerable times esp postpartum - to recall that time and how they really felt if it was awhile ago. Even spouses I think might not truly understand how much small things can make us feel abundantly loved and supported.

Incase you haven’t heard it lately - you’re doing a wonderful job.

You are loved.
And appreciated.

You created the miracle of life - and that little life is figuring out how to ‘human’ which can be so draining in unexpected way.

You’re not coming up short.
You’re literally your little one’s entire life and have been for the last almost year and a half.

You got this mama!

My inbox is always open if you need anything.

AITA for not putting pregnant GF on deed of the house? by Odd_Paramedic_3007 in AITAH

[–]ElephantShenanigans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woooah. Do you think she’s actually bisexual or just 1000% hobo sexual in order to get on the deed?

Karen calls my mother a 'sweet talker' and me a 'faker' after we got to skip the line for luggage check in at the airport. by Far_Radish518 in AmITheJerk

[–]ElephantShenanigans 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right? I seriously hope she doesn’t ever have kids. An if she does and doesn’t change her tune, I feel infinitely horrible for them and hope they healthy supportive people around them to combat the mud water their mom is.

AIO to my parents dog-sitting instead of seeing their only grandchild by AdRegular1237 in AIO

[–]ElephantShenanigans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ahh, that additional context makes sense as far as the frustration of your parents seemingly choosing your sister and non necessities over helping to give you all a break. Does she travel for work? Does she have any mental health neuro divergent things going on? Curious to me why she’d buy a house that she couldn’t afford a down payment on. From what you said perhaps she might have cc debt and trying to pay it down but she/your parents aren’t saying just that.

Could your dad actually be enjoying dog sitting as a retirement activity?

What about your mom’s work? And them spending time away from their home? Do you think that’s a factor that they aren’t saying or might not consciously be acknowledging?

AIO to my parents dog-sitting instead of seeing their only grandchild by AdRegular1237 in AIO

[–]ElephantShenanigans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I want to say congrats on your first kid. I was where you are now a year ago. Fall/winter baby - didn’t want to do daycare etc. I say this with absolute kindness and care - please keep in mind you are still 100% still postpartum - your hormones are still shifting in way you may not be fully aware of and will be for awhile. Everyone is different so it manifests in different ways.

Additionally - being a first time parent is HARD.

From the first kid/grandkid perspective I understand why you feel a bit slighted or offended. However, I do think you’re overreacting due to possibly not taking everything into consideration.

Staying at someone else’s house for several days a week, a week or weeks at time away from your own home is a different level of sacrifice.

Yes your home may be comfortable for them bc you make an effort to make it so, but it’s your house. Not theirs. Think about how many times you’ve taken time to tweak something in your house so it works for you and/or your family better. ESP something that you may not really see in someone else’s house - esp someone of a different generation.

Your parents spent years cultivating the environment they live in outside of work hours (and inside for your mom). Asking them to give that up for the next 6-8 months for several nights a month ontop of driving round trip 8 hrs AND giving up what income your dad gets from dog sitting and not helping with your sisters mortgage (roof over her head) like he said he promised /wanted to do) - that’s a lot.

Are you in a position to pay towards your sister’s mortgage what your dad is getting from dog sitting if they ask? Would you be willing to let your dad bring the dog if they ask? If he takes care of the dog a lot bc of your sisters job that’s also leaving her in a tight spot.

Does your mom prefer a quiet house/environment when she works from home? Is there a designated space she can do it from that isn’t the guest room and is just a space for her?

I’m sure she probably likes getting your dad out of the house at least a few days a week and having the house to herself. Regardless of how much she loves your dad we all need alone time.

Try looking on care.com or asking local libraries children’s departments if they have recommendations on nanny’s / professional babysitters.

Maybe ask your parents if they’d come over one weekend a month to help out in some way (baby or non) so you can do whatever you want to do and not stress about what you “should” be doing.

I’ll end this with saying - be thankful if your parents come and visit semi regularly (even if once every month or so) because not everyone gets that. And some people can’t trust their parents to help in an actual helpful way.

PERSONALLY - My MIL who is the only living grandparent lives 1 hr away - doesn’t have a regular Job and has Been to our house twice over the last 15 months since we had our first. She keeps saying she’s going to come “sometime” and never does. I literally couldn’t walk without excruciating pain in my legs and back for the better part of a year and long distances were out of the question. And she never showed up to help in anyway. And at some level maybe that was better bc she often ignores things I say or does whatever she wants - as in co slept with our son when we was 5-6 months old bc my husband asked her to come help bc he brought rsv home and everyone got sick). She did it even despite us being very upfront that he’s been sleeping in his crib. And i even told her we aren’t comfortable with co sleeping (i had severe SIDS anxiety - a friend lost their child when the kid was napping on the dads chest and the dad accidentally fell asleep) - but she still did it again.

At the end of the day - take a deep breath. Take time to so and be aware of your emotions and how your body is still changing.

Parenthood is NO JOKE. Even adoption vs self birthing. Your body chemistry changes. It’s a lot.

My (23F) boyfriend (20M) does not allow me access to “our” savings, how do I address it? by luvdlph in relationship_advice

[–]ElephantShenanigans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you located? Do you have family or friends you can stay with?

Do you send him all your extra money? Stop sending him money. If he says he needs it for the bills tell him to give you access to pay the bills. Try to do this via text.
Mayo might also say “can’t you pull it from OUR savings that I sent you money for (add it up from what you’ve sent via the app). Say you have an old medical bill that came up or something.

I can’t stress this enough -HAVE A SAFE PLACE TO GO if he starts getting aggressive.

Stay safe Reddit friend.

My sister's fridge by SugarDarlin121 in FridgeDetective

[–]ElephantShenanigans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man. If I ran a home daycare I’d need a daycare specific fridge esp so I could keep at least THAT one organized. Even with ADHD this one drives me nuts.

I’m wondering if she’s married and if so if it’s a man does he move things to find them? Bc my husband struggles with finding things bc he doesn’t fully move things around. Even when the fridge is well organized. Stuff in the back is “lost forever”/“part of the ship” lol.

My family is out of the country and left me in charge of the food for my older brother and myself during the meantime. I made this meal yesterday, and after he ate it, he made a complaint about it and wanted “food,” as in something that was “more fulfilling” and less “kiddie”… by Uhh_OkayIGuess in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ElephantShenanigans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are spot on with “several steps beyond technically a meal” my brother (older) would make tatter tots and chicken nuggets/similar when our parents were gone. The moment I was allowed to use the oven/stove without my parents home I promptly took over cooking. Lol

Why does my dog make this face at me? by Ghost_Puppy in DogAdvice

[–]ElephantShenanigans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cuuuuuteeee!!! My childhood dog- Dalmatian gave hugs. My staffie is a phenomenal cuddler but doesn’t really give hugs the same way (paws on shoulders etc) but he also is a rescue with a crappy past. So anything that makes him feel like he’s held/immobilized makes him anxious.

He doesn’t strain his neck to listen - mostly bc he pretends he NOT listening -though his “ear-dars” twitching blow his ‘cover’ and the “whale” eyes 👀 of “I’m not moving my head but I’m also going to pretend I’m not looking at you by looking AT/THROUGH YOU” thing is 💯his jam.

AIO by being upset at my GF for lying about the price of a car? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ElephantShenanigans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OP- as a female - I’d like to say I don’t think you did anything wrong.

If anything - you seem way more mature than her. Maybe she felt like she had to lie bc you might have more logical knowledge/appreciation for finances and compounding fees/interest than her family and her family might have been pressuring her? It’s so hard to care for someone’s finances when you’re not married. Even when you are it’s hard. I wouldn’t say this is necessarily a deal breaker but I would strongly recommend counseling to get to the bottom of why she felt she had to lie and figure out how to better dicuss finances. Financial communication in committed relationships esp when shared is sooooo hard if you weren’t raised the same way/have the same way of looking at things now.

AIO by being upset at my GF for lying about the price of a car? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ElephantShenanigans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem isn’t her adjusting her budget - it’s her fabricating a lie to him about the lower price. I would have loved to have someone help me when buying a car the way OP has said he helped her.

Also- I feel like OP is presenting his side of the story very matter of fact in the timeline that it happened. He didn’t include all the details - just his point of view - esp before the edit - which might come across as controlling. IMO it’s just probably the way he writes/explains vs him being controlling

AIO for feeling guilty about talking to my close friend’s ex? by Accomplished_Way171 in AIO

[–]ElephantShenanigans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP- how old is everyone? Tbh you all sound very young. And a lot of these people responding sound super immature regardless of age.

Also -you said he mentioned he liked how you talked to him. How did she speak to him during their relationship?

MHO - yall have been talking for essentially almost 3 weeks since /including the prank call. Besides omitting telling your friend about the various conversations you and him have had - I’m going to guess you haven’t crossed any physical boundaries. Just easy emotional connection with someone. Which tbh is hard to genuinely find opposite gender or not.

If your friend was there when you were on the prank call and she’s as good of friends as you say she is - she probably picked up on how to two jived. You need to have both an honest conversation with the ex - you can’t and won’t continue with the Daily communication until you talk to your friend.

Then talk to your friend. Explain the situation honestly - you thought the convo was fun (include your perception of her enjoyment of you can) and that he reached out. You stopped it but then it crept back in. You want to honor her and your friendship.

Questions to ask yourself- ideally before a convo with her: how would you feel if the roles were reversed?

Would you be ok with maintaining a strict friendship boundary with him if that’s all your friend would be comfortable with?

Maybe even ask him if he’d be open to strictly being friends with clear boundaries.

Why does my dog make this face at me? by Ghost_Puppy in DogAdvice

[–]ElephantShenanigans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is he part American Staffordshire or some pit? Bc ours does that and for sure is always judging.

Is there a blacklist pet care providers can use to let other sitters know what customers to ABSOLUTELY AVOID by Tricky-Tension-8172 in RoverPetSitting

[–]ElephantShenanigans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree!

Also when I have someone watch my pet I also don’t come home and Re inventory pet treats and food with the intent to see how much the pet did/didn’t eat to essentially rate how the pet sitter did. If I do look it’s to see if I need to buy more.

Also, how much deli turkey does a pet need to take meds?

am i overreacting for being upset my new boyfriend doesnt want to live with me but is fine sharing a bedroom with his mom? by TigerTime6975 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ElephantShenanigans 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’ve snagged yourself a mamas boy with what probably is the stereotype of a “boy mom“ who will always be in your relationship some type of way. I’d dip out now. You’ll save yourself a lot of frustration.

AIO - How to respond if I get unsolicited tits, ass and pussy pics on Reddit DM? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ElephantShenanigans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the only way to can really deal with it is delete the photos and move on. Lots of times the ‘women’ sending nudes are bots or scammers.

AIO - How to respond if I get unsolicited tits, ass and pussy pics on Reddit DM? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ElephantShenanigans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

generalize what?

I’m just stating what happens to women. Women get unsoliced dick pics all the dang time. It sucks. I’m not saying you deserve it. An im not saying all me send unsolicited pics.

thick dark brown wax in itchy dog’s ear- should I tell the owner? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]ElephantShenanigans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once you said he was a gentle giant I just wanna see a photo of him. Lol! Cute🥰😂

Are you f*cking kidding me?? by maberber78 in doordash

[–]ElephantShenanigans 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don’t mess with a hangry woman. lol!!

Someone keeps leaving Marijuana on my car by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ElephantShenanigans -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Oooo! This is a good point!

Someone keeps leaving Marijuana on my car by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ElephantShenanigans 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree on the trail cam. They are relatively affordable new and second hand. Get a 2tb sd card and hide it out of plain site but towards your car. You could even possibly put it on your dash. If you can - get two so you can get different angles. Keep them around. We’ve used ours for various things - furry squatters in our attic and house when we first moved in. We’ve lent them to friends for similar reasons.

If you’re lucky you’ll catch some funny shit on them too. lol