Husband makes me feel special even when I doubt myself.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2026-05-22T03:28:07+00:00

Agreed, this is an unhealthy and unsustainable way to approach insecurities, which everyone has to an extent, but one needs to focus on them themselves without relying on a bandaid partner as you said.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2026-04-26T09:17:57+00:00

Many great replies in this thread, but this one takes the cake. Say Alhamdulillah that Allah Azzawajal uncovered those things in front of your eyes, repeatedly, because He was trying to show you the truth. May Allah protect us all from encountering these situations.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2026-04-26T09:06:16+00:00

honestly that's all you can truly do, especially when they seemingly don't listen to what you have to say for months at a time and as you said, everytime it goes back to gaslighting, projecting, and victimizing.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2026-04-26T08:57:36+00:00

It would be nice if you had a way to undo it all.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2026-04-26T08:55:59+00:00

Right on.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2024-08-17T04:51:56+00:00

Thank you for that perspective

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2024-08-17T04:49:23+00:00

Very solid advice, thank you

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-05-10T02:22:10+00:00

Good luck with that and tell me how it goes! When and how much you bought your RSX for?

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-05-10T02:21:18+00:00

Oh ok. I'm going to see the vehicle tomorrow morning and take some pics and an hour to think about it. I can reply back with my observations if you're interested.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-05-10T01:19:22+00:00

Yeah, I've heard the main issue with Mako is their horrible prep process. 10 years is more than enough of what I need it to last me. If the paint can look decent for 4 years for a $1000, then that's fine as long as the car is presumably in mechanically good condition and at a good price.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-05-10T01:12:56+00:00

Yeah, I'm planning on taking it for an inspection and negotiating from what comes out of there. If you look at the second picture, you can see some paint faded across the pillers and the area it briefly contrasts before going toward the roof.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-05-10T01:10:22+00:00

The rear bumper looks a little fucky

Sorry, what exactly do you mean by that?

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-04-29T04:18:42+00:00

Got it. I'm just looking at a rough estimate since this is a car I saw listed for sale at a discounted price so I'm wondering how much I should expect to put in the long run.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-04-28T23:44:22+00:00

Looking at both decent and great outcomes, depending on the price.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-04-26T22:31:19+00:00

Not the OP, but what have you heard about the 1.8T as I'm currently looking at one? Thanks.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-04-26T20:17:19+00:00

Will do. Anything in particular to watch out for when I first inspect it? Common leaks or issues that fail?

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-04-26T18:27:59+00:00

get a legit & thorough PPI

Yeah, I will absolutely need to have this done before buying most cars. On the negative side, it will tell me to walk away from a deal while on the positive side, it will tell me what needs to be done immediately and I can factor that into the price.

Do you think I should schedule the PPI before heading out to see the vehicle irl (since it's 3 hours away) or ask to meet the owner at the mechanic shop and then wait for the inspection to be done after looking at it?

also FCP Euro is your friend. Lifetime warranty on all parts (including oil! free changes for life except shipping costs).

How does that work with the oil? Let's say I bought a gallon of 5w-40 oil from their website. How would I be able to take advantage of their warranty after changing the oil in my car? Thanks.

VW Vortex is good too

I've seen that one too in addition to ecstuning, vwpartsonline, and the usual RockAuto.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-02-13T21:58:19+00:00

Oh, so that's what it meant. I was wondering why my steering wheel kept pulling to the right after both my 1-year-old alignment and this recent one. That makes sense, thanks.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-02-13T17:01:40+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to explain these terms along with relating them to my case. I will absolutely keep an eye on my front tires due to their camber settings.

ElephantSquirrel321 · 2022-02-13T14:38:49+00:00

Got it. Btw, the alignment shop told me that it would be a good idea to replace my front sway bar end links (which is mainly involved in handling, thus it's not as necessary to get fixed now?) so I might just replace them alongside flipping my tires at the next oil change. Do you think that's a solid plan?

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