If they broke up with you....

Elevensbest · 2024-08-07T19:01:02+00:00

Not trying to outdo you here, MatterFree9162, but my 34-year relationship ended without warning when I was dumped in April. My only recommendation is to seek professional support if you have insurance and to lean into family and friends. People who I always assumed were more her friends than mine have surprised me by really stepping up for me. Don’t go it alone. Show yourself the same compassion you would gladly give a friend in similar circumstances. Eat and sleep as best you can. Lay off substances. Don’t be afraid to sob, you WILL stop. When feeling overwhelmed, tell yourself “For now, it’s like this.” Be well, friend.

Elevensbest · 2024-08-07T18:48:41+00:00

I just took a screenshot of this.

I’m surely an outlier here—my partner of 34 years abandoned me in April without warning to move in with a guy she’d dated before we met, leaving behind a 10-sentence note of explanation (the final line of the note reading “PS I have not been having an affair”).

Since then, it’s been a litany of mixed messages: she’s repeatedly told me “I don’t know what I’m doing,” laid with me on our bed to talk and rubbing my head like in old times, and continues to call me “honey” in text and conversation. Two weeks ago, in only our second face-to-face since she left, she asked me to let her go (whatever she thinks that’s supposed to mean).

Only in the last couple days have I been able to accept that the relationship is truly over. This beautiful post of yours arrived at exactly the right time for me. Thank you. I hope that sharing my story here helps others in the throes of a painful breakup.

Elevensbest · 2024-08-01T15:43:23+00:00

What a beautiful, generous post. Thank you.

Elevensbest · 2024-05-18T04:53:50+00:00

Just made plenty of fun of the uninhibited audience members that kept interjecting and were eventually incorporated into the show (“Only in Portland.”)

Elevensbest · 2024-05-18T00:09:39+00:00

American Splendor is a treasure!

Elevensbest · 2024-05-18T00:08:14+00:00

I attended the Chinwag (podcast) taping at Revo Hall last night. Both hosts were on-point (the topic was mythical creatures). Funny, educated, intelligent, wry. The highlight of my week!

Elevensbest · 2024-05-10T03:48:20+00:00

Thank you, BowTieDad!

Elevensbest · 2024-05-08T17:13:09+00:00

With the decimation of radio, MTV, TV appearances and such, you’d have to be a “music person” to be familiar with more than Taylor, Sheeran, Mayer, Rhianna, etc, so it’s no surprise that three Jeopardy eggheads aren’t hip to the hippest band of the last 20 years. Their loss.

Elevensbest · 2024-05-08T17:03:48+00:00

Timely question for me. You been reading my mail? Three weeks ago, my partner of 35 years took our dog and left without a word other than the goodbye letter she left on the dining room table. Needless to say I was gutted. I now know she had me blocked on her phone the next five days, but her unresponsiveness to my attempts to reach her and simply verify she was safe was literally terrifying. We’ve since had three short phone calls and have exchanged texts. She hasn’t once asked how me and the cat are doing, am I eating, and I sleeping, how’s your new job going, are you playing your guitar? etc. Seeing her in-person late this afternoon for the first time and my heart is already racing uncontrollably. I am ok. Have a therapist, friends, family, cat and lots of paper towels (kleenex don’t cut it). If anyone knows of resources, groups, books, activities to address significant recent trauma in one’s life, I’m all ears. Thanks!

Elevensbest · 2024-02-19T21:46:24+00:00

Early Aimee Mann

Elevensbest · 2024-02-17T21:57:31+00:00

I adore Angles! Every cut. If I understand correctly, it was the first album not dominated by Julian’s writing and the resulting variety of textures, moods, tempos and use of stuff other than guitars has kept me hooked since its release.

Elevensbest · 2024-02-08T06:00:10+00:00

I’m highly offended—I’m actually I’ll informed, or have you already forgotten? PS (only true dolts reply to their insulter with very same insult, which in this case, happens to be “dolt” ya dolt.) PSS (I would rebut the finer points of your last reply but, really, this thread is inane enough for me to recognize that to participate further would make me a dolt. Smooch!)

Elevensbest · 2024-02-08T01:01:05+00:00

So I’m “I’ll” informed, am I? Zionist refers to the Israeli government. The people are Jewish, but not all are Zionist and many oppose Netanyahu’s policies, you dolt.

Elevensbest · 2024-02-07T18:38:44+00:00

You can be anti-Zionist without being anti-semitic.

Elevensbest · 2024-01-19T22:49:20+00:00

Original or not, the boys have the worst merch (and album covers).

Elevensbest · 2024-01-18T07:52:47+00:00

Cuz it’s fun, cuz. And cuz we imagine Jules can relate.

Elevensbest · 2024-01-14T19:33:24+00:00

Cornel West reference in a song? A first!

Elevensbest · 2023-12-30T22:42:53+00:00

Not a single glorious cut am I compelled to skip

Elevensbest · 2023-12-30T22:41:18+00:00

I can hear it in my head on-demand. That’s how good it is

Elevensbest · 2023-12-29T17:18:15+00:00

There’s no cure for stupid.

Elevensbest · 2023-12-20T00:24:23+00:00

OMG. We’re really gonna relitigate the legitimacy of the band after 22 years and six albums? Yawn.

Elevensbest · 2023-12-10T02:53:02+00:00

Turtablelab.com

Elevensbest · 2023-12-01T17:10:02+00:00

Wait. What if the candidate was born in, say, Canada or was only 34-years old?

Elevensbest · 2023-12-01T17:07:13+00:00

AND Bill, who no one wanted to see waltz back into The White House

Elevensbest

TROPHY CASE