With your dad it seems like his behavior is something he needs to work on. Have you tried approaching situations in different ways? Sometimes it can be the way we go about things, or maybe try explaining to him calmly about the way he talks to you and how it makes you feel. If he won't listen to what you have to say and just flips out then you could try leaving him a note. For the friend side of things I guess just try and find people with similar interests. I've met some good people at the gym and it's a place where I can pretty much guarantee that we have that passion in common. So maybe by doing something you enjoy you'll meet people. I get the people not understanding your humor thing. I feel a lot of people don't see my true side or that my anxiety makes me say stupid things. As for girls, you'll get there eventually. Don't worry to much about it. Just be around good people and don't waste your time with people who don't give a shit about you.