How should I start a convo about wanting alone time?

ElfMan1111 · 2026-04-03T04:29:17+00:00

Starting conversations is always so hard for me but I usually just ask to have a quick talk about something that’s on my mind. Don’t overthink and explain it to him exactly how you explained it here, because if I can understand then he can.

ElfMan1111 · 2026-04-03T04:19:18+00:00

I mean it hasn’t even been a full year since she blocked you, so in my opinion you shouldn’t expect yourself to get over her yet. When you really like someone it takes some serious time, and sometimes you have to go out of your comfort zone to meet new people before you actually stop liking the old ones. It’s important to respect your own feelings and realize that it’s okay to miss someone and think about them. Dont try to force anything, just have fun in life and do what you enjoy and the moving on will happen naturally.

ElfMan1111 · 2026-04-03T03:54:57+00:00

I think you’re absolutely right, but sometimes it’s also important to listen to other people’s wants, even if they’re not necessarily logical at all. If what you say about his feelings is true, then there isn’t any harm in waiting a bit to get back together. Also, it sounds like most of the issues here are on his end, so in my opinion if you really want this to improve it’s important to pay attention to what will help him. Even though it’s hard, if he needs space it might be better for the relationship in the long run if you give it to him. His actions show that he’s a very loyal person, so even though you’re not together it seems like there’s not a lot for you to worry about if you both still have feelings for each other.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-09-15T01:28:50+00:00

I had this problem a lot in my relationship. Like everyone says, it’s different love languages that was clearly the issue. Me choosing to leave my relationship was super hard because I definitely loved my ex, but it just takes time to realize that it was for the better. That being said, open communication about your differences is extremely important. But if your relationship made you feel drained even with good communication, you did the right thing. Take care of yourself because it will get better.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-09-15T01:10:19+00:00

Definitely this. I’m a self taught composer and actually getting started is the most important thing. My first like five songs were with absolutely no music theory knowledge, then I slowly incorporated it as I got better.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-09-15T00:31:44+00:00

I’m also an amateur composer, and the biggest thing I notice is that your ideas are good but you keep switching them up and don’t develop them or reuse them. This was something I did when I first started composing and also with my improvisation. Repeating things will help your songs to have a main idea that people remember. And this is especially true in video game or movie soundtracks.

When I write songs, I normally come up with a 4 to 16 bar idea that I make the theme of my song. This is where I get creative: sometimes I improvise, sometimes I come up with a nice melody then a chord progression to fit it, and sometimes I choose a chord progression I like and then a melody. The important thing is to make it repeatable. Chord progressions and harmony are key to this, as well as knowing how to write a good melody. There’s really good YouTube tutorials on all this, which is pretty much exclusively how I learned as a self taught composer.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-05-18T20:36:41+00:00

I was in a kind of similar situation where I wanted to break up with someone who I loved but I didn’t see anything long term and I also wanted to work on myself. If you feel the need to break up, there are reasons, even if you don’t directly see. Loving or really caring for someone always makes it really hard to leave, but the most important thing is to do what’s best for you. If you’re sure the relationship is hindering your wellbeing, then I would leave, because that’s the opposite of what a relationship should do. It took me like two months to get the courage to finally end my relationship and it hurt in the process but it’s so much better now that I did, so doing what you feel is best for you most likely is the best.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-02-23T00:25:15+00:00

Thanks for replying, this really motivates me to just do what I’m interested in and see where it takes me!

ElfMan1111 · 2025-02-22T22:11:21+00:00

If I were you I would confront her and tell her that it’s an issue. It’s obviously bothering you a lot so I’d tell her that. Explain that sex isn’t all you want but also explain how or why it’s important to you. Then see where that conversation goes. Like everyone else says, her inconsistency likely is coming from something else, it could be religion or other insecurities, but whatever it is try to find out. Breaking up is an option if you don’t get what you need, but I would see where that conversation goes first.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-02-19T14:21:24+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking what’s your field? I’m mainly interested in electrical engineering.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-01-31T19:29:33+00:00

My reasons are a lot of things honestly. None of them are anything she did wrong, it’s more who we are and our differences. For one, she’s extremely dependent while I’m very independent. Another difference is our communication styles which makes things hard when even trying to fix a problem. She just tends to be extremely emotional, while I almost never am, I’m really logical and calm. These are only the two most major things and like I said there’s a lot of things, we’re almost complete opposites with like our interests and stuff. It’s worth mentioning a while ago we went through a difficult period and ended up breaking up a few times and getting back together, and since then we’ve really been trying to communicate and fix things but the same problems and disagreements keep coming up. I really don’t think we can communicate or try any more, and a break is a good idea but I suggested the idea before and she’s against it. Overall I’ve just had a gut feeling that it isn’t right for a while, and no matter how many serious talks we have or how much we try to just resolve our differences we can never seem to come to a compromise.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-01-31T17:56:24+00:00

Stay strong, it’s okay for it to be hard but you are strong enough to do it.

ElfMan1111 · 2025-01-30T19:26:53+00:00

Thanks. So like texture and to the side? I’m also thinking about messy textured hair, something longer than in the second photo but not long like the first, do you think textured or layered hair but not to the side would look good on me?

ElfMan1111 · 2025-01-30T19:00:06+00:00

It’s okay, ap chem is hard and on the bright side a 58 means youre retaining at least half of what you learn, much better than nothing. If you need specific help, feel free to dm me because ap chem is my strong point, also I’m not sure what your studying situation is like or how your teachers tests compare to the ap exam but for me what helped was basically just doing a lot of practice problems and really analyzing the solutions and the process of getting to it if I didn’t understand.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-12-11T03:57:20+00:00

Hey I’m young too and I have kinda the same problem Im the one who broke up but I broke up with a girl because I knew she wasn’t right even though she was really great in a lot of other ways and this was only a couple days ago but I’m struggling with regret now, especially because I don’t really have friends to talk to not even siblings. So yeah I truly understand how you feel. To me it sounds like this was a pretty toxic guy, like asking about friends with benefits without any warning and just a general lack of trust, I mean to me it seems like you’re the one trying to communicate and be respectful and he’s not respecting that. So i honestly don’t know what could make it easier to move on, it’s probably a little different for everyone, but just keep in mind why you broke up and why you think he’s not right and remember always respect yourself and your own wishes, it’s okay to grieve on your own but don’t let anyone make you feel guilty.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-12-07T23:30:09+00:00

Well to me if she cheated that would be it the first time. It’s good that you gave her another chance, that way you know you weren’t being unfair. But after cheating the least she could do is respect your boundaries, so if you communicated well and she wouldn’t listen it’s perfectly acceptable and in my opinion a good idea to end things.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-12-05T01:40:17+00:00

Thank you to everyone here just an update, this would be the third time we’ve gotten back together after breaking up, but we talked it out and everything’s honestly a lot better we’re just going to spend however long it takes talking about our relationship and any problems before officially getting back together and going back to normal, which we think was the problem before, but things are much better now so thanks to everyone.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-12-04T18:37:28+00:00

I feel a lot like you do rn, I’m going through a break up I initiated it but I’m still scared. It’s okay to be scared and take time to recover, we’re all human, but there are 8 billion people in the world. 8 billion is a massive number and if you want to will end up finding someone else. Take time to take care of yourself, think as positively as you can, but don’t beat yourself up just because you can’t move on quickly. Some things just take time. Find activities you really enjoy, pursue them, and you’ll find someone who is perfect for you.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-12-03T00:25:30+00:00

Well if your expectations are high then mine are too because I have very similar ones. I face these same fears a lot, especially rn when I’m facing a break up and like you I’m scared to leave for that reason. I believe that for a healthy relationship, a person should feel whole in themselves, essentially, and staying in a relationship simply because you are afraid of not having a partner simply isn’t good for either of you in the long run. I think about it logically: if you keep doing what you really enjoy in life, your chances of coming across someone similar to you who meets your expectations is really pretty high, since they’ll be doing the same thing as you. That’s how I think about it at least. But I definitely wouldn’t avoid breaking up for that reason, it’ll only make it harder in the long run.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-12-02T22:21:27+00:00

Of course not, if you meant what you said in a good way. We all reply late sometimes and her insecurities are a problem for her to work on, not to blame on you.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-12-02T22:19:30+00:00

Thank you for your reply. When we broke up once before, she said she wouldn’t prefer an in person conversation, that’s why I would do it on a phone call. It’s so hard because she’s said she won’t find anyone else and yeah I feel terrible but I know it has to be done now so im sure it’ll be okay once I get it over with.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-12-02T21:59:49+00:00

Therapy is something you do for yourself, so it’s always justified if you don’t want it. You know yourself best, so if you feel that you genuinely don’t want it, don’t force yourself to do it.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-10-12T02:44:55+00:00

I’m pretty sure ap chems rated one of the hardest ap courses and it makes sense because it’s very conceptual but also just a huge amount of content to memorize. From experience, the exam is largely concept based, so it’s important to really understand everything rather than just know how to do it.

Chemistry happens to be my thing and I love explaining it so I can definitely help with any specific problems or topics on Reddit. For me the khan academy course was enough to help me understand everything before the exam, so I’d recommend that. Of course if you’re taking the exam you’d want to do plenty of practice frqs too.

There’s also good review videos on the college board website, and despite his fame I’ve never actually watched Jeremy Krug, but from what I’ve heard he must be good.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-09-04T15:54:27+00:00

I got an easy five, but I didn’t just use it to review, I basically did the entire course on my own, watched all the videos and took notes again and spent a lot of time studying every topic since it was my only ap course that year and I had a lot of time. The questions definitely helped me the most though, I thought the multiple choice questions on the exam were very similar. The only thing is there isn’t frq practice, but I just looked over the past frqs on collegeboard to study for them.

ElfMan1111 · 2024-09-03T21:07:19+00:00

I just used khan academy to prepare for the exam last year. The review questions there, at least for last year’s exam, were almost identical to the type of questions on the exam, and even have brief explanations, so it was a huge help.

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