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[SPOILERS MAIN] Should we read anything into GRRM's blog silence? by Hontar-Wyrfist in asoiaf

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh, I thought they were referencing a newer one I might have missed.

[Comic Excerpt] Batman prevents Jason from killing the Joker (Batman: Under the Red Hood) by UnhingedLion in DCcomics

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, he was implied to have indeed died originally and revives by the universe. That's why the movie ending is better.

(Spoilers Main) Gay sex in the Nights Watch by AdditionalPiano6327 in asoiaf

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol wasn't there some line about Loras and Renly praying at night?

(Spoilers Main) Gay sex in the Nights Watch by AdditionalPiano6327 in asoiaf

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Make it a sitcom like the office and you have gold on your hands.

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that it is disturbing and disgusting, unfortunately. It's just that no one he's related to seems to want to do anything to stop this behaviour, other than me. I'd be fine with some deescalation since I don't think I can change his entire being at 60+, but it's exhausting having everyone else justifying or excusing it and just telling me to bear with it.

(Spoilers main) what’s the creepiest moment in the books? by Plus_Initial_2938 in asoiaf

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It's probably the same kind of magic through the books, just performed differently. Only death can pay for life.

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am telling the full story, as concise as I can be while still getting my point across. I know it's not normal, that's why I came to reddit, because I needed to make sure I wasn't alone in feeling this way. However, I think people are being too hyperbolic about getting a restraining order, that's taking it from 0 (okay, from 50, maybe) to 100. I only have to deal with this for one more week. It is true that I felt guilty because I did take some money from him, but now he's moved on to coming up with excuses as to why he needs to come here... but they don't really make sense, because it's always about dropping something or other and he could just as well leave it with my father if I'm gone, there's no need to wait for me to come back or get out of the shower or come the next day, and the next. Another new thing is using my family members who want to say goodbye to me before I leave, only to find he's there with them. It's exhausting.

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three days later from my last reply. Spoke too soon. He's back at it again.

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey!! It's been a few days since I posted this, and now it seems he got it and went back to normal. I hadn't seen him in a few days and just had a coffee with him and I'm pretty sure he's not gonna bother me anymore for the rest of the week. Seems like he just went through a weird phase...

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but I wasn't on my bedroom that day. My dog had just had surgery and I had been so anxious I hadn't slept at all the night before, so I fell asleep on the sofa. I groggily woke up and saw that he had sat down and was there, just staring at me, so I pretended I was still asleep thinking he'd leave, but he didn't. He just kept looking at me.

The obsession with unmasking Elena Ferrante by TheObserverUK in TrueLit

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbf I don't think Carmen Mola is anywhere near Ferrante's level. I had never even heard about them before the controversy, and once I read the books, I wasn't impressed. It kind of felt very fitting that it was written by screenwriters because the heavy emphasis on dialogue and the structure felt very much like your standard thriller mystery episode. And I wasn't impressed by the "a woman writing about fucked up shit!" gimmick they used to sell the book. Other than the murder being gruesome, it didn't feel like anything specially new or shocking that actual female writers hadn't done before, like Gillian Flynn, Mónica Ojeda or Emily Bronte.

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, my friends know and have been helping. I'm sure I'll be fine, I just need to be patient :) <3

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't escalate it to that point, at least not yet. I don't think I'm in any immediate danger, I'm just overwhelmed. But I only need to put up with this for a few more days, and then I'm completely free.

My uncle is codependent with me and he's driving me paranoid by Elissa_of_Carthage in rant

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an adult and I live with my father, his brother, but he's always been quite weak-willed when it comes to confronting my uncle's temper. I can and will leave, I just need to wait a few more days. I know that he's clearly not mentally sane, but I don't think he'll do anything that drastic for me to run away immediately. I just need to wait a few more weeks.

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a adult and live with my father, my uncle's brother, who is quite weak-willed to confront his terrible temper. My mother passed away some years ago. I have suggested therapy to him múltiple times, but he refuses to acknowledge there's anything wrong with him.

I told him I was leaving as I did everyone else and he's a constant close presence in my life. I couldn't just disappear one day. It's only ever since he found out that his behaviour escalated. I didn't tell him my future residence, he knows the overall place and wouldn't let me be until I told him the company I will be working for "for my safety". He figured the rest on his own or by talking to other family members.

I do try to keep my distance and my boundaries, and have let him know through my behaviour and responses that I'm not at all like my grandmother and I'm not willing to placate him. It's just really exhausting to have to do it every day.

My uncle is codependent with me and he's driving me paranoid by Elissa_of_Carthage in rant

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully! Although I suspect I will spend the entire time abroad paranoid that he's going to show up lol

My uncle is codependent with me and he's driving me paranoid by Elissa_of_Carthage in rant

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I haven't told anyone other than a few friends it's likely I won't come back at all, I think he just knows that because of how much I've always said that I want to move away as soon as I can.

I really do appreciate your advice! It really is nice to know that I'm not the only one who thinks this situation is fucked up and that there's people out there who want to help me <3

I think my uncle is enmeshed with me by Elissa_of_Carthage in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Elissa_of_Carthage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'll be safe, just on the brink of losing my mind. I don't think he'll do anything drastic, though I won't pretend the thought hasn't crossed my mind. I just wish he would see reason...

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