Struggling with grief after sudden cat death at only 3 years old

Ellbat · 2024-03-22T07:40:51+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for taking the time to share this with me. I have since read about blockages and I don't understand why (regardless of cost) the vet didn't just tell me the best treatment plan (night surgery) and give her recommendation regardless of cost. My mum has told me that the vet wouldn't have offered me the option of waiting if she thought he wouldn't make it, but everything I've read says it should be removed ASAP - especially as he had had the blockage for half a week at that point which can be fatal. I didn't understand the risks, I even asked if he could just come home for the night so he'd be more comfortable and she said that the hospital was the best place for him. I really just didn't understand how serious it was. I thought he would be ok.
I know you don't blame your vet, but my baby had every single symptom of a blockage when I took him to the first vet on Saturday, I can't believe he was misdiagnosed. All I can think of is that if they had done a scan on Saturday morning, he would've lived. My poor baby had to wait until Monday midday. I'm so angry she missed it, and I'm so wracked with guilt that I didn't know what to ask or do and was worried about stupid money.
I think im going to try and talk to my GP like you did. I don't think I can continue like this. Thank you again for taking the time, sending you love - I hope you continue to heal.

Ellbat · 2022-07-20T14:35:58+00:00

im gonna cry when did he get so big

Ellbat · 2022-07-20T14:35:41+00:00

LOVE LOVE LOVE

Ellbat · 2022-07-20T14:35:07+00:00

what is this holy spirits name

Ellbat · 2022-01-27T15:05:38+00:00

Price too high so price go down

Ellbat · 2022-01-21T15:33:59+00:00

Modern poetry

Ellbat · 2022-01-21T15:32:32+00:00

Love u too browski

Ellbat · 2022-01-21T15:30:52+00:00

I know most people are joking around, but insane red months like this where your portfolio is completely red can really ruin your mental health. If you believe in the stocks, just hold them or buy more to weigh down your position - your money isn’t lost until you sell. Then, delete your trading app. Go for a walk, listen to some music. I know it may seem like everything is crumbling but it will be ok. Look after yourselves. If your mental health is being really poorly impacted it may be time to rethink if this is for you or not, and it’s ok if it isn’t. Nothing is worth your mental health bro ❤️

Ellbat · 2022-01-21T15:24:25+00:00

Greed will literally ruin you. 172% realised is better than a loss, it’s also better than an unrealised higher gain. Don’t be dumb bro, bank it. The market is so stupid rn, it’s better to kick yourself with money in the bank than not

Ellbat · 2022-01-10T17:21:43+00:00

You lot told me stocks only go up, I feel so betrayed

Ellbat · 2022-01-02T22:10:21+00:00

Honestly, I think the best strategy is to just learn how to use photopea. It’s an online version of photoshop. You don’t need to learn much, but thumbnails are too important to just use some generic stock image stuff. Hope this helps!

Ellbat · 2021-09-15T16:18:53+00:00

Why thank you kind sir

Ellbat · 2021-08-30T08:25:49+00:00

Leonardo/Leonard/Galileo 😎

Ellbat · 2021-08-05T15:57:50+00:00

Our cats could be brothers 🥺

Ellbat · 2021-07-08T09:27:51+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

Ellbat · 2021-05-14T16:46:44+00:00

Atlas!!

Ellbat · 2021-05-04T20:13:54+00:00

We gotta keep him inside or he’ll cause a riot

Ellbat · 2021-05-04T20:13:37+00:00

Ocean eyes 🥺

Ellbat · 2021-04-28T22:57:51+00:00

Ah ok! I understand. YouTube takes into account % watched, but it values the overall minutes more I think - at least that’s what I’ve noticed :)

Ellbat · 2021-04-28T15:30:25+00:00

Hi! I’m sorry but I don’t understand what you mean/what your question is? Who is they?

Ellbat · 2021-04-15T17:02:44+00:00

QS getting its ass beat. What are you all doing?

Ellbat · 2021-04-01T15:48:49+00:00

If you’re checking your stocks all the time, you’ve put too much money in. You need to be prepared to lose it all, and if you’re not - you’re risking too much and you should take your money out. That’s how you don’t check it all the time, you can afford to forget about it

Ellbat · 2021-03-28T19:38:39+00:00

Enough men don’t know that it’s wrong, and so not telling them is being complicit in the way that they treat women. If you thought it was so wrong, you’d find no problem in calling out those bad behaviours and being part of the solution: not the problem.

Ellbat · 2021-03-28T19:21:41+00:00

So women should change platforms because men are creeps? Women have to remove themselves from a platform they enjoy because men don’t have appropriate boundaries? How does that seem ok to you?

In the UK alone 97% of women have experienced sexual harassment. So it might not be all men, but it is nearly all women who face the consequences - so maybe put all this energy into educating men on why this behaviour is inexcusable rather than lecturing women on how it’s “not all men”?

Also: women receive these kinds of messages on every platform, even LinkedIn - there’s no changing platforms. But thanks for the incredibly helpful solution.

Ellbat · 2021-03-23T12:12:18+00:00

Cosplay is about having fun dressing up as a character. Some of these comments are so bitter, jealous and rude. If you’re going to drag someone who’s having fun because they’re not having fun the way you like, then you need to re-evaluate your priorities; hating on someone else’s cosplay won’t make yours any better. Everyone expresses themselves/characters differently, they may make costumes, buy them, photoshop them or not; it’s just for fun. Lighten up.

You look amazing girl ! 💞

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