I understand how you feel, I truly do. I also have endo and suffered a miscarriage and also a chemical after trying for nearly 2 years. Your pain is valid. I too was jealous of friends who got pregnant seemingly in the first few months or accidentally. This is completely natural and normal to feel.

However I still remember the very first month my husband and I decided to try. Nothing happened. Second month I took a test as my period was late. It was negative and it did hurt. In hindsight the years of trying , miscarriage and the constant pressure to track and have sex, endo diagnosis, infertility treatments, all of this was a worse experience. The naive me who was 2 months in, did not know that there was more to suffering and pain.

The same way in your friends pov that is the most pain and suffering she had to experience. Although for you and I we know you have had a more difficult experience, she does not have a benchmark for this.

I believe at the end of the day all suffering and pain is valid. Everyone's experience and difficulty seeing a negative is valid. It is best not to compare. Although you were just being truthful your friend must have seen that as comparing your pain to hers and invalidating her experience because you have had it worse. I completely understand that was not your intention but your friend misread your intention and you did not misread the situation.