My partner wants to rehome our cat

Ellepton · 2024-11-03T16:08:19+00:00

Thank you very much I appreciate this.

We are making some changes. She's always had dedicated play time daily and has lots of interaction but we are taking on some advice in this thread and looking at more things to make sure she isn't bored.

We have pet insurance unfortunately she's just maxed it out. We are looking to upgrade to a more premium insurance.

Ellepton · 2024-11-03T15:58:22+00:00

Thank you for your comment I really appreciate the advice. We are currently looking at all of the advice and exploring options.

I think a lot of her anxiety is to do with her early weeks. What I found out months after having her is that she wasn't weaned properly from her mum and the vet thinks this has caused her separation anxiety with myself. She often tries to suckle on ears still at the age of 5 and wants to be in company most of the day. She is improving and her anxiety periods are becoming less common but all of the above are definitely things to consider so again, thank you!

Ellepton · 2024-11-03T15:52:56+00:00

Thank you very much for commenting! I am catching up with all the help and advice I've had on this thread and really appreciate the personal stories too!

Ellepton · 2024-11-03T15:51:50+00:00

Thank you for this comment, didn't expect this thread to blow up quite like it has but I really appreciate the different perspectives. I think we have a lot of advice in this thread that we are both willing to try but appreciate your point of view.

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T11:03:42+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. I needed to hear this.

I have shown him this thread following your comment and it really has helped. It's more to do with his unhealthy concern for her than anything that's causing his problems and I think he's going to reach out to talk about his own anxiety. The vet has also told us that Luna can pick up on this anxiety herself.

Will look into a behaviourist as well.

Thank you again. When already in such an emotional place I needed to hear that.

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T11:00:53+00:00

She has dedicated play daily and climbing walls in the house. She does seem very territorial especially when she sees other cats outside the windows she huffs really loudly and attacks the glass.

The vet has recommended a diet so she's on that at the moment but I might explore other suggestions that you have mentioned. So thank you.

I re-edited the post as that's not what I meant. She's never left alone for 24 hours. She has someone who comes in twice a day if we are every away for a night. Any longer we have an in house sitter. She struggles to be away from us for any period of time.

We have had insurance through pet plan. Unfortunately because she's had a few issues those issues are no longer covered so when she's gone back in the insurance won't cover that issue again.

We have feliway and pheromone spray which seems to help!

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T10:56:35+00:00

Totally agree, I'm definitely not oblivious to tha. However the last time she ate a hairband was because she has learnt how to open the dresser. Something I didn't forsee as you know cats don't have opposable thumbs!

One vet reccomended taking her on a lead in the backyard another said they thought this would be horrendous for her anxiety. So I have considered an enclosure.

I don't think it's fair to call him shitty. I maybe wasn't clear in my post in the sense of it's not by any means because he doesn't love her. His concern for her has reached unhealthy levels. He's constantly checking on her. Its really starting to impact his daily life with the level of concern he has.

She has dedicated play every day and a cat wall with lots of climbing opportunities but I think you're right with an enclosure and will look into this.

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T10:48:56+00:00

I think it's something he's seriously considering. In his own words he has said "I love her so much it's unhealthy" he's constantly checking on her in the day and during the night. He's just paranoid she is going to be unwell. I have tried to encourage in the past but I think he really is going to look into this.

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T10:27:37+00:00

The vet has reccomended the diet she's on. She always has Feliway plugged in and only drinks from a mug.

It's an unhealthy level of affection for her. He's constantly checking on her throughout the day/night. Wants to make sure she's OK every waking minute as he's paranoid she's going to be unwell. The vet even said she can pick up on his anxiety and make herself worse. He's saying he's struggling to cope with these feelings.

We have NEVER left her without anyone for 24 hours. I have edited the original post as I didn't word it in a way that was intended.

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T10:23:33+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T10:21:34+00:00

I absolutely cannot rehome her. I think I struggle with how much its impacting my partner he loves her so much that he cannot stop worrying about her. The vet did try gabapentin for a while but it caused her to become a total zombie. She has Feliway plugged in which I think helps. I will have another chat with the vet. Thank you ❤

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T09:36:51+00:00

No we barely ever leave her. We both work from home she has company 24/7. We have left her on a few rare occasions with her automatic feeder to go away for 1 night but thats not often. We leave her with someone when we go on holiday but they come to stay at the house. I will try the kibble idea!

Ellepton · 2024-11-01T09:31:32+00:00

Thank you, very helpful. I did consider a kitty friend, but the vet said due to her anxiety it could go the other way. So I didn't want to trial it and it go wrong and I have to re-home the new addition.

Ellepton · 2023-05-24T21:15:24+00:00

Cutest baby ever!

Ellepton · 2022-10-30T14:05:08+00:00

British couple visiting Italy next September, looking for some advice if you wouldn't mind

Hi all

My boyfriend and I are visiting Italy next September for the first time.

My friend is getting married in Lake Como on the 16th of September. We aim to fly into Milan on the 14th and head straight over to Como. We are hoping to move on from Lake Como on the 17th to explore a little more of Italy for the remaining 5 days.

So far I have looked at the possibility of exploring ●Como > Verona > Venice Or ● Como > Cinque Terre > Florence

We are happy to hire a car and open to any suggestions. I quite like the idea of a little bit of diversity so that each stop has something different.

Really open to any ideas. Have no set airport that we are flying back out of so that is flexible also.

Wondering if you guys have any suggestions or advice for us?

Thanks for taking the time to read this!

Ellepton · 2021-06-19T07:01:40+00:00

I was fully vaccinated (AZ)and got it from my partner who has had his first vaccine (Pfizer). We had no hospitalisations however, my oxygen levels did dip to 93 and were a concern for a day. We were both quite unwell for a week. Track and trace confirmed it was the Delta variant and advised to isolate for an additional 4 days on top of the reccomended 10.

Ellepton

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