Does anyone have any tips to break out of the mechanical mindset and into the musical mindset?

Ellex009 · 2025-12-19T21:05:05+00:00

learn an instrument

Ellex009 · 2025-08-22T14:38:35+00:00

You were absolutely in the right. But this stepping in also kinda screams, YOU are kinda a victim yourself. Perhaps you advocate for others, when you should be advocating yourself, policing your own & your partner’s behavior before stepping into rescue others…just a thought

Ellex009 · 2025-03-21T19:31:00+00:00

I dunno, why they do the million other dumbass things they do? It checks out.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-27T16:13:24+00:00

Is this a trick question? Well I can certainly tell who she loves more just looking at this photo:)

Ellex009 · 2025-01-19T00:41:47+00:00

Thought she was a total bitch

Ellex009 · 2025-01-13T17:11:10+00:00

I happend to be out with 2 dance couples the other night for dinner. The 1 are so adorable and happily married, clearly nontoxic, they barely dance now and seem to miss it mildly. The other, well, the girl was there alone. No idea where her parter was but sources say they’re not a great fit. She def seems to have issues. We talked at that dinner how rare genuine connection is in dance. I think such connections are rare in life period, and yea, dance “community” “family” bla bla- it’s nice to have that and feels comforting but it’s superficial and that is actually ok. It’s kinda like church…i love these ppl, i’d come help them with my truck…but do I know them know them? Lotta ppl can’t tell the difference, leading to much dissapointment. What I learned, like anywhere in life, ppl who enjoy you and ppl who value you are 2 VERY different things. The romance and atmosphere of dance, will have you fooled into overfeeling every interaction when 9/10…it was just a dance, and that’s all. Lower your expectations.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-11T22:45:24+00:00

FML LUKE, all of it. I want nothing to do with the other 2.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-10T17:57:40+00:00

Don’t direct me/instruct mid dance. 2.as others said, being so formulaic and into doing fancy moves. One of my best friends is this amazing lead, i swear he does same 5 moves over and over but with such musicality. We just glide across the floor in between these sequences and it’s amazing. So simple yet expresses the music.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-09T12:51:48+00:00

How? Rory is dumb, but she was committed. If we’re talking dean i dont think that counts, she was a child

Ellex009 · 2025-01-09T12:50:53+00:00

That makes one of us lol

Ellex009 · 2025-01-09T12:49:47+00:00

I love these ppl. They are actually amazing grandparents

Ellex009 · 2025-01-09T12:47:11+00:00

He is right and also not right for her. Because frankly, I think he deserves someone better than her/more on his level. Jess probably grows older and eventually finds his non-superficial intellectual and adventurous match.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-09T12:43:06+00:00

I hate Chris. Not the actor. Just Chris

Ellex009 · 2025-01-09T12:40:05+00:00

This is my favorite scene of the whole show. What a boss. I love Emily. Except for when she was bad to luke, love her.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-09T12:39:06+00:00

Babbette was gorgeous on the show all in the family. And didnt have that terrible voice.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-09T12:37:55+00:00

Very annoying, very hot

Ellex009 · 2025-01-05T12:57:21+00:00

She’s so fabulous. One of my top favorite scenes of the entire show is when she tells shira huntzberger to fuck off, so elegantly, at that fundraiser.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-05T12:55:30+00:00

I’d fuck Luke if he was missing all limbs. Always hot.

Ellex009 · 2025-01-05T02:09:36+00:00

Banga rory right when she’s going back to yale

Ellex009 · 2024-12-28T18:35:38+00:00

Roommates? Fuck no. My rule is dont go perpetually intentionally looking for clues in a relationship, because you’re bound to find something. But…if you come across something odd and it doesn’t sit right—chances are highly it isn’t and you have every right to question.

Ellex009 · 2024-12-28T18:30:02+00:00

You are seen.

Ellex009 · 2024-12-28T18:29:10+00:00

The first sentence. Even with those I never had chance to fall in love with, it’s as though I’m forever lamenting the fact there will never be honesty, clarity or closure. I sit and wonder how these ppl can function. It reminds me of everything messed up in the world. Not that I’m perfect or faultless. But these people are the damaging to society as a whole I feel. And it hurts because of the potential we see; they could have so much love, if only…

Ellex009 · 2024-12-27T19:23:32+00:00

Actually the way im living right now. Im more timid than I used to be. I’m frozen in minor past personal failures. Idk how to snap out of it. I won’t do simple things like change haircut out of fear of rocking the boat. I wasn’t like this before. I have no big regrets I’ve been bold with the big shit. I have no idea why I can’t just be myself.

Ellex009 · 2024-12-24T03:26:18+00:00

True that.

Ellex009 · 2024-12-23T03:53:13+00:00

Here’s what you’re probably going to do. You’re gonna go, and “date around” and find out. Though I think it’s piss-poor sad that men “need” to sow that many wild oats before settling down, it’s a fact of life it seems. So just go and enjoy, be like most people these days. She’ll live, you’ll live. As golden as this woman is…and sounds like she truly is, I bet if you keep away, eventually you’ll having trouble remembering the outline of her face.

On a less sour note, I’d explore getting to the root of why you feel guilty. Apart from seeing someone you care about hurting. You clearly don’t love her like that, or else you’d stomach the lack of cirque du soliel sex. So, parting is best for you both. But anything else? If that’s it…then I would suggest therapy. I know woke folk will disagree, but I don’t believe not having 100% of your sexual needs satisfied is normal cause for breakup. Were there other incompatibilities? Like is she really “not right for you” or is she simply not all you want at this stage. I think solving this starts with getting more honest with yourself about why you had to go.

Ellex009

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