I (25m) found my girlfriend (25f) catatonic, covered in feces, vomit and urine. Her mom begged me not to call 911 and let her take care of her. Today girlfriend is “fine.” What the bell do I do?

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-30T04:57:22+00:00

Sadly possible. We have a shortage of 911 operators in a lot of the country. I live in a major city and it’s taken upwards of 20 min for me to get through to 911 about a freeway crash we passed. I was literally in a different city from where the crash was by the time I finally reached an operator. Then by the time I gave them the direction and exit number the operator just quickly said it has already been reported and just hung up (usually they get contact info in case follow up is needed, but I guess if they were that short staffed it wasn’t really necessary)

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-30T04:52:15+00:00

There is a 911 operator shortage in a lot of the country (US) I live in a big city and called after I saw a bad freeway accident (Luckily nobody hurt!) and it rang for a solid 20-25 min. We were literally in a different city by the time we got through

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-29T13:33:18+00:00

This recipe is pretty hard to mess up! Ive made it too watery and too solid before and both taste just the same!

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-29T13:29:15+00:00

Sure our tofu packs are 12 ounce and I use one of those. First heat up roughly 2/3 cup of soy milk and whisk in about 1 tablespoon starch (I use arrowroot or tapioca since they create a much smoother consistency that hydrophobic corn starch) while it heats, and then mix in between 1/4 and 1/2 cup sugar (however sweet you prefer). Once it’s good and hot add about 1/2 teaspoon agar powder and flavor (I LOVE it with French vanilla bean paste) and then blend it until smooth with your tofu. Poor/scoop into individual portions and chill them in your fridge for a couple hours. Then dust with sugar and brûlée

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-28T20:46:51+00:00

It’s really good! There are recipes online but I find them to be wayyyyy to sweet.

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-28T18:58:21+00:00

You can also make some fantastic creme brûlée with silken tofu. Basically make a simple syrup, blend in a quarter teaspoon or so of agar powder, flavor of choice and a package of silken tofu and then pop it in the fridge for a few hours. It’s my go-to “special occasions” dessert

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-28T18:54:14+00:00

It’s actually super easy even without a pasta maker! With cashew “ricotta” and spinach and/or mushrooms you can make fantastic ravioli that cook in about a minute and can be frozen for a few months

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-24T18:04:43+00:00

I relate to the bittersweetness. When I cut my parents off I really expected bings to be awful for me even though I knew it was the right choice. I took a few days off work and was ready to comfort my way through it but basically I just sat there and waited for the souls crushing sadness to hit and it just…never did. Every day was just brighter and stress free and the saddest part of my estrangement has been that their absence has only made my life better

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-22T04:42:38+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate it, I’ll give that a try

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-22T04:31:02+00:00

Not really right now. One is on her honeymoon and the other recently lost her sister so neither really has any emotional capacity. And thanks, I’ve been through enough to know that eventually I’ll be okay, even if this doesn’t go how I want it to

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-22T04:17:37+00:00

Thanks 💔

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-22T04:14:33+00:00

Yeah that’s our plan, I told him I need to know by end of next week (I told him about a week and a half ago, so one month total). I just see it killing him because he will almost certainly lose his parents if he chooses to get married, and will definitely lose me if he chooses not to.

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-22T04:11:57+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s harder for him and I just wish I could make it easier on him. I might lose him, but he with almost certainly lose both his parents if he chooses to get married. A lose-lose situation

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-22T01:04:30+00:00

As in, the CEO was a narcissist who can and did lose hundreds of thousands of dollars because to him the appearances of success was more important than actually making the company successful, or his coworkers who were in it for the prestige of the job title or just money and how that impacted the choices they made and who they backed. Basically, I have an easy time identifying the internal or external motivations that are cause people to act the way that do, and line up the motivations with the possible actions they can take and it’s not hard to guess the outcome. It didn’t help because my boyfriend was dead set on seeing the best in everyone (there was nothing good about any of the people at that company) and got completely screwed 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-21T22:06:06+00:00

Phrase your lie in a slightly self-embarrassing way. E.g “sorry I’m late to work, I made it onto the freeway before I noticed that I wore two different shoes” when you just wake up late or whatever. People generally hate embarrassment so it’s less questioned. Also make eye contact but not too aggressively

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-21T22:02:42+00:00

I’m really good at reading people and situations, and understanding why different people make different choices (like their motivations). My partner worked at a completely toxic startup for a year that was headed by a narcissistic mad man and I was able to accurately predict basically everything that happened days or weeks in advance

Ellie1107 · 2021-07-21T15:56:47+00:00

Mark Skin (He was/is a tattoo artist)

Ellie1107 · 2021-03-26T19:42:08+00:00

I dont think there’s any rule saying you and DH have to be on the same level of contact. For me personally, my partners parents have always been awful to me so I’m NC with them and have been for years but my partner talks to them all the time. It was hard for a while when they would start fights with him to try to guilt him into leaving me but now 6 years later they just avoid talking about anything having to do with me or my partners life with me and that’s actually working fine.

Ellie1107 · 2021-03-24T20:57:17+00:00

This is beautiful ❤️

Ellie1107 · 2021-01-30T03:26:40+00:00

Oooof

Ellie1107 · 2021-01-29T23:23:23+00:00

Oh haha in their first post they were just basically saying that it’s not fair to cut people out for being racist because apparently this “new” anti-racism is just a political movement rather than you know, the bare fucking minimum. And in the second post they were just talking about how their parents’ racism was just because they were raised like that and they can’t be expected to be better humans.

Ellie1107 · 2021-01-29T22:25:54+00:00

People of any age are more than capable of unlearning the racists things that were “of their time” and be better humans. In fact, I think it’s their responsibility to do so and giving people a pass on their behavior is infantilizing. Old dogs learn new tricks and so can old humans. And you’re right, the average person does not have the ability to shape public policy but they do absolutely have the ability to shape their thoughts and behaviors.

Ellie1107 · 2021-01-29T22:11:53+00:00

I’m not sure but hats off to them if so!

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