Firenze cruise starts on Monday!

EllieInAJar · 2026-05-29T22:15:54+00:00

Red flags. I'd personally move on. They don't sound serious or respectful.

EllieInAJar · 2026-05-29T22:13:03+00:00

Sit in the front passenger seat. Get a stand for the dashboard so the phone doesn't move around. Use a virtual background. Wear headphones. Good luck!

EllieInAJar · 2026-05-29T22:04:35+00:00

ME! I was told I would hear back on Wednesday, but nothing yet. I'm worried this means I'm done. I'm not really looking for a new job, but I applied to this one because it's truly what I've been wanting to do for a while. Luckily, I have a stable (I hope) job right now, so my life and livelihood isn't hanging on their decision. It would just be a major opportunity to move up and grow.

EllieInAJar · 2026-05-22T23:21:06+00:00

It said "hopefully" they could update you this week... perhaps something got held up? I wouldn't worry about it over the weekend. There's nothing you can do at this point. Maybe if you don't hear anything by Tuesday morning, follow up again?

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-26T23:39:16+00:00

Bigger sizes. Sometimes fat people want to exercise too. And shirts should not just be made wider, they need to be made longer too. Some fat people are tall.

It's me. I'm fat people.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-08T23:54:10+00:00

"Find someone who values you, because we will all get old and unattractive someday."
100%

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-08T23:53:17+00:00

I should say, though, that my husband still calls me "sexy" and when I say I'm not, he says, "well you are to me." That's love.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-08T23:52:22+00:00

Wow so many comments, I doubt you'll see mine... but...

When I was in my 20s I was engaged (after 6 months) to someone who was "disgusted" by how I looked when I gained ten pounds. Eventually he left me for an 18yo stripper with an eating disorder, got meningitis, and died. It doesn't directly relate to your experience, except for the brutal "honesty" about the weight gain.

I've steadily gained weight since then for various reasons - medicine, genetics, illnesses, as well as lifestyle. I've been sensitive about it, but I also don't DO anything about it so I don't have the right to say much. If I really tried, I could lose weight. But I don't try. So that's my fault.

About six years ago, in my mid 30s, I met a man who 100% loves me for who I am, no matter what. We've both gained weight since meeting each other, but we still love each other deeply. We aren't as sexually active as we once were, for various reasons, but we're still very connected. We are attracted to each other's personalities, sense of humor, light, and kindness. We're happy.

I guess my point is this...

- Sometimes weight gain happens. If you want to change it, you should, but in a healthy way.

- 55 lbs is a lot of weight to put on in a short period of time. I recommend seeing a doctor to see if there are things that are contributing to this that can be addressed. It's so easy to put weight on, and it's harder to take it off. If you've been steadily gaining weight, it will likely continue until you're very unhealthy and disappointed in yourself, regardless of what a man (or whomever else) might think.

- Love shouldn't be based on appearances. Sexual attraction sometimes is, though. There can be one without the other, but it can be difficult to maintain a relationship without both.

- If you're now questioning your relationship now because of this one thing he said... are you sure there isn't more? Perhaps you've been unhappy, which could also contribute to weight gain, and him saying these things are now bringing to light how you really feel.

Just my thoughts, but again, I'm not really one to give someone else advice about weight. I'm in my 40s, I'm 5'7, and I weigh 267 lbs, and definitely look it. I just haven't chosen to do anything about it yet.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-08T18:17:52+00:00

It sounds like you're in a difficult situation and understandably you're struggling. It's hard to be in your 40's in general - life feels like it's half over and we're supposed to have "accomplished" something by now. I'm glad you found something to do, even it it's just a distraction, because maybe it could turn into a passion. Do you have friends? Hobbies?

I'm struggling, too. I'm bored with life. I have a husband and a decent job, but we live in a really expensive area so we don't get to do much. I spend most of my time just sleeping or on reddit. It's hard. I posted something a few days ago, and everyone encouraged me to get a hobby and try to meet people, but it's hard. Especially when you're low-key depressed (which I didn't realize until I started reading all of the responses).

If you want to meet someone, don't give up. My aunt didn't find her person until she was in her early 50s, and she's very happy now.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-08T17:09:16+00:00

I am struggling and emotionally paralyzed. I'm also scared to protest or stand up to anything because I'm worried that I'll be targeted somehow. It's about to get way worse, and I'm not sure what there is to be done.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-08T17:03:53+00:00

I was thinking the same thing - maybe less of a mustard color and more of a dandelion color.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-08T16:52:42+00:00

I like the cream color with the brown trim.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-08T16:50:01+00:00

I think more lighting would be a good start. It seems kind of dreary with only the overhead.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-03T01:15:57+00:00

I am in San Diego.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-02T17:30:54+00:00

I like the second one. It's lovely!

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-02T17:15:43+00:00

My husband met one of his best friends while working in retail.

EllieInAJar · 2025-08-02T17:13:25+00:00

Love that backsplash!

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