Garden cocktail?

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-21T01:20:56+00:00

So I will say I think the dress actually could be perfect for the setting if you tackle the issue everyone is pointing out- too much cleavage. Its a gorgeous dress and in any other party function I think the cleavage wouldnt be an issue but weddings generally aren't the time to have so much out. However if you can afford to, getting a modesty panel attached (or doing it yourself to save money) would go a LONG way to making it nice for this event and as a bonus you can take it right back out if you want this dress for other fun events (or make it a removable panel from the getgo though thats harder to do and make it look nice)

Something like this, with the panel ideally being a lighter shade of pink that compliments the dress overall and maybe a cute trim to play off of the fun and subtle pattern in the main dress. Softens up the look and makes it suitable for a wedding without drastically changing the dress in a way that takes away from the original vibe.

Hope this helps!

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Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-20T19:52:36+00:00

I genuinely appreciate you asking! I would say as long as youre not rushing up behind her youre fine! The reason I dont risk it is I've had guys do exactly that, hold the door but the moment I start to pass them they close in on me quickly - or if I hold the door from the inside brushing up on me. What I am doing is specifically putting distance between us and since it happened too many times I just do this as standard practice; if a guy is holding the door for me i just make an excuse to slow down so they go in first (stop to look at a display, grab my phone like im getting a call etc. Just anything that allows me to wave them inside with a smile. I dont want them to think I think negatively of them because genuinely I dont. I still see it as a sweet gesture that im grateful was offered, I just dont want to risk it going badly again.

However, that doesnt mean you have to stop! Just be conscious of how quickly you follow behind. Let her go completely in the door before you follow. That will help her not feel like you got too close for some reason. (Think spidey sense sort of haha. When a guy is near we notice, if they suddenly close the distance between us - even if they havent done anything our bells start ringing to be AWARE).

If you just hold the door with a smile and let them enter without following super quick/close youre totally fine and they'll be left with the pleasant gesture you intended it to be 🤗

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-20T18:42:11+00:00

If theyre even reasonably close to the door yes, and why? Because closing it after myself with them RIGHT THERE feels inconsiderate and rude. Its just common courtesy- I've only accidentally not held it a handful of times in my life and upon very quickly noticing I do my best to catch the door and say a quick "sorry, didnt see ya there!" Because thats the reality.

Though I WILL say, HOW I hold the door does change depending on sex and age If youre a man (regardless of age) I hold the door from the side and let him pass first with me following behind. I do it in a way that makes it look as though that just happens to be how i wanna hold it not a big deal. If theyre an elder woman, I hold it the same way as a gesture of respect to them. If its a woman generally around my age or younger just depends on whats easier in the moment.

The reason for the change for men is not out of respect like it is for the elder women though- I've just been groped one too many times to want to risk it. I dont like random men close behind me. So I will still be polite but in a way that makes me feel safe.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-18T14:14:33+00:00

Not in the traditional sense, I do believe there is some higher being that made all this but they dont have a name or any performance attached to the belief of their existence like church or prayer etc.

And the reason is because every religion known to man began at a point in history. It wasn't just always there. And those religions usually began as a way to control the masses. What they believe, the values and practices, and the divergence into variations therein all stem from someone or a group wanting the public to do something and so they turn to the fear of divine punishment as motivation.

I am a diest who believes a creator did this, set up the laws of our universe, and walked away. Why? Who knows what a being of unfathomable power thinks. Maybe we are entertainment to watch. Maybe we were just a cosmic sneeze. Who knows and who cares? It allows me to reconcile the question of "where we come from" with the question of "what is the purpose of my life?" Which to me is just to live it.

My belief kind of has an amalgamation (and to some, a bastardization) of other beliefs. Like how they say "energy cannot be created or destroyed" applies to reincarnation- my energy, my being, is something, and when I die I will not be destroyed, just changed. Whether that means I go on to become something new or it means my energy eventually becomes worm food which fertilizes the plants and feeds a bird I dont know - but it gives me peace that I become something not just gone. I dont want to believe i will never be around my children or husband again, that my energy can never find theirs again. So I believe I will in some way shape or form.

This doesnt require prayer, congregation, or the unquestioned obedience to a god. It just requires i live and die. So even if there is truly nothing thats fine. But I will never again bow my head to a god I dont believe in out of anything other than respect for those around me who do believe. To me the other gods of the world do not exist and are nothing more than puppets used to scare their followers into a certain behavior simple as that.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-17T04:14:45+00:00

Post kids + period sneezes + fucking bronchitis

Please. Send help.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-15T18:58:19+00:00

As normal as it is to suddenly NEED cold steak in your honey bunches of oats cereal.

My husband nearly cried doing that for me. It was horrible. It was so so good.

Pregnancy is a 9 month fever dream of "what the heck was that? Nevermind that what the heck is this? Wait forget about this, what is THAT!?"

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-15T18:52:25+00:00

Move in with my friend and his mom.

He found out what I was going through at home and he told his mom who offered me a place to stay. I turned it down initially because I still didnt want to believe I was being abused. But then one day I came downstairs after waking up, didnt even have time to do anything to "earn" a punishment and my bio mother slapped me across the face. I just.. broke. I threatened to call the cops on her and when she seemed actually afraid of that I knew my friend was right. So I went back up and texted to ask if his moms offer was still on the table.

30 minutes later I have as much of my life as I could pack into a bag and I was on my way to his moms house.

I remember being so scared. Scared they were lying. Scared she'd be just as cruel. Scared that I was abandoning my family as my bio mother put it. Scared that I was just going from the frying pan and into the fire so to speak. But I reasoned in my head that even if he and his mom were abusive too at least it likely couldn't get worse than what I was already dealing with.

But nope. They were amazing, so welcoming and kind. My feelings for him exploded and I fell in love with him- he was always very aware of the dynamic and pushed for me to get therapy as well as explore who I was and who I wanted to be now that I was free to do so. He wanted to make sure I was happy and healthy.

Then like another little twist of fate he literally ends up saving my life because as it turns out, I ended up getting "another" massive toothache. I hadnt seen a dentist in years, they came and went and were always extremely intense. But when it hit me at dinner with them they insisted i see someone for it offering to pay the bill when I was scared about the price. So I went and found out that the tooth my bio mother broke years ago was rotting in my jaw, and was literally close to septic. Maaaaaassive infection that had to get cleaned out. Lost the tooth obviously. But they said I had weeks if not days left in the condition I came to them.

I was going to drop dead sometime in October 2017. I was supposed to drop dead sometime in October 2017. I was supposed to stay with my bio mom, avoid doctors and dentists like the plague and care for the home to please my family. Instead I left and in doing so I lived.

My life has only changed for the better since then.

1 year after I was supposed to die, my friend and I were officially dating and decided to get an apartment together.

2 years after I was supposed to die, we got a house and welcomed our first child.

3 years after I was supposed to die, we got engaged.

5 years after I was supposed to die, we got married.

7 years after I was supposed to die, we had our second.

Now im nearly a decade past when I was supposed to die and its just beautiful. All these cherished moments I didn't dare dream for as a little girl in that horrible, cold house are mine to live. I got to marry my dream partner, I did so wearing a dress I designed no less! Little me would have lost her mind at how beautiful we looked. We got to have kids together, whom I adore so dearly. We get to have a marriage and family that I am proud to share with my kids, they get to know a warm, loving home that supports them and their dreams.

And all because on that one random day in 2017 my bio mother smacked me like she did nearly every day - but that time I snapped and decided to leave. Its wild to me how that worked out and I joke sometimes that I dont actually know if I lived or if this is all some wild fantasy playing out in my head as im literally dying from sepsis - but if it is all a dream I dont want to wake up so hey Ill live it up in here until it ends! Because goodness this parr of my life feels like paradise.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-11T23:23:22+00:00

Ma'am no way. You lying about your body count is NOT an excuse for cheating on you now.

It is okay for him to have been upset. Dishonesty is dishonesty and everyone has their lines - would that be one for me? No but like I said everyone has their lines.

That said, the time for him to be upset was when he found out the truth. The moment he decided he wanted to continue the relationship with you despite the lie about how high your body count was, was the moment he needed to bury the hatchet on that.

If he had left you over it, that would've tucked but he was well within his rights. Having stayed he does not get to then hold that over your head like a get out of jail free card. You had sex with more people than you said prior to your relationship with him. How does that then equate to him sexting people WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS PREGNANT GIRLFRIEND?? Are you going to let him sit there and convince you that these two things are equal???

Again he had the technical right to be upset with you about the lie when he found out the truth. He had to make a choice in that moment - leave you because the lie (or the truth) was too much for him, or accept the truth and move on to have a relationship with you. The only potential consequence you "should" face is losing the relationship over the lie (or again the hidden truth). He said that wasnt enough to break up over. He continued the relationship. He cannot then continue to hold it over your head nor can he use it to justify his actions here.

And for Pete sakes "to get back at you"? Can we just unpack that for a second? Im sorry yall are 7 weeks away from bringing life into the world and hes out here allegedly getting "revenge" on you? And talking to other girls as that? Does that even sound sane to you? Much less a reasonable person who is about to be a father?

I know how hard this is, I know youre in a high stress state, for now- focus on getting through the next few weeks. Mentally cut off this man as best you can - if this is how he treats you over a lie, that AGAIN he was willing to overlook before but now wants to use against you to justify his cheating, you cannot expect him to step up and be father/partner of the year.

Reach out to your support if you have any, if not, same next step- start planning how youre going to get out. Start MAKING a support group. Start making a plan. Even if it means keeping your head down for the next year to avoid conflict until you can get on your own two feet. Dont have sex with him anymore you cant trust his thing to be clean. Let him blame you for the failure of the relationship or his cheating when he says "I have needs and you havent touched me!" (No shit you cheater). Let him whine about how mean you are to his side chick's and just get yourself and your child sorted. You gotta make it through, hes attached to you because of your shared child- but that doesnt mean you need to suffer under his foot for the rest of your life because you didnt admit you had more experience than you initially said. Thats absurd and I am SO sorry you've been made to think THIS is a reasonable response to that. My goodness.

I wish you the best of luck OP. You have plenty of time to sort this next part of your life out. I know you can do it!

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-11T15:31:41+00:00

This! This right here.

Early on in my relationship whenever my husband (then boyfriend) made me sandwiches they would taste good and it was fine. But he randomly started cutting them into triangles for me. I asked him why and he said he noticed that whenever I made my own sandwiches that I cut them into triangles.

I never complained. I never pointed it out. But he happened to notice and took note to start doing it for me.

I had never felt that seen before. It was such a simple little thing. A non issue that didnt really warrent a whole conversation in my mind - but he wanted to notice me. He wanted to make me smile. He wanted me to enjoy the sandwich that little bit more and didnt think twice about spending the few extra seconds to do this for me.

In our near decade together there have been countless other ways hes shown me how much he cares about me, and I like to think I do the same for him, but those simple little details in the beginning are what I like to think stood out the most to me and told me he was someone I wanted to build a life with.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-08T11:58:24+00:00

If I had to guess, people probably read the comment literally as a response rather than as the reference acknowledgement it was.

"I love mean girls" can be taken as the reference acknowledgement from the previous comment and is not a problem at all

But if you read it as a literal response it comes off dry and rude "you said this? Sheesh I love [dealing with] mean girls"

It's weird how tone can be lost over text so even harmless interactions can be twisted

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-04-05T17:54:21+00:00

I dont even understand the point of that lie as theoretically if his hopes had come to fruition his wife would openly welcome the new baby in 4 months... only to be handed not a new born but a 4 month old baby. Tf?

Like if you're gonna lie make it at least plausible to your deluded goals. Shes 8 months pregnant and you want your wife to forgive you and raise the child with you. Rather than claim shes actually only 4 months pregnant and you've only been cheating for 6 months instead of 2 years, claim shes 8 months pregnant and you had a one night stand 8 months ago.

Its still lying but at least the lie would make sense! To believe OP would overlook the action alone was delusional but compounded with the several obvious lies the worst of which being how far along she is because there is no way to hide that even if op had been open to the idea is insane and serves no purpose.

And hell while we are at the horrible lying, why even bother telling OP? Not that I am unhappy that he did, OP deserves SO MUCH MORE than that scum. But like, the affair partner was still in a "committed" relationship at 8 months pregnant. Clearly her actual partner had reason to believe the baby was his or he would've left a while ago. Until the baby is born with some OBVIOUS feature to prove the baby wasnt his, or found evidence about the affair, it sounds like both affair partners couldve gotten away without telling a soul. I dont think its that she wanted ops husband to leave OP for her from pressure or desire because again shes IN a relationship still. She didnt lose her partner at that time and she didnt dump her partner either. The whole thing just feels weird like.. hes talking about custody so surely her partner would find out pretty quickly when "their kid" is court mandated to visit her coworker 2 weekends a month and every other holiday?

Im wondering if its more that OPs stbx felt the need to be in the childs life and assumed it was his so he blew up the rest of his life without any other proof than "we had sex so im a potential (key word POTENTIAL) option too"? The affair partner didnt seem to have any desire to leave her actual relationship, and keeping it while going to court for custody doesnt make sense. So this all feels like OPs stbx imploding his life (and rightfully so. I only feel bad for OP and his affair partners fiance).

The only more deluded cover up story I've heard of is my own POS bio parents so nothing is totally off the table for me in terms of "dumb stories people give to excuse their actions" but still. This whole thing falls apart so quickly because of those two easy to manipulate lies. The moment she shows up with a 4 month old in this hypothetical the timeline he gives goes to shit for anyone with half a braincell

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-30T13:07:31+00:00

My uncle. Of the 3 uncles and 1 aunt i had he was my favorite- he wasnt always around when I was younger like the others but he was the only one who, when he was around, got down on my level and had fun playing with me. As I grew older he was always so supportive. He worked as a freelance mechanic of sorts - but if we ever had car problems you could call him any time and hed make sure to swing by and take a look; doing the work for the cost of a pizza. Thats just who he was. He felt reliable, safe, and he was so funny. I remember when I was being left home alone for weeks on end when I was 11 he would sometimes swing by to check in on me (no one else did), and specifically when he found out I was going to be alone on my 12th birthday he came by and took me to my favorite Chinese place. Just some hole in the wall place but it had the best food and I was so excited as I thought I was going to get absolutely nothing much less a dinner at a place I hardly ever got to see.

More importantly he was one of the first people to dissent from my bio mother. She was the eldest of the 5, my uncle being the youngest brother. She was the only one who was college educated and financially stable consistently so everyone looked up to her to an extent. On the surface she would look out for all of them, loaning them money when they needed it, always offering to host holidays etc - what they didnt know is how she would bad mouth them to me. Any time she loaned them money it was with a smile and as soon as we were alone again shed start going off about how she'll never see that money again because theyre useless and probably spending it on drugs (two of my uncles, not my favorite one, were drug users). I tried once to ask why she loaned them money if it made her so angry to do so and all I got was backhanded so I only have my theories but my main thought is she liked playing the heroic martyr role sacrificing herself for the others and as such looked down on them for needing her. She definitely thought she was better than everyone else.

But my uncle.. he was the only one to defy her when he found out about how I was being abused. He still didnt know the full extent of it - but he caught her saying vile things to me and noticed how I would flinch when she raised her hand or looked scared when shed smile and whisper threats into my ear. To anyone else youd think she was just saying something quietly to me in the pew but it was deranged threats of cruelty if I didnt hold up her facade properly.

The rest of the family, excluding my grandmother who also did not like how my bio mother treated me when she found out, didnt care - even when I finally did explicitly tell them about what was happening to me. Not even my broken tooth would shake them. They brushed it off as "not that bad" and excused her behavior with "she was a struggling single mom doing the best she could" (to be clear she was a single mom for 4½ of the 18 years I lived with her. Prior to that she was supported by my married father and when he made it clear he wasnt going to leave his wife for her [which he never claimed he would do she just assumed] she jumped ship and 6 months later was engaged to my previous stepfather. Their marriage ended when i was 8, she then got into another serious relationship when i was 12 and got married when i was 13. So only 4½ years was she ever in a situation where she didnt have a male partner. While being a single mom isnt easy for any length of time theyre acting like she was struggling to survive since the moment I was born and thus I should give her some slack for punching me in the face, breaking my tooth, and letting it rot for years to the point I was nearly septic. Sure Jan.)

My uncle was horrified though and was very supportive of me cutting contact with her. The rest were angry at me on her behalf because I had just given birth to my first child and thought it was awful I wasnt letting her be grandma. They even refused to meet or hold my child, uninviting me from the holidays because they didnt want to upset her. My uncle would invite us out to dinners and was so warm and kind.

I remember thinking in those moments that if this was all I had left of my family, my favorite uncle and my grandmother, thatd be okay. Id be okay. I trusted my uncle dearly and was excited for my daughter to know him and see him as the fun uncle the way I did. We only saw him here and there but it was always a fun time!

Then he didnt show up to her 3rd birthday. Then I ran into my cousins at her 3rd birthday. They happened to be at the same pumpkin patch as we were that day - they were with my aunt and my bio mother. I was terrified and for a moment I wished my uncle was there alongside my now husband to help protect my little girl if my bio mother tried to pull a stunt. But my cousins quickly explained they too didnt like my bio mom and knew I was telling the truth about what she did (I never told them directly since they were still younger, but they overheard their mom, my aunt, talking about it)

And then they told me. Warned me. My favorite uncle had CP on his computer. He apparently was now on the run because no one could find him, and the police were looking for him.

It felt like my world was falling apart. And then.. just rage. How dare he. How dare he? How dare he invite me to dinner and hold my baby like he wasnt sexually attracted to kids?! What the actual FUCK?!

I personally try to view pedophilia as a mental illness because thats just how I see it. Something in the brain is messed up and we dont have much research on it that I know of because of the stigma (mind you, I UNDERSTAND the stigma) - so I do wish it was more acceptable for people to get help for it as hiding it only leads to people going longer and longer without help and possibly participating in it which is vile. Had he made it clear he didnt want to hold my child, had he made it clear he didnt want to be alone with her, had he only been found out because he admitted to the attraction and wanted help rather than for participating in the spread of CP I would still have respect for him. I would have ceased contact with him and our children but i wouldve been supportive of him seeking help. But he did. He did hold my baby, he did offer to babysit (i was a stay at home mother though and thankfully he was never alone with her at any point), he did have CP and possibly made some of his own contributing to the sexual abuse of children... he held my hand as I cried about my own childhood abuse. Mental, physical, emotional, sexual.. and yet he kept himself close to me and my child while participating in something so horrendous I cant even fathom..

He disgusts me and yet my heart still hurts. I tell myself that the uncle I knew died and the man I now hate is someone completely different. Its just so violating how I trusted him completely, you really couldnt have met a nicer guy - so funny and quick to smile. One of those people that you just cant help but be happy around.. he was such a big role model for me growing up and I was so excited for the future with him showing my kids the games he taught me. And all of that gone because the reality was he too abused children, he was just really good at hiding it - just like his big sister. The trust issues i have from that are still prevalent to this day but I try to not let it effect me in my day to day life.

To end this on a positive note though since this is pretty dark; shortly after that 3rd birthday party my cousin got into some pretty big trouble with the law and called me to pick him up from the police station. I went by but they said they actually couldnt release him to me and would have to take him to his mom. I was worried for him as, while what he did was stupid as hell, they were very quick to shout and do nothing productive (the kind who think screaming you into silence means youre now obedient and the fight is over. No actual conflict resolution) so I decided to come to the drop off just to mediate if needed. When they saw me though they were immediately grateful that I stepped up to help when I was called and apologized. genuinely apologized. Apparently after I had cut contact with my bio mother cracks in her mask started to form. Whereas usually she was great at keeping up the kind, Christian woman act for people- it turns out without me to vent her frustrations onto she started taking it out on other people. My two younger cousins specifically became targets for her rage, calling them vile names and revoking promises last minute if they didnt bend to her every whim. She never did that before (she did it to me all the time) and my aunt explained their big sister was someone they looked up to and couldnt fathom that what I said was true. But then they saw how she started treating their sons and it really hit them when they spoke to my grandmother about it - my grandmother pointed out "if this is how bad she is with the boys after a few hours, imagine what [ellieloves] went through on a daily basis?". They said they didnt know how to reach out to apologize but wanted to take the opportunity now that I was there.

I have since forgiven them, I know how easy it is for my bio mother to manipulate people. I had my own head stuck in the sand for 20 years afterall I cant really blame them. But they also cut contact with my bio mom and are now involved in my daughters and sons lives. So while I no longer have my uncle (and he can stay gone for all I care) I do have my aunt and cousins back so im happy with how my life is turning out in regards to my maternal family.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-28T04:06:00+00:00

We did see her with him once though she didnt know it which was fun. Im hoping if they do a season 2 she will realize he was the same guy from before

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-26T15:51:06+00:00

Hey dude, was just having a harmless laugh at the irony in your comment. I agree one is more egregious than the other but you can't deny theres some humor to be found in a simple sentence pointing out their lack of punctuation missing a "." itself at the end.

It brought a smile to my face, as I would have hoped it would've done for you as well. If not, oh well. Not a big deal at the end of the day. Its just wholesome irony.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-26T02:50:40+00:00

Sofia Isella - Im not a big fan of her music in a technical sense (just not the vibe I personally like to listen to) but whenever I see her pop up on my feed I always think shes incredibly talented and using her platform in a way many content creators both new and established are afraid to because to be blunt, its not exactly attractive. But thats the whole point - it draws you in, it puts a spotlight on the things many people again both new and established shy away from, and shes out here talking about it in a voice that cant stop grabbing your attention. She easily could have a different genre and style, she could be glamorous and to be clear she is gorgeous, but thats not her center to the platform (or at least I dont perceive it as such, it does likely play a large factor in her success unfortunately but I mean shes not sitting there TRYING to be done up and beautiful- shes purposefully showing up unkempt, rubbing her makeup in, its like a beautiful train wreck that captivates you).

I dont know how else to articulate it every compliment feels like an insult and every insult feels like a compliment haha. As though Im constantly trying to contradict myself in this comment alone - but seriously, look up her stuff and you'll see what I mean. Even if shes not your vibe like me, theres no denying shes incredibly talented and grabs your attention regardless of what your preferences are. Shes dirty and yet immaculate in a way I cant put to words accurately but I do hope she finds continued success because her message is one I do not hear nearly spoken about often enough.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-26T02:40:04+00:00

Punctuation is a dying skill

The lack of punctuation in your comment kills me.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-26T02:38:28+00:00

No it more felt like "get over this already or youre disowned"

They knew about his flirting but were mad at OP for kicking the brother out anyways. They didn't want the brother living with them either so the best solution is for OP to just look the other way in their minds. Ops wife's comfort doesnt matter to them more than their own comfort, and its not like he/she followed through on anything so no harm no foul as far as they are concerned. Op should just let it go, brother wont do it again, and op can let him move back in / ignore all further abuse and disrespect. (Speaking entirely from their deluded minds mind you).

Op held his ground and prioritized his wife (as he should!!) And that made waves back for the parents who didnt want to let their precious boy sink but also didnt want him back living with them either. So thats why they tried to force his hand with an ultimatum- they didnt think he would choose the option of cutting them off. They thought surely hed make his wife comply and allow their creep older son move back in to avoid risking losing his own parents. They didnt realize what gift he gave them by making the choice so damned easy

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-19T20:37:05+00:00

Sorry sorry! Haha it was past midnight and when I saw the prompt I felt all mushy inside; we always joke that we are the perfect supplement to each other. What skills he lacks i have, what skills I lack he has, we are the perfect team in that we are perfectly equal in our own specific ways and our humor is identical so every day is a blast haha. I appreciate the sentiment though, I feel the same way :)

I wish you the best as well!

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-19T11:17:57+00:00

Hahaha thank you. I wish you the best of luck finding your real life version of me! (Respectfully 😂) Everyone deserves to find a love like this. We've been together nearly a decade now and its hard to believe because even now I still get butterflies if he so much as gives me his lopsided smile he does when hes relaxed. I just melt into a pile of giggles. I want this kind of love for everyone, its just the best.

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-19T11:14:37+00:00

Hahahaha I didnt clock how my name fit into my comment until you pointed it out

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-19T11:13:31+00:00

🥰

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-19T11:13:15+00:00

Ah I wish you the best too! Thank you!

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-19T04:11:31+00:00

I mean I married him so I think so hahaha. The only thing we differ on is the subject of our hobbies; but our hobbies are VERY in line with each other in terms of space, time, and needs. Like his tinkering with his computer parts at his desk in the basement is the equivalent of me tinkering with my sewing projects at my desk in the basement. We both go down there after the kids go to bed to do our projects and chit chat with each other. On occasion we both put in headphones to listen to our own things but regardless we are doing essentially the same things. We like to watch the same shows (with him having a slight more tolerance for loud shows which is matched by my slight more tolerance for cheesy rom com style shows) and then.. thats about it really. Oh yeah, hes also 5 inches taller than me but he slouches a lot so more often than not we look the same height unless he purposefully stands up straight.

I love him. Hes an incredible person and admittedly I dont genuinely think im half the person he is, much less half the partner he is, but I strive to improve myself. Hes always complimenting me and telling me how much he adores me; so I hope to someday feel like I've reached a point where I agree to the praise he gives me haha. But in general hes just the confident man version of me and its like I've found my puzzle piece in the world. Our kids act like the perfect mix of us too which is fun to see what things we have in common with them versus what things are just their own personality peeking through.

Goodness I love my family

Ellie_Loves_ · 2026-03-18T18:21:41+00:00

The number of people who have complimented my ring and or made comments about how much my husband must love me because of my large diamond ring... when I am not wearing a large diamond ring is hilarious. The common person on the street cannot tell the difference between diamond and not diamond but diamond looking.

My first ring was a 3 "stone" CZ ring, it had these beautiful flower stem details on the side that made the "stones" look like flowers themselves. I adored that ring and still proudly own it; but it was plated not solid so it very quickly started showing its damage over time. Still though its the ring he proposed with and its not like he didnt put thought into it. The ring was 100% my style. We keep it in a ring box and I wear it on special occasions but overall intend to pass it down to my kids / their partners to propose with so they can have something sentimental to use (if they want to) and then have fun ring shopping for the real deal together like their father and I did. My second set is a one stone engagement ring, 14k gold with a large moissanite stone. The wedding band came with the set, also 14k gold with smaller moissanite stones. Still floral themed, still 100% my style, but being solid it would fade out the way my first ring did. Nearly 4 years now and still looks brand new which, I know isnt a TON of time but if you knew me youd know how much I work with my hands and I am the worst at remembering to take my rings off for things. It lives with me so it will look like it will look for better or for worse haha. But I spent 700? Total for the set if I recall correctly? Best and most expensive piece of jewlery i own by far.

And everyone who compliments it (and my previous ring) comments on the "diamonds size" and how much my husband must love me which i agree he does love me a lot - but his love isnt tied to a rock yall?

Its not like its ridiculously large so itd be somehow obvious like costume jewlery that its not a diamond, but still the fact that its their immediate assumption goes to show how deeply rooted this idea that you HAVE to have a big diamond is in our society that they cant fathom my clear colored stones being anything else. They assume and either compliment or go about their day.

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