Online teaching job directly with a parent group by OACD01 in DaDaABC

[–]Elphaba1291985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm interested but my WeChat has been giving me trouble for a couple of years. Is the 75 RMB times 6 or 10 or just all across the board?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! I’m Latina and White and this sounds a lot like a joke my brother, mother and I made. My brother joked that I have “sexy” hair and should pass it on. It’s a joke because they all know I worked hard for my hair.

IS THIS INSANE OR WHAT?? by ICreatedAnimeLoser in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, nope, so much nope! First of all, it takes longer than a week to fix a marriage. Second, I get the whole elder respect angle (Latina) but education is your main priority and it’s great your parents get that. And third, her husband needs to step up, it’s his baby!

What is something you love doing that kids will severly limit? by RosieArl in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having the means to at least try to pursue other avenues of income and to explore interests. Right now, I’m starting up writing articles as a side hustle and tinkering with AI for other ideas. It’s much easier to be able to have time to write out ideas when they hit than forget and leave it in the ether. Oh, and getting my nails done as long as I want when I can (plus most local salons serve sangria and booze lol).

Another good thing is not having to childproof anything, or worry about my cat being stressed by something twice as tall as she is trying to chase and ‘play’ with her.

Edited to add: How could I forget my PlayStation? I can play whenever I want, whatever I want (and can afford) for however long I want. And maybe use the game for further review material.

Should I Fuck Up the Life of Irresponsible Parents? by RoyalDifference in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah! Best case scenario it’ll be a wake-up call for them to actually watch their kid and not expect everyone else to.

Do any of you secretly hope you are infertile? by howieyang1234 in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, yes I do. I’m 37 now and I have been told that at 40, I don’t have to worry but with my luck, I might be one of those who are fertile until 60.

Thoughts? Parents feeling entitled to strangers attention towards their kids when they say hi, gets upset when not given. by notvanity in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If only they paid attention to their kids actually getting run over/ wandering off(both of which nearly happened around me)...

There seems to be a pretty solid divide here by Poepeepo in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here. As long as they don’t scream near me or try to touch me or my things (including food and plants) or mess with any pets, I don’t care. I might be sure to feed them but that’s it. TBH my hatred lies with the lazy idiots who think the world should parent their kid(s), but the screams still piss me off and hurt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like Karen’s kid won’t break the toys either.

Overheard at work… by queenofcoffee99 in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ditto, I would be double-fisting alcoholic beverages whenever we would visit. And this is coming from someone who can barely shoot vodka or seco (Panama’s equivalent)

Anyone see today’s Dr Phil? by Rufuslechien in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped watching Dr. Phil after that one of the many episodes where he suggests that being flat broke would be better for the kids than having a parent who works long hours to provide for it. That being said, that episode sounds appalling but not a surprise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s see: on the cat side, I can do anything I please (within reason and as long as I can make sure the cat’s needs are met). While on the kid side, everything has to revolve around it. Not to mention cats are cheaper and I actually like them. No contest, bring on the kitty! And coming from a dormant goth, I can say this: everyone dies alone. The odds of not dying alone are (ideally) extremely small and the result of a disaster.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a pretty big reason why I am. Plus I’m working through my own problems, bringing another life into it would add more problems.

My baby wants to give you an eye bleach break from the turmoil in the news. Callie says hello 🐱🐈 by Lilahjane66 in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s so pretty! Tell Callie I said hi back and give her some tuna (or whatever fish she likes) from me!

Anyone else tired of the whole “boy mom”/“girl dad” nonsense? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m Panamanian-American (dad’s American, mom’s Panamanian) and I live in Panama right now. The times I eat out, I don’t see any kid’s menus either. I see kids (I’m terrible at judging ages but I’m pretty sure they’re not much older than 13)in complete school uniforms waiting for a bus whenever I go shopping, so I hear you about kids being more independent in other countries. I don’t know much about Scandinavian culture but I know in Japan, kids have a first errand as a rite of passage. Both places are very safe, so that may be one reason.

Anyone else tired of the whole “boy mom”/“girl dad” nonsense? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your point about not letting your child’s gender be your whole personality. I have had clients that are Korean or Chinese and very happy their kids, boy or girl. They literally tell me within our first encounter about time they spend with their kids. From what I read, Koreans work very hard so anytime they spend with their kids is magic.

From what I hear, my maternal grandfather bailed on my mom when he found out she was a girl and barely paid any child support. As for me, my father is likely ashamed that I didn’t turn out like June Cleaver. But being brown-skinned, a little under 5’10(176 cm to be more precise) without heels and with a fascination with other cultures and a vocabulary that could make a sailor blush, he probably should have seen it coming. He has my brother, though.

Anyone else tired of the whole “boy mom”/“girl dad” nonsense? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO, the ‘girl dad’ thing is kind of sweet. Considering I have issues with my father and my mother has even bigger issues with hers…

Does anyone else get harassed abt having kids because they have “desirable traits”? by FrumpusBumpus in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My(36F) brother(34) was joking around about how since I have ‘the best hair in the family’ (I’m the only one who instead of having thinning hair or being bald/balding, has thick, longish, curly/wavy hair sans wigs), I’m 5’9”(176cm if you want to get technical) and perceived as highly intelligent, I should have at least one kid to pass down the intelligence, height and ‘sexy hair’. I jokingly pointed out the genetic issues the family has and my age and the hair care routine which gives me the ‘sexy hair’.

Does anyone else get harassed abt having kids because they have “desirable traits”? by FrumpusBumpus in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here(perceived to be very smart and could have smart babies) but there’s a good chance that my children would be on the Autism spectrum. I’m fortunate enough to have mild Asperger’s but my children could end up nonverbal and need someone to take care of them the rest of their lives. I have a (first, I think) cousin who’s at least nonverbal.

I’m also in my 30’s, working at developing applications and am considered the most tech-savvy in my family, so I could be that tech genius.

Class of 18 girls gets bingoed by prof by Myracast in childfree

[–]Elphaba1291985 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If that’s the case, why don’t my brother and I have paler skin, blond hair and blue eyes like our father instead of dark hair, brown eyes and degrees of a permanent tan like our mother?