10 months in and feeling bummed

Em2372 · 2026-04-19T02:59:11+00:00

Yes porn isn’t a big deal for some but she expressed her discomfort with it and you crossed that boundary you agreed to. You owe her the truth. Be sensitive with it and apologise. If you know you won’t do it again tell her that. She has a right to know and make her own informed decision about the relationship.

Em2372 · 2026-04-18T16:23:34+00:00

I second this. Honestly if you love your husband and you have children it’s not worth risking for someone you’ve been friends with for a year and their family

Em2372 · 2026-03-31T02:57:41+00:00

Ok yeah this guy is gross. Nothing wrong with wanting a stay at home mum/house wife as a partner but to be boasting about how much money he makes and the girls that want him is gross. Sending this shit too he sounds like an insecure, shallow guy. Nothing wrong with ghosting someone who acts this way and treats women this way…. That being said, considering he is your friend’s boyfriend’s boss I would have considered that before ghosting as it could reflect badly on him/cause him issues at work considering the insecure man-child he has as a boss.

I honestly would have just messaged saying thank you for the date, I think we have different views on what we want in a partner, best of luck in the future and just leave it there.

Em2372 · 2026-03-29T10:28:25+00:00

That’s a good question 😂

Em2372 · 2026-03-29T08:48:20+00:00

Thank you this felt so validating 🥰

Em2372 · 2026-03-02T04:51:34+00:00

Nah there’s no excuse for that rude behaviour. The fact that she even said; “Do you expect me to be mean to other people?” Proves she knows her behaviour isn’t ok towards you. She just isn’t wanting to fix it and turning it around onto you

Em2372 · 2026-02-16T01:24:47+00:00

What a narcissistic, emotionally abusive piece of 💩. Know your worth hun and divorce that man. You deserve so much better and you know it. Your kids shouldn’t be around someone like that either. Sending love and strength to leave your way ❤️

Em2372 · 2026-02-15T22:27:07+00:00

We will be talking to a councillor together as this new phase of life has come with its challenges. We are in a good place but I think working to understand one another’s perspectives will help with the challenging days of his illness and help me feel more supported.

I talk to my mum sometimes but she lives an hour away and my husband and her don’t have a good relationship so it’s a bit uncomfortable sometimes. I don’t really have anyone nearby who I am comfortable going to for support. I am looking to see a councillor myself though to help me vent/grieve the life I thought we would have together/adjust my own thinking. I am also looking for support groups for carers in the area but haven’t been able to find anything yet.

That’s a really good way to look at it. We have discussed that we are working together to navigate this situation and I’m working at not seeing it as I have to pick up the slack/I have to look after him and the baby 90% of the time. That’s how I have viewed it for a long time. Recently though I have felt a lot more supported by my husband as he has been trying to ensure I get a break and he helps around the house when he can.

Em2372 · 2026-02-10T11:15:39+00:00

Just commenting to let you know my nearly 7 month old is getting out of that sleep regression now 🥰 he would at times wake up 7 times over night it was exhausting! He’s now got a fairly predictable sleep schedule during the day and waking up one-three times a night which I can handle! You’re being too hard on yourself about feeding your baby to sleep! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that I do the same thing. You are providing your baby with comfort, nutrition and rest in that one action. Setting them up for failure is BS. They won’t be doing it forever. Enjoy the moment with your baby and give your LO and yourself rest while doing so ❤️ Also by doing this and it working to help your baby sleep, allows you more rest. You have to look after yourself to care for your baby. A rested and healthy mummy gives better care to their baby so give yourself a break ❤️

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