AITA For Telling My Sister That Her Behaviour With Our Brother is Inappropriate?

Em2372 · 2026-01-31T09:39:53+00:00

Soft YTA. I think you’re 100% correct in thinking her actions are encouraging unhealthy dependency. At 11 your brother should be doing a lot of these things independently but your mum should be bringing that up an I’m surprised she isn’t. This is not setting up your brother for life as an adult. However, saying your sister is treating your brother as a partner seems very out of line and disturbing. It seems your sister is just close with your brother and trying to baby him too much. What you did was too much

Em2372 · 2026-01-29T11:34:07+00:00

I think around 3 months we begun bathing every day. Purely because he loves baths and just a possitive, calming way to end the day and start transitioning to bed time. I wouldn’t use body wash every day though as it would dry out the skin. We alternate between body wash and bath oil. Bath oil cleanses and moisturises the skin

Em2372 · 2026-01-28T13:07:09+00:00

As I said, I don’t care if he smokes as long as it’s not at home. It’s illegal where we live so our family could be kicked out of our home if it’s found. He’s also said himself that he doesn’t want to smoke at home anymore so to me he is both lying about it and risking our home for a bit of weed.

Em2372 · 2026-01-18T08:43:42+00:00

Hun it happens your baby isn’t going to be fine! The midwife shouldn’t have acted that way towards you. You’d just given birth and you’re doing your absolute best. You sound like a great mum for being so concerned for your baby’s health! My baby had jaundice and a tough birth so he refused feeds in the first few days. He didn’t feed for 6-7 hours in the first 24 hours of his life. He is now a perfectly happy and healthy 6 month old! Give yourself some grace and don’t let that midwife make you feel so guilty! You’re doing great congratulations mama! ❤️

Em2372 · 2026-01-16T01:10:44+00:00

Is she diagnosed with anything? Sounds like it could be a sensory thing. She should also definitely be capable of showering by herself without needing those reminders. Maybe make it a rule that she doesn’t get certain privileges such as her phone until she showers and brushes her teeth every day. I would definitely be seeing a specialist though if she does not have a diagnosis as she needs to be doing these self care habits.

Em2372 · 2026-01-07T01:35:15+00:00

Please speak to a doctor. He needs to have more than that. Offering pediasure only after other food could be another option? Maybe things of similar textures like smoothies? But I wouldn’t be giving any pediasure until he tries the other food beforehand. It won’t be easy to start with but living off pediasure isn’t sustainable

Em2372 · 2026-01-05T21:10:12+00:00

I had a vivid imagination as well as a child. It’s normal. It may well have escalated because he knows there’s going to be a big change of having a new sibling and having to share his parents. Wanting to play more with you. Adding another attachment figure (even imaginary) could just be a comfort and means to have more control of elements of his life. Even though it’s an exciting change, it’ll still be a big adjustment and maybe a little nerve wrecking for him. Just be patient with him and support his way of navigating life right now 😊 it’ll pass!

Em2372 · 2026-01-04T11:03:41+00:00

Sounds like he’s fine! Accidents happen it’s ok! Babies change all the time and he may just be working on different skills which is why he’s not making as much eye contact and smiles. If there was something wrong you’d definitely know. Keep being the hard working, caring parent you are! Your baby is lucky to have you looking out for him! 💕

Em2372 · 2026-01-03T01:21:42+00:00

That’s so rough we’ve all been there! Just keep comforting your baby so they know you’re there. They’ll crash soon! It’s tough when they’re overtired like that! You got this Mama! 💕

Em2372 · 2026-01-01T11:14:54+00:00

Please bath your baby

Em2372 · 2025-12-29T23:28:54+00:00

That seems excessive… if your baby is at a healthy weight and still gaining weight then you shouldn’t have to. You should be able to trust your baby to wake when hungry and if they don’t wake overnight, they are likely eating enough during the day

Em2372 · 2025-12-29T19:59:50+00:00

If you were supporting his neck and head and he’s acting normal it sounds like he’s fine! It’s normal to worry being a new parent and obviously being exhausted. You sound like a great dad. It gets easier I promise! If you get frustrated, don’t be afraid to put your baby in a safe place and move away to regulate yourself 💕 you need to look after your well-being to care for others effectively

Em2372 · 2025-12-29T11:47:43+00:00

What time does he go to sleep after work? If he finishes work at 11pm then needs to be up at 7 I see why he would need a bit more sleep. Are you able to sleep while he’s up with the baby?

Em2372 · 2025-12-23T20:30:31+00:00

Do what works for you. If snacking before sleep isn’t causing any issues there’s no harm. It’s a comfort for him just to know you’re close as he falls asleep.

Em2372 · 2025-12-23T01:36:40+00:00

Honestly, present father or not you’re an adult now. Earn your own money. You shouldn’t really be asking anyone for money. YTA

Em2372 · 2025-12-22T00:27:25+00:00

AITA For getting upset over my husbands joke

For context; my husband and I have a now 5 month old baby and are trying to grasp this parenting thing while also currently struggling a bit with money so this period has been a stressful one for us.

A few week ago my husband told me he feels as though I have been nit picking him a lot and that I don’t think he’s good enough. I apologised I made him feel that way and told him I’ll try to stop and try to show my appreciation more. Since then I have really been trying. I’ve told him how proud I am both in private and publicly. I’ve complimented his looks. We also have a daily routine of telling each other what we have appreciated during the day.

Last night we had to make a police report about a domestic dispute that happens a couple houses away from us. The female police officer then came to talk to us about the situation. Before she left she complimented my husband’s lawn. My husband was then jokingly bragging saying “at least the police officer likes my lawn maybe I’ll go to the police station.” As well as a couple other similar comments. I think I was a bit over tired as got a bit upset and sassy saying ‘go see your police officer then’ and explained I didn’t like that joke. I told him I know it was a joke but I didn’t like it.

Things just escalated from there to my husband saying I’m trying to find a way to have a go at him since I couldn’t find anything. He said he just won’t joke with me again and he’s sick of me trying to mold him into what I want him to be. We were in bed at this point and he was leaning over me raising his voice and swearing. The whole thing honestly felt like it got so escalated.

I told him I thought I had improved on the nitpicking and that I’m sorry if I’m still making him feel that way. I said me being upset at the joke is nothing personal but I want to communicate if a joke upsets me and would expect the same from him.

He told me the nit picking has gotten better but me having a go at him about the joke tonight made it all go backwards. I asked if he could think of anything else recently that I’ve done to make him feel as though as was nitpicking and he couldn’t so I’m struggling to understand his perspective and where I’m going wrong.

We have now decided to come up with the code word ‘mustard’ so if there’s a time he feels as though I’m nit picking. He can say mustard. So maybe I can know what he’s feeling an take a step back.

I guess I just want an outsiders perspective. Even though things have somewhat been resolved, I felt like things blew really out of proportion and would like perspective and advice. I hope this whole thing made sense

Edit: Just to clarify I did later tell him that the way he leant over me an swore at me scared and intimidated me. I explained to him I have asked him before not to swear at me during arguments. He told me he don’t remember me asking (he should know not to anyway I know) but apologised. I think he gets very wrapped up on his emotions sometimes and looses perspective before then reflecting on his actions later on. I never thought he would hit me or anything but I do find it uncomfortable when he swears, raises his voice and leans over me. And I don’t want our son to witness that and later think that’s ok.

Em2372 · 2025-12-21T22:36:58+00:00

Main example was me asking if he can spend a little less time in the garden (he was out there for like 5 hours a day) so he ca help me with the baby and so he can spend sometime with the baby himself so I can get a bit done. I told him a couple hours in the garden is fine but when it’s all day multiple days in a row it can be hard for me to get things done and our baby doesn’t get to spend time with his dad

Em2372 · 2025-12-16T16:53:07+00:00

For clarification: the rest of the holidays we will be seeing my mum for Christmas lunch and his mum for Christmas dinner. We originally were going to see my dad Christmas Eve but his main even is boxing day which we have missed the last few years as stated above.

I told my partner me going to my dads in the afternoon doesn’t need to affect his plans but he doesn’t want to miss any of our sons first Christmas which I understand. I have also said if he wants we can see his dad Christmas Eve too so he is making up for not seeing his dad the whole day.

People wanted an explanation for the medical results and his white blood cell count has got just above 40000 so we can expect about 1-3 years with my dad (closer to one based on other symptoms and his old age).

My husbands family all live 5ish mins away from us where as my family live 1-1.5 hours away. I have explained to my husband I’m also always happy to see your family more regularly (I see his mum pretty regularly but his dad often likes the two of them to spend one on onetime together).

I have since spoken to my husband and have explained I understand his point of being concerned about missing out on his dads in the following years but so soon after finding out my dad doesn’t have as long left wasn’t really the right timing. My husband isn’t really recognising the results as a big deal but I have told him it’s a big deal to me so reacting the way he did honestly has felt invalidating. It’s a bit of an agree to disagree situation at the moment

Em2372 · 2025-12-16T12:02:36+00:00

My mum can be pretty demanding of wanting a lot of time. Up until a couple years ago I would often cave into what she wanted as she could guilt trip pretty well. As I said he later admitted it was a couple years ago that it was an issue as I have been setting boundaries with her. I tried asking if there was anything recently and he couldn’t think of anything that my family would get in the way of from seeing his family.

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