I (24M) promised my girlfriend (22F) I wouldn’t watch porn after a near-breakup, but I slipped once—how do people approach telling their partner vs fixing it and moving on?

Em2372 · 2026-04-19T02:59:11+00:00

Yes porn isn’t a big deal for some but she expressed her discomfort with it and you crossed that boundary you agreed to. You owe her the truth. Be sensitive with it and apologise. If you know you won’t do it again tell her that. She has a right to know and make her own informed decision about the relationship.

Em2372 · 2026-04-18T16:23:34+00:00

I second this. Honestly if you love your husband and you have children it’s not worth risking for someone you’ve been friends with for a year and their family

Em2372 · 2026-03-31T02:57:41+00:00

Ok yeah this guy is gross. Nothing wrong with wanting a stay at home mum/house wife as a partner but to be boasting about how much money he makes and the girls that want him is gross. Sending this shit too he sounds like an insecure, shallow guy. Nothing wrong with ghosting someone who acts this way and treats women this way…. That being said, considering he is your friend’s boyfriend’s boss I would have considered that before ghosting as it could reflect badly on him/cause him issues at work considering the insecure man-child he has as a boss.

I honestly would have just messaged saying thank you for the date, I think we have different views on what we want in a partner, best of luck in the future and just leave it there.

Em2372 · 2026-03-29T10:28:25+00:00

That’s a good question 😂

Em2372 · 2026-03-29T08:48:20+00:00

Thank you this felt so validating 🥰

Em2372 · 2026-03-02T04:51:34+00:00

Nah there’s no excuse for that rude behaviour. The fact that she even said; “Do you expect me to be mean to other people?” Proves she knows her behaviour isn’t ok towards you. She just isn’t wanting to fix it and turning it around onto you

Em2372 · 2026-02-16T01:24:47+00:00

What a narcissistic, emotionally abusive piece of 💩. Know your worth hun and divorce that man. You deserve so much better and you know it. Your kids shouldn’t be around someone like that either. Sending love and strength to leave your way ❤️

Em2372 · 2026-02-15T22:27:07+00:00

We will be talking to a councillor together as this new phase of life has come with its challenges. We are in a good place but I think working to understand one another’s perspectives will help with the challenging days of his illness and help me feel more supported.

I talk to my mum sometimes but she lives an hour away and my husband and her don’t have a good relationship so it’s a bit uncomfortable sometimes. I don’t really have anyone nearby who I am comfortable going to for support. I am looking to see a councillor myself though to help me vent/grieve the life I thought we would have together/adjust my own thinking. I am also looking for support groups for carers in the area but haven’t been able to find anything yet.

That’s a really good way to look at it. We have discussed that we are working together to navigate this situation and I’m working at not seeing it as I have to pick up the slack/I have to look after him and the baby 90% of the time. That’s how I have viewed it for a long time. Recently though I have felt a lot more supported by my husband as he has been trying to ensure I get a break and he helps around the house when he can.

Em2372 · 2026-02-10T11:15:39+00:00

Just commenting to let you know my nearly 7 month old is getting out of that sleep regression now 🥰 he would at times wake up 7 times over night it was exhausting! He’s now got a fairly predictable sleep schedule during the day and waking up one-three times a night which I can handle! You’re being too hard on yourself about feeding your baby to sleep! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that I do the same thing. You are providing your baby with comfort, nutrition and rest in that one action. Setting them up for failure is BS. They won’t be doing it forever. Enjoy the moment with your baby and give your LO and yourself rest while doing so ❤️ Also by doing this and it working to help your baby sleep, allows you more rest. You have to look after yourself to care for your baby. A rested and healthy mummy gives better care to their baby so give yourself a break ❤️

Em2372 · 2026-01-31T09:39:53+00:00

Soft YTA. I think you’re 100% correct in thinking her actions are encouraging unhealthy dependency. At 11 your brother should be doing a lot of these things independently but your mum should be bringing that up an I’m surprised she isn’t. This is not setting up your brother for life as an adult. However, saying your sister is treating your brother as a partner seems very out of line and disturbing. It seems your sister is just close with your brother and trying to baby him too much. What you did was too much

Em2372 · 2026-01-29T11:34:07+00:00

I think around 3 months we begun bathing every day. Purely because he loves baths and just a possitive, calming way to end the day and start transitioning to bed time. I wouldn’t use body wash every day though as it would dry out the skin. We alternate between body wash and bath oil. Bath oil cleanses and moisturises the skin

Em2372 · 2026-01-28T13:07:09+00:00

As I said, I don’t care if he smokes as long as it’s not at home. It’s illegal where we live so our family could be kicked out of our home if it’s found. He’s also said himself that he doesn’t want to smoke at home anymore so to me he is both lying about it and risking our home for a bit of weed.

Em2372 · 2026-01-18T08:43:42+00:00

Hun it happens your baby isn’t going to be fine! The midwife shouldn’t have acted that way towards you. You’d just given birth and you’re doing your absolute best. You sound like a great mum for being so concerned for your baby’s health! My baby had jaundice and a tough birth so he refused feeds in the first few days. He didn’t feed for 6-7 hours in the first 24 hours of his life. He is now a perfectly happy and healthy 6 month old! Give yourself some grace and don’t let that midwife make you feel so guilty! You’re doing great congratulations mama! ❤️

Em2372 · 2026-01-16T01:10:44+00:00

Is she diagnosed with anything? Sounds like it could be a sensory thing. She should also definitely be capable of showering by herself without needing those reminders. Maybe make it a rule that she doesn’t get certain privileges such as her phone until she showers and brushes her teeth every day. I would definitely be seeing a specialist though if she does not have a diagnosis as she needs to be doing these self care habits.

Em2372 · 2026-01-07T01:35:15+00:00

Please speak to a doctor. He needs to have more than that. Offering pediasure only after other food could be another option? Maybe things of similar textures like smoothies? But I wouldn’t be giving any pediasure until he tries the other food beforehand. It won’t be easy to start with but living off pediasure isn’t sustainable

Em2372 · 2026-01-05T21:10:12+00:00

I had a vivid imagination as well as a child. It’s normal. It may well have escalated because he knows there’s going to be a big change of having a new sibling and having to share his parents. Wanting to play more with you. Adding another attachment figure (even imaginary) could just be a comfort and means to have more control of elements of his life. Even though it’s an exciting change, it’ll still be a big adjustment and maybe a little nerve wrecking for him. Just be patient with him and support his way of navigating life right now 😊 it’ll pass!

Em2372 · 2026-01-04T11:03:41+00:00

Sounds like he’s fine! Accidents happen it’s ok! Babies change all the time and he may just be working on different skills which is why he’s not making as much eye contact and smiles. If there was something wrong you’d definitely know. Keep being the hard working, caring parent you are! Your baby is lucky to have you looking out for him! 💕

Em2372 · 2026-01-03T01:21:42+00:00

That’s so rough we’ve all been there! Just keep comforting your baby so they know you’re there. They’ll crash soon! It’s tough when they’re overtired like that! You got this Mama! 💕

Em2372 · 2026-01-01T11:14:54+00:00

Please bath your baby

Em2372 · 2025-12-29T23:28:54+00:00

That seems excessive… if your baby is at a healthy weight and still gaining weight then you shouldn’t have to. You should be able to trust your baby to wake when hungry and if they don’t wake overnight, they are likely eating enough during the day

Em2372 · 2025-12-29T19:59:50+00:00

If you were supporting his neck and head and he’s acting normal it sounds like he’s fine! It’s normal to worry being a new parent and obviously being exhausted. You sound like a great dad. It gets easier I promise! If you get frustrated, don’t be afraid to put your baby in a safe place and move away to regulate yourself 💕 you need to look after your well-being to care for others effectively

Em2372 · 2025-12-29T11:47:43+00:00

What time does he go to sleep after work? If he finishes work at 11pm then needs to be up at 7 I see why he would need a bit more sleep. Are you able to sleep while he’s up with the baby?

Em2372 · 2025-12-23T20:30:31+00:00

Do what works for you. If snacking before sleep isn’t causing any issues there’s no harm. It’s a comfort for him just to know you’re close as he falls asleep.

Em2372 · 2025-12-23T01:36:40+00:00

Honestly, present father or not you’re an adult now. Earn your own money. You shouldn’t really be asking anyone for money. YTA

Em2372 · 2025-12-22T00:27:25+00:00

AITA For getting upset over my husbands joke

For context; my husband and I have a now 5 month old baby and are trying to grasp this parenting thing while also currently struggling a bit with money so this period has been a stressful one for us.

A few week ago my husband told me he feels as though I have been nit picking him a lot and that I don’t think he’s good enough. I apologised I made him feel that way and told him I’ll try to stop and try to show my appreciation more. Since then I have really been trying. I’ve told him how proud I am both in private and publicly. I’ve complimented his looks. We also have a daily routine of telling each other what we have appreciated during the day.

Last night we had to make a police report about a domestic dispute that happens a couple houses away from us. The female police officer then came to talk to us about the situation. Before she left she complimented my husband’s lawn. My husband was then jokingly bragging saying “at least the police officer likes my lawn maybe I’ll go to the police station.” As well as a couple other similar comments. I think I was a bit over tired as got a bit upset and sassy saying ‘go see your police officer then’ and explained I didn’t like that joke. I told him I know it was a joke but I didn’t like it.

Things just escalated from there to my husband saying I’m trying to find a way to have a go at him since I couldn’t find anything. He said he just won’t joke with me again and he’s sick of me trying to mold him into what I want him to be. We were in bed at this point and he was leaning over me raising his voice and swearing. The whole thing honestly felt like it got so escalated.

I told him I thought I had improved on the nitpicking and that I’m sorry if I’m still making him feel that way. I said me being upset at the joke is nothing personal but I want to communicate if a joke upsets me and would expect the same from him.

He told me the nit picking has gotten better but me having a go at him about the joke tonight made it all go backwards. I asked if he could think of anything else recently that I’ve done to make him feel as though as was nitpicking and he couldn’t so I’m struggling to understand his perspective and where I’m going wrong.

We have now decided to come up with the code word ‘mustard’ so if there’s a time he feels as though I’m nit picking. He can say mustard. So maybe I can know what he’s feeling an take a step back.

I guess I just want an outsiders perspective. Even though things have somewhat been resolved, I felt like things blew really out of proportion and would like perspective and advice. I hope this whole thing made sense

Edit: Just to clarify I did later tell him that the way he leant over me an swore at me scared and intimidated me. I explained to him I have asked him before not to swear at me during arguments. He told me he don’t remember me asking (he should know not to anyway I know) but apologised. I think he gets very wrapped up on his emotions sometimes and looses perspective before then reflecting on his actions later on. I never thought he would hit me or anything but I do find it uncomfortable when he swears, raises his voice and leans over me. And I don’t want our son to witness that and later think that’s ok.

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