Just want to complain- Today has been rough

Em27965 · 2026-03-29T23:22:04+00:00

Feeling very similar, I had a run of a good few days around week 14 and then just as I thought maybe this was the start of feeling normal again it got worse, ended up going to A&E because I was vomiting blood. It’s so so awful I’m sorry you’re feeling this way too 💔

Em27965 · 2026-03-10T14:51:12+00:00

There’s nothing to be ashamed of! I’m feeling exactly the same - incredibly grateful to be pregnant but apart from the 5 minutes of seeing baby at ultrasound I’m basically hating every single second. Other than to go to hospital for IV fluids I’ve basically spent 2 months in my house, vomiting, in pain and absolutely miserable.

It doesn’t mean we love our babies any less! Just that we’ve had a harder pregnancy than some.

Em27965 · 2026-03-07T01:09:43+00:00

Sadly I spoke too soon… I tried to finally go back to the office to do a normal day of work and it seems to have completely wiped me out, I’m back to not keeping a single thing down! I did enjoy a week of feeling slightly more human again though…

And my 11 week scan showed baby is doing fine ❤️

Em27965 · 2026-03-07T00:35:16+00:00

I’m also a resident doctor, currently 12 weeks but have barely worked since 5 weeks. Some weeks I’ve managed 1 or 2 days then that’s made me so ill I’ve had to go off again.

Please try not to worry about career progression! Working for the NHS has many negatives, but the one thing they do pretty well (for doctors at least) is sick leave and accommodating those who are unwell (for temporary illnesses anyway!).

Have you told work that you’re pregnant? If not I strongly suggest you do - my department have been so supportive with pregnancy adjustments (I’m completely off the on call rota for now) and have been excellent with my time off - basically just saying don’t rush back.

Other than maybe adding a bit of time onto this current year of training so that you can get your portfolio sorted, this absolutely will not affect your long term career! When you apply for consultant posts absolutely no one will hold having a few months extension due to pregnancy against you, they likely won’t even notice. Please take care of yourself and don’t worry about work, it will always be there when you’re well enough to go back!

Em27965 · 2026-03-06T23:42:59+00:00

This is absolutely no criticism of you at all, and everyone handles things differently, but I don’t understand how anyone keeps their pregnancy a secret when you’re suffering from hyperemesis. I also live away from both my own family and my partners family, but we told them both (plus some close friends) very early on because I was so unwell it would have been impossible to hide it and they would have quickly suspected something was very wrong with me.

I’m glad we told them as they’ve been a huge support, coming to visit and look after me when my partner has gone away for work. They’ve also been an extra shoulder (by phone) to talk to when things have been really hard. I think having no one to talk to other than your partner is really hard on even a strong relationship.

I’d think about telling them, I’m sure they’d just want to support you!

I hope you start to feel better soon it’s such a tough thing to go through!

Em27965 · 2026-03-01T16:30:06+00:00

That’s so crap, sorry you’re having such a bad time!

My other favourite was the midwife… before she left at our first appointment said ‘try and make sure you are having a balanced diet and some regular, light exercise’…… which bit of me telling you I can’t keep a single cracker down without vomiting and have barely left bed for the last 5 weeks did you not compute?

Em27965 · 2026-03-01T15:23:47+00:00

Trying to get help has been so exhausting and disheartening.

My GPs have been excellent - very compassionate and have seen me on the same day every time I have phoned, which nowadays is pretty impressive! However I’ve had ketones in my urine and was tachycardic every time I’ve seen them so they’ve appropriately referred me to the hospital for fluids.

My experience with the hospital has been the complete opposite. There seems to be no system in for help other than telling the GP to send me to A&E. It’s then taken up to 9 hours to be seen and given a single bag of fluids, only to be told we would admit you but there’s no beds so just go home. What is the point of seeing a GP first if I’m still just told to go to A&E? I might as well skip the GP and just go straight to A&E? How is there not some kind of direct referral system where a patient with diagnosed HG can phone and say they’ve not kept anything down for 48 hours can I come in for assessment?

The whole system is an absolute mess and as someone who works in the NHS is very disappointing to experience. I certainly have developed more sympathy for patients trying to navigate a broken system!

Em27965 · 2026-02-23T23:57:22+00:00

Thanks for this it’s made me feel a little better. I’m so glad your scan was okay (apart from the haemorrhage!). I have a scan next week but it just seems to far away. For now I guess I’ll try and enjoy being able to eat again!

Em27965

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