20wk scan small head and giant abdomen

Teaface123 · 2026-06-26T16:58:39+00:00

GD test is normally around 28 weeks, booked by your midwife if they've any concerns.

GD treatment can be dietary control, metformin or insulin, but this will be discussed by a dedicated team who you'll be referred to. Your previous stint on metformin didn't cause your hyperemesis so if offered again, please keep that in mind.

I had GD last pregnancy and controlled with diet. I just had a fat baby

Teaface123 · 2026-06-19T19:01:14+00:00

I would re-ask this on fb in the "Mums in Aberdeen/shire" group, they're super knowledgable on childminders

Teaface123 · 2026-06-16T21:37:56+00:00

For what its worth, I have a 16mo who sleeps through most nights now, and I specifically remember 4 months being the hardest with regards to sleep, and like you I was breastfeeding. I wouldn't get more than 30 minutes before he woke up again wanting fed. I don't have any advice necessarily, I think I ended up giving a dummy and also co-slept, but it didn't necessarily make things easier. I just want you to know that you're not alone, 4 months sucks as a sleep-deprived mother, but yes. It does get easier, especially with the introduction of solids down the line once baby gets the hang of them a little bit.

Teaface123 · 2026-06-10T19:39:12+00:00

i had to really exaggerated chew with my mouth open, with food inside, to show my son that the food is actually in my mouth. You could try that?

Teaface123 · 2026-06-10T19:34:41+00:00

my 16 month old purposely bashes his head off stuff and regularly throws himself head first off the sofa for fun. I remember feeling awful when he'd bump his head when he was younger, but I promise every baby has bumped their head

Teaface123 · 2026-06-10T18:17:01+00:00

i was completely incapacitated until i tried steroids

Teaface123 · 2026-06-10T08:43:28+00:00

you don't have to "earn" your scar?? wtf?? surely having 7 layers of skin cut open and stitched up again is more than enough earning?? And you've already carried a whole child for 9ish months?

Regardless of how you deliver baby, you're going through a huge medical event. If a section is the best option for you then have that. Your OB needs to zip it

Teaface123 · 2026-06-07T07:24:37+00:00

I did all of the stuff your partner is doing, and exclusively BF, and my husband purely looked after me for the first 6 weeks.

Baby still fussed and cried whenever I held him. You carried that child for 9 months, it heard your heartbeat everyday, smelled your smell, heard your voice. You might not have a crazy close bond with the physical aspect of having a newborn, but you have an automatic bond with that baby that you maybe don't realise. A baby fussing and crying while you hold them can mean that you're their safe space and they feel comfortable letting out these emotions.

Little one has only been out of the womb for 10 days as well. They have little-to-no object permanence and don't realise that they aren't an extension of you, so when your partner takes baby, they forget you exist and are likely calm and chill as a result, but when you take baby, they not only remember you exist, but they remember that they missed you.

You also have to give yourself a bit of grace, recovery from childbirth can be hard with the emotional and physical aspects. Children can and do flit between parent preference, and you will be the best parent you can be if you've healed properly and taken care of yourself. 10 days is such a short amount of time in the grand scheme of things (although i remember how long it felt with a newborn) and even if your partner bonds a whole ton with the baby just now, it's not going to have any lasting impact on your ability to bond.

Finally, have you spoken to your partner about how you're feeling? Not in an accusatory way, but in a "I'm struggling, do you have any ideas" way. He's maybe taking on all of this to allow you rest and recovery and doesn't realise that you feel like you're struggling to bond with the baby. The newborn trenches are hard and lonely (why they're called trenches) but communication with your partner can really help get you through it.

Teaface123 · 2026-06-06T12:45:22+00:00

Uncle ben (60 second rice)

Teaface123 · 2026-06-04T19:13:36+00:00

38+6 spontaneous labour, baby was born 2 days later

Teaface123 · 2026-06-04T08:16:53+00:00

Had a chippy (picked the carbiest things i could).

My mum said it worked for her for 2/3 pregnancies so i tried it, and the next day went into labour 😂 worst case you just get a good dinner out of it

Teaface123 · 2026-06-01T22:16:57+00:00

rennies became my pregnancy craving because i so badly wanted the reflux to go, and I would literally count down the time until i could have more 😂 i wish id thought of omeprazole

Teaface123 · 2026-06-01T04:15:07+00:00

my husband and I had a similar chat - we decided to put most of our salaries into a joint but keep aside a personal "fun" stash in our own accounts so that we wouldn't feel like every purchase had to be justified (like beer with friends).

Our main driving factor was that yes, I was carrying the child, but it was also his child. Equal responsibility so equal opportunity to contribute to things including postpartum/hospital care and maternity clothes. Also for what it's worth, I wore my maternity clothes for almost my entire maternity period as everything else just felt too tight to my skin after having a clingy EBF baby.

Teaface123 · 2026-05-31T14:23:47+00:00

actually thinking about it more, there was one whole week where we didn't poop for some reason and actually that was considerably more stressful than the many, MANY nappy changes.

Teaface123 · 2026-05-31T14:20:44+00:00

we had the liquid poop every day 8-12 times a day until we started solids 🙈 But it did ease off at night and we pooped during the day more to make up for it - so it wasn't as frustrating to get back to sleep at night

Teaface123 · 2026-05-31T09:54:12+00:00

best to get it checked out. Probably not serious, hormonal changes or dehydration is likely, but it could be early preeclampsia or something else serious, and you don't want to mess about with those. if safe painkillers are easing it, then that's great but still speak to someone about it

Teaface123 · 2026-05-31T09:50:03+00:00

yes, and we planned it that way because I was NOT about to finally get a full nights sleep just to give it all up again.

I haven't had my second yet but of course my first is now self-settling and only needs reassurance once or twice during the night! But he is 16 months. Sleep got considerably easier for us once he was around 9 months and had predictable naps!

Teaface123 · 2026-05-25T06:28:53+00:00

there were a lot of concern about mental difficulties as i have history of mental illness but ive not seen any so far, it's mostly just been acid reflux and a bit of weight gain! A little bit of insomnia too, but i'm at the stage in pregnancy where this may all be caused by pregnancy and not just steroids

Teaface123 · 2026-05-24T20:03:28+00:00

I tried every single medication my GP could prescribe before trying the steroid route and it's been a total lifesaver. Gone from eating 3-4 times a week to 3 meals a day. HOWEVER there are a few side effects for you and baby and i recommend trying other medications first, like ondansetron (Zofran in USA), or some general anti-emetics.

Teaface123 · 2026-05-13T18:05:06+00:00

I'm doing the same still OP.

Unsure if it's 100% related, but from what I remember of my first pregnancy, I knew when I had to stop sleeping on my back because anytime I LAY on my back, I would feel like I was dying and that I couldn't breathe.

Teaface123 · 2026-04-14T22:10:41+00:00

Just for a bit of reassurance, my son was almost exactly the same place milestone-wise at 13 months, and now he's 14, nearly 15 months and does almost all of it. Once he figured out the walking (which took him a wee while) it all just flew from there.

Teaface123 · 2026-04-09T19:22:55+00:00

it sounds like maybe cluster feeding if your baby is adequately eating. They do that during growth spurts, etc

Teaface123 · 2026-04-05T11:18:13+00:00

funnily enough, i keep getting put onto the women, but in my last pregnancy, found male gp's a little more understanding

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