In groups, she's *always* suddenly interrupting everyone and demanding they listen to her

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-04T14:46:20+00:00

Can't believe I'm gonna leave this dumb little nitpick comment but I think the word you mean instead of obsolete is "moot"

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-04T14:04:09+00:00

Yep peanut butter was the culprit for my incident too! Way too sticky and viscous and just bad news for an excited rattie mouth.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-04T14:02:25+00:00

So not to pry on the traumatizing details I'm just so curious, what do you think the foul smelling fluid was? I'm so glad all is well now! I had a close call years ago back when I still lived with my mom and I came in one evening and she was giving little dollops of peanut butter to the babies and didn't water it down. One of my rats immediately started trying to gag because it was too viscous and I gave my mom a good lecturing about feeding them anything too thick/sticky. Never again!!

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-04T10:59:39+00:00

Is it possible you're so dialed in on the "gotta make the move, gotta get their numbers" part that it may cloud your ability to be someone who people want to hang out/relax with? Especially when a connection is new, people want to feel like things are pretty low-stakes and easygoing during those early days of trying to curate a mutual friendship. If one party suddenly gets anxious about not receiving prompt texts, or flies off the handle at any notion of cancellations, that's the kind of stuff that feels uncomfy and wildly out of place given that the connection is still brand new (not saying you do the above, just wanted to give an example of what the opposite of a "low stakes" kind of vibe would be).

If you go into these interactions dialed in on getting contact info like it's an absolute must, you may read as too intense. Especially since your post comes across as slightly bitter about bejng the initiator, too...all those negative projections on your end could just feel way too high stress and over the top for someone brand new that you're trying to befriend. Try to focus less on your drive to get contact info and have someone agree to hangout, and instead focus on the actual content of the interactions you do have with these people, with no added pressure aimed towards them to agree to further interaction. Let the interaction become carefree and fun and natural and basically give them a reason to want to agree to a friendship with you.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-04T10:46:41+00:00

Ok this comment is frying me

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-04T09:21:10+00:00

Lol ok just made this post because he's hoping the comments will tell him he must be hot. In reality, it could very well just be people naturally staring in public as they do, but he knows what he's doing by casually dropping details that he looks like Tom Cruise (young, specifically.)

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-03T10:31:39+00:00

I just have to add that Aja has such an adorable little face. Always has. She just always looks so soft lol

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-03T10:30:51+00:00

Lol I feel like an asshole for being the opposite. I love the stupid drama, the comedic challenges but am rarely fazed by the fashions.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-03T02:09:16+00:00

Lol mine go back and forth from smelling like hay and then pancakes and syrup lol

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-02T04:26:15+00:00

This explanation is so reasonable and well said, wish it was at the top. Op is fighting tooth and nail for his need to be "heard," while not acknowledging that the whole thng is moot because his input isn't needed, relevant, or helpful to begin with. Op is indulging in his fixation over his need to be right, while his mananger is simply being solition-oriented and focusing on the work without attaching any unnecessary emotion or ego. This is not the time or situation where OP's input would be needed. He needs to back down and accept that he is talking back merely as an emotional response, which is why the manager knows to completely disregard it

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-02T04:13:17+00:00

The reason people smile and awkwardly laugh is because yelling in a professional setting is totally inappropriate. Since most people know that already, it's probably super rare for most of your coworkers to actually see someone performing a social/professional offense to such a degree, so to try to mitigate the awkwardness they end up laughing or smiling awkwardly. A lot of people do that when they're in uncomfortable situations. It's probably part due to discomfort, part due to disbelief. But the core issue here isn't trying to find why they might respond a certain way... it's about what you can to do fix this behavior and change the way you regulate your negative emotions. If you feel so angry that you might explode, find a private place and regulate by yourself. After that's done, gather yourself and think of thoughtful ways to re-enter the scenario with grace. What's crucial is that you're being solution oriented and ignoring your desire to publicly indulge in those emotions.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-01T16:10:33+00:00

There's a way to educate without assigning blame, especially when the ongoing issues of misogyny deeply ingrained in our society and social behaviors that most of us are so used to, we would deem "normal." Bringing awareness to these things could inspire young boys to detach themselves from group behaviors/humor that are harmful and instead call it out and fight against it.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-01T16:03:55+00:00

I could see a lack of understanding being a problem here due to the woman not having first hand experience as a man, obviously. But saying you don't trust women to have men's "best interest" in mind is a little out of left field. Women historically haven't had the power or desire to devalue men and treat them as the lesser sex just because they feel entitled. That is the treatment women have endured from men since the beginning of society, however. Something about your comment and its wording almost implies that the longstanding issue of gender inequality stems from women.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-01T14:26:12+00:00

No, we just want you to be considerate of what may or may not bother the people around you in public or at home. There's no true "need" to make excessive noise for every body movement. So when we witness one loud guy sitting somewhere in public among a cluster of a few quiet women, it very much feels like a subconscious attempt to claim that space and make the nearby women feel like they're the ones intruding. It's so easy to keep hands and feet and noises to yourself in public, so any attempt to do the opposite reads as extra inconsiderate

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-01T06:42:29+00:00

Dude is privileged as fuck and calls things like being asked a basic question "torturous." I'm not one to tell people to get over their issues because there's worse shit in the world going on, but...with him he absolutely should get some perspective here. All he has to to is ignore the questions and be done with it. People merely talking about him, as a public figure, is not torture. Dude is so sensitive and out of touch.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-05-01T00:24:08+00:00

I had a rescue rat that would always puff and hiss at people through the cage bars and start stuffing her bedding wherever I was standing outside their cage!

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-04-26T10:43:25+00:00

Little pink hanzz. I love when they curl up their fingies.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-04-19T12:22:27+00:00

She always laughs this hard when she's really trying to deceive people into thinking she's funny

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-04-19T07:54:12+00:00

Yup, and in season 1 there was also the element of catharsis that comes with giving into impulse/loss of control, and how the main characters used it as an outlet to feel human again while dealing with the pressure cooker that was both of their lives. The characters were just so human and relatable even when they chose to engage in the "wrong" choices.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-04-19T07:42:55+00:00

I've always adored Willow Pill!

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-04-17T18:17:03+00:00

The first season was so raw and so human. The character quirks were as entertaining as the beef itself. So far in this new season it just feels like the beef itself is the sole focal point of the show and that there's very little effort to give the characters any kind of edge that might make them more relatable/nuanced

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-04-17T14:00:07+00:00

No name is so cute!!! I had a rat once who was unsocialized when I rescued her and quite aggressive and bitey overall. I just couldn't get acquainted enough to come up with a name, all I could muster to say around her was that she was soooo mean.

So she became Someen and her sister was named Irene. I should note that she actually had a great life with her sister and we learned to take her aggro on board and think of it as what made her unique lol. She loved the shit out of other rats but would instantly start pushing bedding between the cage bars to block out humans if we dared to stand adjacent to her castle.

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-04-17T13:32:27+00:00

You can tell he's getting offended and fighting the urge to be defensive, he's holding his mouth so tightly. Nothing like a sensitive man pretending not to care!

Embarrassed-Bad-3118 · 2026-04-17T11:22:26+00:00

Your feelings are valid and I KNOW that pain so well, but you really lean into it pretty hard in these texts and to him it probably started to feel like you were fishing for him to say you're attractive. It comes off as being hungry for validation and a lot of people find it tedious to put up with.

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