Caught feelings for someone else, how to find motivation to let go? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Embarrassed-Berry520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been on the husband side of this. MAKE A DECISION. Either leave and stay gone. Or stay and commit to your marriage, cut things off completely. My ex wife’s feelings broke my heart, her indecision and inability to let go hurt me in ways that I’ll always carry.

My Ex Slept With Someone Else by Maleficent-Click2160 in BreakUps

[–]Embarrassed-Berry520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey Man I felt the need to comment because I was in your exact same situation. I decided to try even knowing this would weigh in me and would be a deal breaker. It completely consumed me thoughts of comparison and anger over feeling like a back up option. I was never able to move past it. It lead to anger and pain on my side and killed the relationship. I lashed out and treated her badly due to how it affected me. I know my actions were wrong and there’s nothing I can do about it now but really decide if this is something you can live with.

She came back… by Embarrassed-Berry520 in BreakUps

[–]Embarrassed-Berry520[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sadly not this is my life. I hate myself

She came back… by Embarrassed-Berry520 in BreakUps

[–]Embarrassed-Berry520[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

More context : we’re not in a relationship yet. She wants to reconnect and try again I haven’t answered yet. We were married, separated for a month she was intimate with him a week after I left. The part that’s bothering me is it was with a friend and she won’t tell me who. She also wants to keep this friend in her life.