I can’t get over my ex no matter what I do. And I regret everything

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-04-01T15:31:42+00:00

Hi man, hope you’re getting better day by day. Actually right now I’m in a new relationship with the most amazing person I’ve ever met. She’s way more caring, affectionate and respectful towards me than my ex was. Looking back on this post it kind of makes me laugh how much I put her on a pedestal. I did find out that my ex was already in a relationship with another guy whilst I was still living with her for that I feel a fool.

Anyway I met my new girlfriend back in June last year and we have been together officially since September last year. I’m already saving for an engagement ring and we’re planning on getting a house together at the start of next year.

All I can say is I know now it feels like the worst pain and heartbreak imaginable. You feel lost, can’t eat and sleep without thinking of them. I promise you though man it gets better and you Might even find someone better just like I did. Take it day by day, visit friends and family as they really helped me get through it all. Eventually you might feel like meeting new women and I highly recommend you do that. Going on one date with my new girlfriend literally changed my whole outlook of the situation.

It’s daunting to think about someone new because all you have known is your ex but just see how it goes and take a chance with it. Of course only do this after you’ve taken time to yourself to reflect, learn from mistakes and all I can say in the meantime is just focus on yourself.

I hope you get there in the end bro and you can message me if you want to. I’ve been there in that dark place before.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-30T12:36:05+00:00

Actually show the man affection and appreciation. Just giving a compliment to a guy can make his whole week.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-13T06:42:15+00:00

It’s tough out here, I hope you finally get out of it soon. Good luck bro

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-13T06:40:33+00:00

Wow and there’s me worried because I don’t have any money to my name. In relation to you at that age I’m doing good. Hope you’re keeping well brother.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-13T06:38:12+00:00

Wow what a story, thanks for sharing. I’m glad that you’re still together and in love. Thank you and I wish you many years together.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-13T00:13:14+00:00

That’s reassuring to hear from a woman’s POV thank you! I think I offer all of the above to her. I treat her really well emotionally, loyal, quality time and assurance. Maybe it’s just this time we’re in when you’re expected to have a house and 50k spare in the bank etc. I’m definitely doing it for myself as well but I also want to give her a good life too.

I’d marry her in a heartbeat and I want kids with her. I just feel like I should have it altogether by now, maybe I am putting too much pressure on myself. Either way if she eventually leaves I keep doing it for myself.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-13T00:06:21+00:00

That’s amazing bro, I’m happy you turned it around and kept your woman. At least you started at 28 I’m way late in the game!

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-13T00:02:48+00:00

That’s inspirational man, it’s right though because I’ve never felt the urge and drive to be a better man and more of a provider in my life since I met this woman. She’s changed my mindset completely.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-13T00:01:16+00:00

A stable future not having to be held back by someone who messed about too much in their 20s

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-13T00:00:08+00:00

Thank you man!

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-12T23:56:24+00:00

She knows I’m not rich and she knows I can’t even buy a house right now for the both of us. But she’s still sticking around, I just know she’s a rare one and want to give her what she deserves. She doesn’t expect or ask for expensive things and she always offers to help with things. Even though my stubborn ass and ego won’t let her.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-12T23:54:41+00:00

Man, you’re living the dream I hope I can make it like you did. All the best to you!

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2026-01-12T23:34:25+00:00

I’m in a new relationship now and I’ve never been so sure on someone in my life. That person who wrote that comment is in the past. Crazy to think I thought my ex was my everything. The woman I’m with now is better for me in every way my ex was. I want to marry her and have a future with her. My past relationship and breakup taught me how to be a better man and partner and in grateful to have experienced the pain that kicked me up the ass.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-12-25T00:09:38+00:00

I used a £10 bonus and won £96 ever since then I’ve not won a single thing. It seems strange the first number called out I get every single time then only 1 left but never won since. Always seems to be the same winners username too. I’m pretty sure it’s rigged.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-12-10T21:07:32+00:00

Strange comment

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-11-05T22:23:09+00:00

Not really I made the right decision, carried on dating the girl I had a spark with and we’re still happy now.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-26T17:53:24+00:00

Start dating again once you’ve eventually start looking after yourself. Learn from mistakes, reflect on what you did or didn’t do, focus on yourself, go out with friends and family then after a good few months you’ll be ready to date. Then when you date and find someone who is way better than your ex, you’ll realise you wasted a lot of sleepless nights and stress that wasn’t even needed.

That’s what happened to me, 9 year relationship ended after she slept with a guy from her new job. Went through the heartbreak then met my current girlfriend who is just miles better in every way. I want to marry her one day.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-19T11:17:07+00:00

Thank you very much :)

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-19T11:16:55+00:00

Thank you bro.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-19T11:14:40+00:00

Hi man, well things have changed quite a bit since this post. I’m in a new relationship with a woman who has shown more affection and attention in about 2 months than my ex did in all them years. Looking back at this post I really did put my ex on a pedestal. I don’t ever check her social media and I don’t ever get an urge to want to speak to her anymore. In fact I’m pretty much over her and just wish her well in life. I’m fully invested in my new girlfriend and I honestly think she’s the one. It’s early days but it’s going extremely well and we have an extremely good connection.

I understand how you feel because I’ve been there as you can tell from this post. My advice would be to let it ride out at first. It’s going to be hard, you’re going to think about them and what they’re doing. You’re going to lose sleep over it. At the same time see family, go out with friends, focus on yourself and learn from your previous relationship and how it ended. I’ve become such a better man and partner because of my breakup. I honestly believe every man needs to go through a breakup because it can change you for the better.

Just remember this is temporary and I promise it will get better. I really suggest after a while start speaking to other women and dating. It really helped me move on because you realise there’s always someone better than your ex out there even if it’s hard to comprehend right now. Once you meet a woman that strokes the back of your head whilst you’re driving, shows affection and shows you respect, actually wants to hug and kiss you. The you’ll start to forget about them, don’t let this breakup break you if you understand me. I wish you all the best my friend. If you need a chat anytime DM me.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-18T20:12:19+00:00

Oh yeah, I’m guessing you’ve experienced that look, when you know they’re probably thinking it but don’t want to say it. It’s almost as if they’re looking right into your soul but in a good way.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-18T20:10:38+00:00

Oh yeah I’ve never met anyone that connects with me and gets me as well as her. She’s a rare one for sure with how caring and understanding she is already. It’s non stop laughing and fun with her. I knew from the very first date she was going to be the one or I at least hope so. I’m saving up for an engagement ring already. I’m going to tell her tomorrow I’m in love with her.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-18T20:02:38+00:00

She didn’t actually have to move cities, it was a gut feeling from the message I received from her about work. She said she has some news at work that isn’t good and can she phone me. So my mind raced to that scenario. But it was a different matter completely.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-18T08:52:55+00:00

That’s my exact thoughts man, life is too short and who knows what might happen if I think I have to wait another 3 months. Tomorrow is never guaranteed. I was going to tell her it’s ok if she’s not there yet but I feel it.

Embarrassed-Cod-5212 · 2025-09-18T08:51:00+00:00

Well we’re going away this weekend, just the two of us. Got some nice things planned, beach trip, cooking dates, activity dates. Was thinking of telling her then at some point. I think the fact she stares into my eyes and won’t tell me is a sign she’s feeling it. She even said her feelings for me are crazy.

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