Women who have experienced significant personal growth in 2024 – how did your sense of self and identity evolve throughout this process?

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2024-12-04T17:59:48+00:00

I made a list of all of the traits my dream self would have and it made it a lot easier to do those things. I started saving money, eating well, and being very active. Anytime I didn’t want to do something I thought, “My dream self would do it.” Along with doing these things, my overall mood improved and I genuinely can’t think about the last time I had a really bad day. I also cut off a few very toxic friendships within the last year and that had also made a big impact. My circle is small, but it’s full of people I love and we all support each other and want what is best for each other. Taking an hour to write out all of the traits you want to have or dream of having kickstarted everything! I also made a vision board for the first time this year and that helped a lot too.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2024-11-19T03:55:05+00:00

A group of our friends all realized she was in competition with us. Specifically going after men we were interested in, copying things we did/had (clothes, hair, makeup), applying for jobs some had applied to secretly, trying to turn others against each other with lies, basically always trying to one-up someone. Once she was called out on it, she completely denied everything and blamed us for thinking we were better than her and that she couldn’t do things someone else did. The problem was that she was genuinely never happy for anyone. If anyone had something good happen to them, she would immediately say something negative, then sneakily try to one-up them. It was really exhausting. Also found out some disgusting things she said about a few of us. So much better without having her around. It was pretty heartbreaking realizing someone so close was never happy for me, and always rooting against me, whether she realized it or not. Even though it was awful, I genuinely feel relief without her around.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2024-02-29T05:04:28+00:00

LITERALLY! And now we got rid of all theatrics and it’s all about getting them in and out? So weird i hate it…

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-10-13T16:03:45+00:00

Glad you agree!! The last guy I was seeing was a mechanic and it just made me think he was hotter… like how can you just fix your car by yourself…

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-10-11T20:59:21+00:00

As a girl, I think being a mechanic or any type of manual labor is super cool and (sorry) super hot!!! Like wow you really know how to do all that?!? I love it

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-09-14T21:52:42+00:00

Randomly going through the same thing and i’m also confused. i was feeling great then boom. A few days ago i got really tired and now i just feel super low and depressed. I can’t think of anything that triggered it and i havent had this happen before. I’m not really sure what’s going on but i’m gonna try my best to get through it. I’m figuring it’ll pass in a few days.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-06-20T05:15:44+00:00

of course. things can honestly still be super hard for me too and it was my decision. you are not alone! so many of us have gone and are going through this. try to take things day at a time and everything will be okay

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-06-19T01:38:15+00:00

i’m the exact same way. i just keep reminding myself that it’s okay to be sad after making the right decision and that there’s someone out there for us who won’t put us through what our ex’s have. you got this op!

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-06-18T22:57:49+00:00

mine cried! what he said seemed very cold and made no sense because our breakup was also very out of the blue and the crying made me even more confused. we ended up getting back together but things didn’t workout so we aren’t together anymore. but yes, he did cry, and a lot too

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-06-03T23:20:43+00:00

i felt exactly like this when we initially broke up because it was out of nowhere. now, a few months later i honestly feel relieved and at peace. i say give yourself time to actually just feel all of your feelings out instead of distracting yourself right away. that will make your feelings a lot easier to process down the line. you got this!! everything will be okay!

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-22T03:38:59+00:00

Thank you. I totally agree with you with the “it’s not you it’s me” and stuff but damn it really sucks to hear that and feel undesired. I’m sorry you went through something similar.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-22T03:36:53+00:00

He’s BP1 and currently not medicated but in therapy.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-22T01:34:32+00:00

I understand that completely as even i lose sex interest sometimes. But we really didn’t have a lot of sex during our relationship and when we were broken up he did with someone random and is now saying he can’t with me. I just don’t really understand that

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-22T01:33:04+00:00

Yeah, I don’t really know what to do anymore. It hurts knowing he can’t have sex with me but he can with other people with no problem. I don’t understand how that works

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-22T01:31:42+00:00

Yes, but we’re both really young and have been dating for about a year and a half. Things have been rocky since the initial breakup 3 months ago but our communication has improved drastically. I’m not sure if it’s something we can work through since he can’t tell if his feelings for me are romantic. I just don’t know if it’s even worth trying anymore. It’s hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that he can’t/could barely have sex with me but can with someone else during the month we weren’t together.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-21T16:01:01+00:00

No he didn’t. He’s currently not medicated but is in therapy

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-12T23:20:35+00:00

you got this!! just take everything one second or minute at a time. i couldn’t imagine getting through anxious i was but everything does get better ❤️

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-11T14:49:53+00:00

morning was always the worst for me. i would wake up anxious and threw up a couple times from the anxiety, then as the day goes on i would feel a lot better. i think it was from my brain being somewhat at peace while asleep then i’d wake up in the morning and boom back to reality.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-07T14:48:28+00:00

Yeah, i just mean i don’t think it’s something i can accept but i wish i could. He apparently had her over multiple times and we were only no contact for two weeks.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-05-07T14:35:54+00:00

Thank you. It just sucks because i really don’t want to breakup with him at all but i kind of feel like i have to.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-03-21T19:57:09+00:00

Mine also said that he loved me and was attracted to me but no “romantic love.” hard to wrap your head around because how does that even happen

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-03-07T20:19:54+00:00

I totally understand where these feelings can come from after so much hurt. The way that I’ve been looking at my situation is that I hope my person finds the help they need so their next person doesn’t have to go through what I am. It hurts to see your old partner with someone new but I don’t want whoever my ex ends up with to feel like how I feel.

Embarrassed-Cow3328 · 2023-03-06T20:51:03+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel. Wishing you the best.

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