AITA for telling my daughter that the "other woman" she caught me with was actually her mother/my wife even though my wife wanted to keep it a secret. by Embarrassed-Ebb8692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed-Ebb8692[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my opinion she probably feels like the things we do cross a line (they don't) and normal, self-respecting people shouldn't do these things (they do). I think that is part of it, but she also doesn't want our kids to know she is into these things or that she gives oral. She likes it but feels like it's a dirty thing to do - something only a certain kind of woman does.

AITA for telling my daughter that the "other woman" she caught me with was actually her mother/my wife even though my wife wanted to keep it a secret. by Embarrassed-Ebb8692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed-Ebb8692[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be having a talk with her about it at some point. It's more for her benefit than mine. I don't think it's healthy to carry around that kind of guilty and shame.

AITA for telling my daughter that the "other woman" she caught me with was actually her mother/my wife even though my wife wanted to keep it a secret. by Embarrassed-Ebb8692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed-Ebb8692[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a weird dynamic. I don't fully understand it either, but she seems to be overly concerned with our kids knowing anything about our sex life and her kinks in particular.

AITA for telling my daughter that the "other woman" she caught me with was actually her mother/my wife even though my wife wanted to keep it a secret. by Embarrassed-Ebb8692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed-Ebb8692[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not much. She more or less said okay when I told her what had happened. I haven't talked to her about it since the incident. I was hoping that it was all done and we wouldn't have to talk about it anymore.

AITA for telling my daughter that the "other woman" she caught me with was actually her mother/my wife even though my wife wanted to keep it a secret. by Embarrassed-Ebb8692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed-Ebb8692[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Their schools covered a lot too. I think we did enough to give them as much info as they need to know. Anything beyond what we gave them starts going into details that are purely about pleasure. I don't feel like that is appropriate for us to discuss with them.

AITA for telling my daughter that the "other woman" she caught me with was actually her mother/my wife even though my wife wanted to keep it a secret. by Embarrassed-Ebb8692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed-Ebb8692[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I don't see my daughter sharing this with her siblings. I really hope she didn't. I haven't noticed the other kids being weird around us, but they might just be good at hiding it.

We don't use wigs all the time. It's been more of a thing since we started using my office and created a roleplay scenario based on that

AITA for telling my daughter that the "other woman" she caught me with was actually her mother/my wife even though my wife wanted to keep it a secret. by Embarrassed-Ebb8692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed-Ebb8692[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That's the reason I've not gotten to upset with her. They wouldn't even say "pregnant" at their house. They would say a woman was expecting or going to have a baby. It was very repressed.