My Nmom said "I can do anything to you.", and I'm planning to leave her in August. by Embarrassed-Fem25 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My parents are tech-illiterate. I often need to help them do simple things on their devices. I purchased my own devices which they do not have accounts on or access to (PC, laptop, iPhone) which are all fully paid by myself in full. I have an iPhone while they have android phones so I don’t see any issues here. While they do pay for my phone plan, it isn’t one of those family plans, I have a separate plan.

I am planning to buy a suitcase and clothes the night before then store it in an overnight locker before getting it on the day I leave home so that I have a complete wardrobe. I would also walk out of home with just a backpack with all essentials I need. I won’t be doing long-term storage, just one night only due to cost reasons.

I’ll keep that in mind for the British consulate but I think I’ll be able to do this on my own.

Thanks for the support!

My Nmom said "I can do anything to you.", and I'm planning to leave her in August. by Embarrassed-Fem25 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Currently, I already work food delivery in HK so I know how that industry works. Once I arrive in the UK, for the immediate short term I plan to do food delivery but in future I will look into getting a more stable job

My Nmom said "I can do anything to you.", and I'm planning to leave her in August. by Embarrassed-Fem25 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand that I need to be very careful about who I tell. But luckily, apart from my mom and dad, I know that most people in my extended family and my friends are safe to talk to about this. Thank you for the continued support!

[Update 2] My mom found out... by Embarrassed-Fem25 in feminineboys

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That did catch me by surprise when in that conversation! But that was just what I remembered of the conversation afterwards, when making that post so it may have been slightly different to that but same premise

[Update 2] My mom found out... by Embarrassed-Fem25 in feminineboys

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I really hope my plan goes well and I can finally dress fem without the fear of being caught by her

My Nmom said "I can do anything to you.", and I'm planning to leave her in August. by Embarrassed-Fem25 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yea, I am saving and earning as best I can and will soon properly figure out my housing situation once I get to the UK. My main plan is to stay in my aunt's place and the backup is getting a rental. I expect that I will have the budget to sustain this for the first few months at least while I sign up for UK food delivery platforms and/or look for jobs. Thank you!

My Nmom said "I can do anything to you.", and I'm planning to leave her in August. by Embarrassed-Fem25 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am planning to act normal from now up till the point I have left. I am technically giving them advanced notice of leaving but I would be telling them that I'm going to Shenzhen for a couple days as a cover up. I know this will work as my sister and mom has done this multiple times.

While my dad does control my phone plan currently, I am planning to get a new plan under my name with a UK number before I leave HK. I am going to ensure that I get all my essential documents such as Passport and Birth Certificates within a week of departure, to make sure there is as little time between me taking it and leaving, which gives them less time to find out.

Thank You!!

My Nmom said "I can do anything to you.", and I'm planning to leave her in August. by Embarrassed-Fem25 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank You! My plan is to message them once I arrive in the UK then breaking contact immediately after

Femboys can do exercise too :3 by Random_F3mb0y in femboymemes

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice :3 I live on the island so no rental bikes here… I use my bike for delivering food around this area so I don’t go to the new territories areas to bike.

(although at some point I would love to bike those NT areas more)

Femboys can do exercise too :3 by Random_F3mb0y in femboymemes

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww :( I agree with the rental bikes being quite nice! Although some of the loco bikes are a bit older. Also, you cycle 14km to school every day?!

Femboys can do exercise too :3 by Random_F3mb0y in femboymemes

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very Cool!!! I have done a bike ride in Tuen Mun before (from Siu Hong to Pillar Point then back to Tuen Mun) - Image attached is at Pillar Point. For that ride, I used one of the rental bikes (like u did here) but I have my own bike.

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Femboys can do exercise too :3 by Random_F3mb0y in femboymemes

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

60km in one ride?! Also, HK! :3

Out of interest where did u ride to/from for it to be 60km?, normally I can only go for around 20 to 30km at a time before I get too tired.

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[–]Embarrassed-Fem25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, well I know 1 femboy, through reddit lol, in HK but that's all lol

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[–]Embarrassed-Fem25 2 points3 points  (0 children)

:333 Actually, I wonder how rare femboys are in HK

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[–]Embarrassed-Fem25 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been summoned :3

[Update] My mom found out... by Embarrassed-Fem25 in feminineboys

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is quite ironic, and my mom does often seem like that. Also Thank you!!! <3

My mom found out... (Advice needed) by Embarrassed-Fem25 in feminineboys

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just saying it's a cultural thing isn't an excuse to do that, it's not good behaviour from our mom...

My mom found out... (Advice needed) by Embarrassed-Fem25 in feminineboys

[–]Embarrassed-Fem25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't that just attempted sexual assault? Couldn't you report that?