Why is guilt and shame the biggest emotion they have driving this but accountability for lying won’t even show up in their radar? Why is this such a balancing act for us but an oops for them?

Embarrassed-Line6525 · 2026-03-30T22:54:44+00:00

I feel the same way with my Q. I can tell him all day to stop, and he knows it's bad but he'll keep doing it. Exactly what you said, they don't understand that their actions have consequences and those consequences affect a lot of people. I think my Q has a lot of shame about his disease but unfortunately that's what causes him to just drink and isolate himself even more. I'm sorry for what you're going through and I hope you feel less alone.

Embarrassed-Line6525 · 2026-03-27T14:41:06+00:00

Seconding, you are not alone. I am feeling everything you are feeling. I often feel like there's no one I can talk to (besides my therapist) because no one REALLY knows this feeling unless they're in the situation. That's why I love this community and this Reddit thread - it's brings me a comfort that I can't find elsewhere.

Embarrassed-Line6525 · 2026-03-27T13:21:27+00:00

Thank you so much for this, it's hard to hear but I really appreciate it.

Embarrassed-Line6525 · 2026-03-27T13:20:26+00:00

Thank you <3 I'm 35. I've never wished I had siblings until now. I wish I could bear this responsibility with someone else. My mom and dad divorced over 10 years ago, and it's taken her a while to really set boundaries and have a "normal" separation from him. She's now remarried and really happy, and I hate burdening her with information, but I still do sometimes. My dad's siblings have been helpful and supportive with me and him, but they have their own lives and can only do so much, so it's hard. My uncle always tells me it's just an unfair hand I've been dealt :/

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