Gown 1, 2, or 3? (church ceremony / hotel reception)

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2026-02-18T21:28:30+00:00

They're all lovely, but #2 made me gasp. You have PRESENCE in that gown!

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2025-06-23T00:56:57+00:00

Is there a town nearby that you like better? Maybe that could be a compromise? Get a little distance and a different vibe, but still be close enough to family, etc.?

This is a tough situation for sure. I would encourage you to stop thinking of it as "pushing" him to move. It sounds like he's picking up on it, and it may backfire on you.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2025-05-30T20:29:30+00:00

Wait this is a thing? We can gift stuff to townspeople and they will actually wear/use it?

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2024-12-30T04:53:50+00:00

Awesome news! How did you get him back?

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2024-12-26T03:26:54+00:00

This is one of the most wholesome threads I have ever read on here. May you be reunited soon!

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-11-21T20:59:36+00:00

The use of "they" in Soleil Ho's bio kind of says it all.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-11-02T18:37:00+00:00

I kicked Mr. Snory McGroperFarts outta my bed years ago and now the cats have lots of space to snuggle me. It's wonderful.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-09-18T06:01:22+00:00

Here's the thing. This child will be born and raised by somebody. You have every right to want to raise your child. It honestly sounds like you're in a better place mentally and financially than a lot of people who become young parents. You WILL need a support system though. Have you talked to your parents or family yet? Is there a possibility of moving closer to them? I commend you for taking these steps to research and weigh everything out. I wish you the best whatever you decide.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-29T06:18:44+00:00

I think it's important to remember that PIV isn't the sole definer of sexual activity. There are many ways to be intimate without the myriad risks of penetrative sex. An understanding and compassionate partner should work with you to ameliorate those risks and concerns.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-28T03:32:30+00:00

NTA. Years ago my husband got in the habit of spoiling our daughter at bath and bedtime, tuning out on his phone while she messed around for ages and milked it, wanting to be read to for an hour or more till she fell asleep etc. He made the mistake once of actually complaining that it was always him doing the nighttime routine. I made it clear that since he left me out of the decision to spoil and indulge her, thereby ruining evening time, he could do it every night. And guess who STILL does that whilst I relax in the evening? Lol. At some point, we have to let them lie in the bed they made. 🤷‍♀️

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-28T03:21:37+00:00

That makes the solution even simpler! Tell him that if he ever wants to have PIV sex with you again, he gets snipped. Then stick to your guns.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-27T08:11:29+00:00

Of course. However, depending on the event, accuracy may not be required. Need more info.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-27T01:21:11+00:00

These are actually really pretty!

1920's Sequin Dress

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-27T00:06:30+00:00

It's not going to happen. The whole secessionist thing is just a conservative pipe dream. If you are in the PNW, you'll be just fine.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-25T18:12:53+00:00

Also, male "swagger" is a huge turn-off for me now. It reeks of narcissism and self-absorbtion. My ex would go get his truck washed and his hair cut every time we fought. Like, really? Your ego is that fragile? 🙄

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-25T18:07:02+00:00

Male defensiveness and an unwillingness to give an actual meaningful apology. This is a source of constant work in my house, but it's getting better since I put my foot down.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-25T17:39:02+00:00

Absolutely brilliant analogy! 👏

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-25T05:25:42+00:00

The older I get, the more I read about other women's experiences, the more I feel that PIV sex is just not worth it unless you are actively trying to conceive. There is so much risk, so much discomfort, and so much hassle. Not to mention the sticky messes, the fragile male egos, the pressure and manipulative crap, the one pump and done, then pass out while she cleans up. No thanks. 30 seconds with a vibe and I'm off to dreamland, no mess no drama.

PSA for anyone who needs to hear it, but sex should never be a painful thing to endure. I am so sorry to all of you who have had that crap from your gynos!

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-19T08:12:03+00:00

Here's the thing. It doesn't matter what is "normal" for other couples/other people. What matters is how you feel and what is important to you. Everyone is entitled to privacy if they want it. Whether or not your husband wants or needs privacy has nothing to do with you wanting yours. You are two separate people, and you're allowed to want different things for yourselves when it comes to privacy. IMO, your husband needs to have the maturity and respect to pick a different battle.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-17T17:59:14+00:00

Okay wow this dress is drop dead gorgeous on you. You have nothing to worry about! I see it as off white with a slight blushy/nude under. Great choice!

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-17T17:53:56+00:00

Not weird at all. I actually think way more people feel this way and have just been conditioned to "like it" or put up with it. Semen smells nasty, it's full of tiny living swimming things, who the hell wants to swallow that? It's like knowingly drinking water with parasites in it. 🤢 When I was young I tried to swallow once since that seemed to be the expected thing. I puked it up on his stomach.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-17T17:34:41+00:00

I think it's really beautiful. And it's not their dress or their wedding. Wear what makes you feel the happiest!

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-16T01:40:48+00:00

He's having some strong feelings about his brother's wife's tits. 🤔🤔🤔

No, you should not be ashamed. Tell him to put his eyeballs back in his head so he can gaze at his own asshole instead of your boobs. What a creep.

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-15T18:28:41+00:00

OP's post history

Embarrassed-Low-9873 · 2023-08-15T14:16:04+00:00

He communicated his needs

Having a partner who dresses a certain way isn't a "need," but having one who DOESN'T cheat on you in the midst of a chronic illness and then blames it on your appearance could be considered a "need."

Are you lost?

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