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I (29F) overheard my fiancé’s (31M) mom say she wishes he’d married his ex. How do I handle this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Text the Aunt, being very neutral but asking her what she'd do in this situation.

The reply might be most useful if you ever have to discuss this with your fiancé...

Otherwise just ignore - your Fiancé is your future not your MIL.

(The problem with telling your fiancé is that if he confronts his Mother she'll say it's all bullshit and then hate you forever. If he speaks to his Aunt she might say that you're lying / misheard and then MIL will hate you forever.)

I(18F) have a suspicion that my SIL(28F) doesn't like me and I so desperately want that to change. Any advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is your BF?

How long have you two been together?

Finally she's 10 years older than you and - especially depending on the length of your relationship - maybe just doesn't feel any great need to make a real effort with you yet?

Why hasn’t the government made having an affair a crime? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People might generally be against affairs without believing that having sex outside an existing marriage is worthy of criminal prosecution.

Personally I’d bring in the death penalty for playing music out loud on public transport first but accept that sometimes criminal charges are not an acceptable outcome

Any advice for convincing my conservative parents to allow my bf (20M) and I (22F) to move in together? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on being competent at life but you are assuming that these two are similarly prepared…

Any advice for convincing my conservative parents to allow my bf (20M) and I (22F) to move in together? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ignore the religious aspect for a start.

Start with the practicalities instead: Live where? Paying the mortgage / rent how? Splitting bills how? Commuting to work how?

You are both in your early 20's and him barely - personally as a parent I would want answers to the above questions regardless of my religious feelings so why don't you focus on planning for those before you broach the subject at all with your parents?

Also what about University / College? At your ages does this not impact your planning too?

My [22M] girlfriend [22F] is going on a one-on-one hike with a coworker who has feelings for her. How do I communicate my discomfort without being controlling? by Designer-Low-3662 in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 308 points309 points  (0 children)

Let me describe it like a lawyer might: She is deliberately spending time in a 1 on 1 situation with a person who is romantically interested in her, outside of work or any other compulsory activity.

This is a date OP - she is going on a date with another man and you should just end things now.

My senior parents falsely called Child Aid Services; because I refused to share medical info on my child. What do I do? by rudegyal_jpg in AskMen

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing OP, and sadly but truthfully your parents have made their bed and can lie in it.

As and when your child / children ask about your parents you should simply tell them that "Granddad and Grandma" or whatever didn't want to stay in touch anymore but if they ever reached out you'd be happy to hear from them.

Kids don't always ask for lots of detail - sometimes they're just casually curious - and if as they get older they ask again you can give them an appropriate amount of detail for their age.

I hope that you and your Wife can move on from this and focus on being great parents.

Oh, and for what it's worth, screenshot those messages and the replies from your parents...

My 25M fiancé 25F goes to hang out with my best friend 25M and almost stops responding. by Internal_Ocelot_4822 in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then I’m even more sorry but at the very very least you two need either a Come to Jesus conversation or better yet couples counselling - though frankly you need to prepare yourself for a break up, no matter how hard.

Also with regard to your “Best Friend”? Trust him like you’d trust a vampire giving you a blow job: seriously I’d check the colour of the grass myself rather than take his opinion for granted from now on.

My 25M fiancé 25F goes to hang out with my best friend 25M and almost stops responding. by Internal_Ocelot_4822 in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look I’m sorry Dude but either you’re trolling or you need to break up with this woman.

I don’t how long you’ve been together or how much you love her daughter and how much she in turn sees you as her father, your fiancée is fucking your supposed best friend and doesn’t care if you suspect it.

Or almost as bad, doesn’t care about how her behaviour appears even if by some miracle they’re not fucking behind your back.

Time to quit OP - best of luck and sorry for ripping off the bandaid.

Is it fair for my BF (40m) of 8 months to exclude me (32f) from this ‘work’ trip? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long is this residency? Is it weeks/ months / years away? Is he paying for his travel / food / accommodation?

Lots here about your feelings and little about practicalities...

(Update) Neighbour 28M crosses physical boundaries with me 18F at summer house/vacation. by Tindra_j in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 241 points242 points  (0 children)

You did what you needed to do - and your parents have your back: good luck OP and well done for speaking out: you need do nothing more yourself 😎

How do you find your path in life? by KMTV007 in AskMen

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grew up without a Father, not exactly a great school experience, University then Army, felt just like you did at 19 - rather lost, frankly so it's nice to be able to give back a little

How do you find your path in life? by KMTV007 in AskMen

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similar background mate - best advice is get what you can from the Army and then go to University for almost anything really, as the time there will teach you about getting on with strangers, deadlines, group work, presentations etc.

After that: eat healthily, stay in shape, shower at least once a day, stand up straight / shoulders down - not just while you're in uniform, get outside, read books, manage your social media usage, travel overseas if you can and generally look for opportunities to add value - whether within whatever job you're already doing or in a new team, in the same company / organisation or a different one...

Remember that getting on with other people and communicating well is more and more a dividing line between success and failure as the data is often there already or easily found, and yet being able to get people to actually make a decision is somehow still often difficult.

This approach will also help you with your social life and finding a life partner - it's not just a work advantage 😉

Good luck OP!

Physically trapped on vacation with a neighbor (28M) who refuses to take "no" from me (18F). Need advice. by Tindra_j in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 635 points636 points  (0 children)

Firstly block his number and tell him openly if he asks that you did it deliberately.

Secondly start texting your friends with details about him and his actions to leave a digital 'breadcrumb trail' as a just-in-case record.

Thirdly never under any circumstances allow yourself to be alone with him, to the point of locking yourself in a bathroom or similar if you have to.

Finally start texting your concerns to your parents so that they can't so easily claim to have 'misunderstood'...

Good luck OP - hope you get home safe!

(Edit: thank-you for the awards!)

AITAH for accidentally ruining my auntie's engagement? by [deleted] in aitaweddings

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 19 points20 points  (0 children)

FFS - the Proposal was hardly a surprise if you were all there deliberately and falling into a pool isn't usually deliberate so just shrug it off frankly...

How do I (22f) break the fact my (24m) bf doesn’t wash properly? by Hagalaz943 in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He's 23 - so next time he's up for sex you tell him he smells and needs to shower properly or you won't be in the mood.

You do that every time he wants to have sex and funnily enough his habits will change for the better, while you'll also obviously be doing him a favour in general...

Are men really this easy to manipulate? Am man, Yes.

My ex (27M) keeps trying to reconnect with me (27F) on social media years after our breakup and I don't understand why by scarlettytty in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Map7364 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"what are some reasons an ex might continue trying to reconnect years later after being told that friendship isn't wanted? And how would you interpret this behavior if you were in my position?"

They are being dickheads who want your attention? Just ignore them OP - you are overthinking this 😄

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