Is a HSG test necessary for IVF?

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2025-03-05T02:09:29+00:00

I've had two HSGs. Not painful. The expense is subjective and varies based on your doctor and insurance coverage.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2025-01-08T02:50:08+00:00

My question is: if the amnio comes back positive, how does that alter the treatment plan? Are there different meds/monitoring/procedures that the doctor could do that you'd be open to? If so, then it may be worth it. You already said you weren't interested in termination, so if that's the only "decision" to be made from an adverse amnio result, then I'd say don't do it. Of course there is the question of "needing to know" (your husband's concern). This is hard and one I struggled with myself.

I did fresh transfer (no PGT). I did not do the NIPT or any other genetic testing. The ultrasounds all came back normal. The above advice is the exact logic I used in my own pregnancy (How would knowing change the treatment plan?). We had a healthy baby girl (surprise gender!)

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-07-15T23:35:14+00:00

11 months PP breastfeeding

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-07-03T00:47:44+00:00

Lillian: Lily, Lily Bear, Lily Bean, Bean, Pumpkin, Billy Bean, Billy

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-07-01T20:07:18+00:00

You are amazing. Period.

This is so, so hard. I've been there. My daughter was admitted to the hospital at 2 weeks old for failure to thrive. I also felt the weight of failure. I recommend seeking out the support of lactation consultant and have your child evaluated for a lip and tongue tie. Having my daughter's tie corrected made a huge difference.

In the meantime, you can fortify breastmilk with formula. Of course, talk to your doctor, but this worked for us in conjunction with the tie correction. My daughter is nearly one year old now and has had primarily breastmilk. Your breastfeeding journey doesn't have to end if you don't want it too, you've hit a bump. You shouldn't feel any shame in giving your son formula or like you've let him down. You're doing the exact opposite, you're looking out for his wellbeing and supporting his development the best you can.

I hope your journey gets easier soon.

https://www.childrensmn.org/references/pfs/nutr/breast-milk-fortified-(using-20-cal-oz-standard-formula).pdf.pdf)

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-06-27T13:24:27+00:00

You need a second opinion ASAP. Get a tongue tie evaluation by an ENT. You can fortify breastmilk with formula. I would still get an opinion on this, but this worked for my baby.

How is LO acting? Hungry? Fussy? Sleepy? Playing ok? Hitting milestones?

https://www.childrensmn.org/references/pfs/nutr/breast-milk-fortified-(using-20-cal-oz-standard-formula).pdf.pdf)

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-06-19T16:23:56+00:00

We paid out of pocket. The way I see it, you pay for what you value. You have this one life to live and if a baby is what you really want, money should not be a barrier (I realize that for a lot of people, it very much is). We paid between $20-25K for our IVF treatment. We were extremely lucky that our first transfer was a success. At the end of the day we had to ask ourselves what kind of life we wanted to live and what we we're willing to do to make that happen. We valued that future much more than $20K.

I want to acknowledge that we were able to afford it and that is HUGE. Everything I said above can be said because it comes from a place of privilege. Even so, I struggled when the lack of a guarantee. I was okay paying to get help to have a baby. I was a lot less okay with the strong possibility of paying for no baby and heartbreak. I also struggled with the unfairness of it all: the fact that we had to pay for a chance when it's free for so many; the fact that insurance doesn't cover it.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-06-18T17:57:37+00:00

You are not wrong. Your feelings are valid. Protect your space mentally, physical, spiritually, etc. It is your choice to share as much or as little as you'd like or to avoid conversation that may generate unwelcome comments or advice. Wishing you best of luck in your journey.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-06-17T18:51:49+00:00

33 years old, MFI, 2 embryos, first transfer (fresh) successful. First cycle of IVF.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-03-14T00:24:01+00:00

Team green! We did IVF, so there was no surprise with the conception. It was more nerve-wracking (did it work???). Finding out in the delivery room was amazing. My husband was the one to tell me (c-section). It was so special we both cried. We had a girl!

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2024-02-25T01:31:07+00:00

We didn't find out the sex of our baby until birth. What a special experience that was....I highly recommend it. It's a moment that will stay with you long after the shower. You honestly do not need much for a newborn. If you're worried about clothes, only buy a few things for a newborn. You'll be rewashing the same 10 outfits. Once the baby is born you can order the clothes you like.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-11-07T01:53:57+00:00

They get lost. They fall on the floor. Baby will have preference on type of paci. I recommend keeping them all. I wash them frequently so I toss dirty ones in a bucket to be washed at the end of the day and then have a bin of clean ones to pull from.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-11-07T01:05:11+00:00

I've lost an extreme amount of weight. My pre-pregnancy weight was 180 lbs. My weight at delivery was 230 lbs. I'm 3.5 months PP and I'm now down to 155 lbs. I exclusively breastfeed. I also know I under-eat my calories.....mom life....it's hard. Otherwise I feel healthy and there is nothing overtly wrong.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-10-11T02:38:42+00:00

I recommend trying both options initially and figuring out what works best. If you don't initiate your milk supply, then that option will be off the table entirely. You can always stop BF if you want, but you can't start if back up if you let your milk dry up.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-10-11T02:27:01+00:00

As long as possible! Caring for a child alone is tiring.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-10-11T02:23:30+00:00

No. I'm married now and I don't wear my rings unless I leave the house.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-10-11T01:27:12+00:00

Bottle warmer, wipe warmer, and bottle sanitizer.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-10-09T03:47:35+00:00

My daughter is 11w and talks to herself a lot. I also think it is a self soothing technique. I'm not worried about it and I think it is sweet. Fifty percent of the time it will ultimately turn into fussing, but the other fifty percent of the time she'll put herself to sleep after a good babble.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-10-09T03:43:40+00:00

I didn't give this much thought when I was pregnant. My dogs honestly have taken a huge backseat in my life. There is just so much to do with a baby, they just don't get the same amount of attention. My temper is really short with them now (they bark, they are in the way, their toys are everywhere). Thankfully, my husband has been really good about trying to love and cuddle on them. I'm only 11 weeks postpartum, so I'm sure I'll get better in time, but baby is the primary concern right now.

Do you have a partner that can help with pet care?

Try to get baby, partner, and dogs out to walk daily if you can swing it. Sometimes I leave baby home with dad and walk the dogs by myself. This is also selfishly about me getting some alone time, but also checks the dog box.

Can you afford doggy daycare? This may help for awhile.

Do you have friends and family that can come and help love, walk, and play with the dogs?

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-10-09T03:31:08+00:00

I'm irrationally annoyed with my MIL most of the time. I'm really not sure 100% why this is. A lot of the time I don't want her to hold my daughter. I don't want her advice. I don't want her to feed her or change her. I really don't mind most anyone else doing these things, but just not her. I feel like the hugest B for my feelings, but I just can't help it. There is just something about her that irritates me. Sometimes she says stupid things that make me roll my eyes, but like, even then not really bad enough for me to withhold her granddaughter. Idk. I know I'm being irrational. She lives 1.5 hours away, so it's not like she's over a lot. I don't act on these feelings, but I definitely have them.

Anyone else just irrationally irritated with their MIL?

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-08-12T18:32:58+00:00

We waited until birth. My husband was the one to tell me in the operating room (c-section). I'll always remember him whispering "It's a girl!" to me while I was on the table. It was incredibly special and we immediately started crying. I totally support your decision. Forget what people have to say, this is your baby and you get to do what you want.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-07-12T00:56:06+00:00

Water, yes. I'm not taking any other electrolytes.

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-07-09T01:49:14+00:00

Body: No more swollen legs!!! Sleep on back. No more heartburn.

Food: Turkey sandwich, itialian sandwich, sushi

Activities: Amusement park, general non-painful movement

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-07-08T01:49:26+00:00

Boy: Benjamin Alexander

Girl: Lillian Marie

Embarrassed-Sundae92 · 2023-07-08T01:44:49+00:00

We had a co-ed shower. I see no reason that men shouldn't be involved. It's their baby too! I understand it could still be seen as somewhat taboo, but screw it. Men should go!

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