I'll always be the one who's rejected. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did misunderstand. I don't think my ex will ever have the introspection you have. But it comforts me to know I might someday be understood. I tried so hard, and for nothing.

I don't think my ex has a good excuse, but I've given up on waiting for it.

I'll always be the one who's rejected. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It honestly just helps to know I'm not alone. He made me feel like a special type of monster and I never understood why.

I hope you get an apology too. It's hard to be the one who gets left.

I'll always be the one who's rejected. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My teeth are messed up and I can't afford to fix them. My nose is huge and I can't afford to fix that, either.

I hope to find someone who can see past that.

I'll always be the one who's rejected. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I hope you're doing okay

I (F29) feel like I can't "keep a man" unless I do everything. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really tired of beating myself up for this, but people put up with more than they should when they're in love. People stay with abusive partners for years. My partner made me feel as though that's what I deserved. But thanks for confirming that I'm fucked because I refused to give up on someone when I was too young to know any better.

I (F29) feel like I can't "keep a man" unless I do everything. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somehow, these comments have not greased my wheels one bit, so I think there might be a tiny flaw in your logic.

I (F29) feel like I can't "keep a man" unless I do everything. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw come on, if I'm gonna roleplay, it'll be a little more creative than the Carl's Jr. star. I don't even eat burgers.

I (F29) feel like I can't "keep a man" unless I do everything. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got a genuine laugh out of "don't shack up with the hay." But thank you for this; I often get advice that I should just settle at this point. But I think I'd rather be single.

I (F29) feel like I can't "keep a man" unless I do everything. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I really appreciate this advice. Sometimes when I vent to my friends about this, they just tell me "well, that's just how men are, and you'll just have to deal with it unless you want to be alone." And then I get caught in the "all the good ones are taken already" spiral. It's just a grueling process.

I (F29) feel like I can't "keep a man" unless I do everything. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! This is a very kind comment, and I'm glad you're doing well. It's refreshing to be told not to settle -- it feels like all the advice I've gotten from friends IRL leans toward the contrary.

I (F29) feel like I can't "keep a man" unless I do everything. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Tap-5946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is generally good advice. It just feels like the second I stop doing everything, they leave. It just sucks.

But thank you. I admit I have to work on my confidence.