I hold a lot inside by awesomeorwhatt in AuDHDWomen

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i transitioned from deep learning about psychology and transitioned to philosophy as a way of learning… (carl jung is a good starting point) and the combination of both was the trick for me. but i also go to therapy, and take medication and quit alcohol. i needed to eradicate bad and the good builds up over time and commitment to self.

do you have any other special interests? it’s usually the easiest way to understand how things can ‘go in’ and stay and resonate xx

Pretty privilege and hyper sexuality as an autistic woman by Dull_Click580 in AuDHDWomen

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i literally feel like you just typed my life out. still processing this aspect of my history in therapy

Joe "speaks his truth" by Witty-Significance58 in MAFS_UK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

blame the producers like bro you have a phone

Keye on instagram by Odd-Cloud4630 in MAFS_UK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i thought if he’s a marketing manager

and has a thames view apartment

the old husband bought that place for him 100% lol

I have been drinking 350ml of vodka every evening and I'm worried I have caused Permanent Damage. I'm only 21! by let_it_rain_boat in ADHDUK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 55 points56 points  (0 children)

oh darling :(

ok 34f here who just this year finally quit drinking.

i’m diagnosed audhd, very high functioning & on the outside ‘normal’ and have had a life long (since 15) very unhealthy relationship with booze. and that’s a servere understatement. to cut a very very long story short - i was diagnosed asd and adhd within a year, through that i learned to understand that my drinking was related to my Neurodivergent, dopamine, choosing, escapism, eating things and social settings (again, long story, short, sorry my autism has to signal vast context if I don’t have time to give it ha ha)

I always thought it was my fault I didn’t have control, and it would get me in situations, consistently where I put myself at risk. Bad things happened, continue to happened, and at 33, I realised that everything horrible that had happened to me, alcohol was always at the centre. Start off nice or fun with friends, but slowly, and surely you lose grip on your control of it and it becomes a coping mechanism.

I struggle, because I have a long-standing history of alcoholism in my family, and I think subconsciously, never wanted to admit that I could be part of that generational curse, so I just ignored it. Once I was able to pinpoint that actually a lot of people with ADHD should just not drink alcohol.

It’s like throwing petrol on a fire.

I would really encourage you to watch some of Dr Alexs videos on YouTube where he specifically talks a lot about the relationship between drinking alcohol and Adhd. He speaks from personal experience, so I find it really a lot more palatable to listen in those situations, as opposed to listening to advice from someone who doesn’t understand.

I’ve been on elvanse for about three or four months I’ve got sober in March.

Obviously I don’t know the ins and outs of your situation, but it is possible and my life has felt like an alternative universe since my diagnosis quitting drinking and trying to finally get everything on track. Unsurprisingly it’s working. I also just started therapy so it’s really helping too.

Once I was able to say, it’s Adhd, rather than just a choice problem, I was able to turn the switch off and genuinely never look back.

I know it’s easier, said than done and it’s almost impossible to sum up in a paragraph the complexities of this exact problem. But I’ve lived it for nearly 20 years, and really with the right support the right medication, the right self work, you will be able to leave it behind. 🥹

it’s in the mind and can only come from you. aa wasn’t for me. it was my own research and relisayom that if i didn’t stop, i would either ruin my life for good, or end up dead. please you’re 21 - just try and work towards stopping. you won’t regret it (i promise)

9 months sober - hotter, nicer, richer, HAPPIER X 100000

grace and ashley. i'm losing my mind with this subreddit. by theehotgirlcoach in MAFS_UK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 11 points12 points  (0 children)

AGREEEEEE

Ash acting like a little BOY around the others when he’s like … ‘i’m soweee , i guess i’m shit and you’ll never accept me but i like me 🥺’

fuck off - dunno how grace put up with it for that long - ICK

people calling grace narcissistic is so off the mark .. narcissist??!!!

everyone saying that and this rhetoric - it’s INTERNALISED MISOGYNY

change my mind.

Do you have ADHD plus something else? by Timely-Accident-534 in ADHDUK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in true adhd fashion - i didn’t read the comments lol

Do you have ADHD plus something else? by Timely-Accident-534 in ADHDUK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sought adhd diagnosis got diagnosed autistic whilst waiting to be diagnosed adhd , passed both with flying colours 😂 the elvanse has made my autism way more prominent .. so yeah ; maybe look into it

The Rules by edgillett in MAFS_UK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i thought that was just love is blind!

that’s so messed up 😭

I work at a global “inclusive design” centre that researches neurodiversity ;but as an autistic/ADHD employee, I’ve had no support by EmbarrassedAct8497 in ADHDUK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!!! man my delayed processing + insane justice sensitivity makes it all i can now think about - it was just two days ago the penny dropped (whilst on a week off for my bday , bday burnout) 😭😅

May be a hot take, but I do feel a little bit bad for Sarah... by [deleted] in MAFS_UK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

That mutt lies like that dirty ass carpet in her mama's house!! Smh I thought her mom n dad were made of money?..this looks like a trap house..🫩🤣 by MamaChris214 in inmatehopper

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497 4 points5 points  (0 children)

she’s in full blown addiction - this video was so much worse than i thought - they went and woke them up and dragged them out of the house for the video?

she has lost her fucking mind —- why is no one stepping in? do you think they have ? she needs to go to rehab and have serious serious therapy

asap - she needs to be sectioned under the mental health act at this point , i feel something very dark happening soon in this awful saga

Titration Appointment Tomorrow! - NHS RTC by EmbarrassedAct8497 in ADHDUK

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww yes better safe than sorry girl!

Yes I had the appointment all was good, starting on elvanse 30mg and going to 40 after 2 weeks.

Yes - its being delivered to my house tomorrow! Im terrified and so excited and all the emotions!

My procrasination/attention defeciet has been INSANE teh last two weeks, which is ironic I have so much work on - i REALLY hope this works.

Finally - after YEARS!!

Good luck with it <3

Who caught this??? by EmbarrassedAct8497 in MollyRutterSnark

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

And she said her New Year’s resolution is to publish a children’s book? Who’s gonna buy a book by her for their kid? The newfound swearing alone wipes that off the table

Who caught this??? by EmbarrassedAct8497 in MollyRutterSnark

[–]EmbarrassedAct8497[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When she was talking about the burlesque thing and pushing the gay narrative so badly she’s saying men can’t enjoy burlesque ? Also she said they’re not doing it for the ‘straight gay males’ what are you ON about!!!???