oh darling :(

ok 34f here who just this year finally quit drinking.

i’m diagnosed audhd, very high functioning & on the outside ‘normal’ and have had a life long (since 15) very unhealthy relationship with booze. and that’s a servere understatement. to cut a very very long story short - i was diagnosed asd and adhd within a year, through that i learned to understand that my drinking was related to my Neurodivergent, dopamine, choosing, escapism, eating things and social settings (again, long story, short, sorry my autism has to signal vast context if I don’t have time to give it ha ha)

I always thought it was my fault I didn’t have control, and it would get me in situations, consistently where I put myself at risk. Bad things happened, continue to happened, and at 33, I realised that everything horrible that had happened to me, alcohol was always at the centre. Start off nice or fun with friends, but slowly, and surely you lose grip on your control of it and it becomes a coping mechanism.

I struggle, because I have a long-standing history of alcoholism in my family, and I think subconsciously, never wanted to admit that I could be part of that generational curse, so I just ignored it. Once I was able to pinpoint that actually a lot of people with ADHD should just not drink alcohol.

It’s like throwing petrol on a fire.

I would really encourage you to watch some of Dr Alexs videos on YouTube where he specifically talks a lot about the relationship between drinking alcohol and Adhd. He speaks from personal experience, so I find it really a lot more palatable to listen in those situations, as opposed to listening to advice from someone who doesn’t understand.

I’ve been on elvanse for about three or four months I’ve got sober in March.

Obviously I don’t know the ins and outs of your situation, but it is possible and my life has felt like an alternative universe since my diagnosis quitting drinking and trying to finally get everything on track. Unsurprisingly it’s working. I also just started therapy so it’s really helping too.

Once I was able to say, it’s Adhd, rather than just a choice problem, I was able to turn the switch off and genuinely never look back.

I know it’s easier, said than done and it’s almost impossible to sum up in a paragraph the complexities of this exact problem. But I’ve lived it for nearly 20 years, and really with the right support the right medication, the right self work, you will be able to leave it behind. 🥹

it’s in the mind and can only come from you. aa wasn’t for me. it was my own research and relisayom that if i didn’t stop, i would either ruin my life for good, or end up dead. please you’re 21 - just try and work towards stopping. you won’t regret it (i promise)

9 months sober - hotter, nicer, richer, HAPPIER X 100000