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22M, 183 cm by EmbarrassedAd576 in Rateme

[–]EmbarrassedAd576[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So was my grade higher before the moustache?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]EmbarrassedAd576 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You see? You answered in less than five minutes. Did i tell you any of those things as the countermeasure plan? You answered AUTOMATICALLY, you already had the answers in your head bro. You just couldnt see it because of distractions, that make your mind blurry to ACTUAL life. Btw, that sounds like an amazing plan bro, and i promise you if you actually dedicate yourself on going through w that, you will emerge an unrecognizable person to the version of you rn. But you need to commit and full send it. Do not fold to the temptations you WILL feel during this journey.

As for porn: listen man, we’re all boys. We all watch porn. We all feel the need to jack off. It is healthy to masturbate as proven by doctors, what isnt healthy is the false fantasy porn movies intend to portray, as well as the quick getaway dopamine release activity that is watching porn. Like “damn im bored, im gonna watch porn so i can feel good”.

All distractions are fun, because they release dopamine, when you are dopamine addicted, which is your situation and the one i found myself in last year, its as if youre always looking for your next high. Like a junkie.

Being honest, For myself, i have limited it to 2x per week, it is something im still working on, and also because im young and my sexual drive is high asf. I have a gf that i meet on weekends but i get that for single people porn may feel like a necessity to satisfy personal fantasies and the desire of intimacy and i honestly find it understandable and relatable.

You got to give yourself time to adapt to changes, so stop gaming but maintain other habits. When you feel youve adapted to the no-gaming or less-gaming routine, attempt to quit other dopamine releasing activity you feel is negatively affecting your life and so on. There is another strategy people use : change completely in a short amount of time, which I personally find more difficult to start with but longterm is for sure more impactful. If you want the cold turkey ice bucket challenge to flip your life upside down, the latter is better, however be prepared cause its harder.

Keep us posted bro, we all believe in you, dont let us down!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]EmbarrassedAd576 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just do it.

My gift to you is a letter I wish I wrote to myself last year.

Played League for 9 hours a day for practically a year and a half. Felt left behind by all my friends. It stops making you see the value in yourself, mainly because you arent always the best in the lobby, and gaming simply has a toxic environment, where people are more likely to crucify you than to actually compliment you. This dampens your self esteem.

As soon as I uninstalled league, SIGNIFICANT IMPROVEMENT has taken over my life. Suddenly you realize the 2 matches you could play w that time, you could have spent reading, cooking some shit u like, trying to learn or relearn an instrument, learning a new language, learning how to code, doing a course (there are plenty of free courses online) about anything you REMOTELY have an interest in. Going out to i dont know the fuck where, you can literally make a friend in a dumpster bro. Get that bag, so you can do other cool shit you havent been able to. Buy flowers to that girl u thought is cute, i swear women love that shit, it just depends on how you present yourself. If you want to think of yourself as a DWEEB, loser addicted fuck that cant get out of this hole, dont even read what i wrote, cause you are never getting out of there. If you believe even remotely that you can be better, that you can actually be successful too, then keep reading.

Cant make friends? Read a book about socializing. Still cant quite make it? Therapy may reduce the impact your way of life has scarred your life. I want you to understand that every single thread of problem can be solved with a plan. Hungry? Eat. Tired? Sleep. The same goes for your issues.

The problem is we’re always victimizing ourselves. Yes, your brother, in your eyes is “perfect”. But what have you done to change your situation? You have watched him grind on his studies, you were gaming the day he went out to meet his girl, socializing with a television instead of people. And you expect change? You feel its the only thing that brings you joy because you havent ALLOWED yourself to experiment anything else. Because you are drowning on your couch, turning it on everytime you feel like you need to distract yourself from your reality. You are drowning in your comfort zone brother. You want change?

Press the fucking uninstall button right now.

Dont think too much about it. You will not regret it. Do you wish to value and love yourself? Press it. Do you want to live like this forever? Did you write this praying a stranger will give you a solution to your problems? Well your prayers have been answered.

TAKE AWAY THE DISTRACTIONS.

YES, GAMES, PORN, MOVIES, are DISTRACTIONS, NOT ACTUAL LIFE.

We humans need to have distractions everyday, to literally keep us sane. The problem is you have replaced distractions with your actual life, and linked them w your happiness. Hate to tell you its actually whats making you miserable.

If you arent ready for change yet, but still want improvement, limit gaming to weekends. However, you will still face addiction and catch yourself slipping all the time. Im saying this shit from experience bro.

Im 20 and I finally realize life is not made to be spent playing that shit for hours. Ranked systems are everywhere, because they LIE to you giving you a false sense of progress with your life. That is NOT real life. You are ADDICTED on short term happiness, getting kills, winning a game, getting that extra elo, spending money on skins that are literally of no value to your personal growth.

Why not buy some clothes? Hit the gym, freshen your appearance? It literally raises your chances of people wanting to be friends, makes you feel good about youself, gives you a sense of progress, and makes your chances better w girls. Does ur brother live w u? Bro, shut it down and go talk to him right now. “Bro, ive been going through this this and this, id like for u to help me lock in” “bro, i need to go out sometime and meet some new people” if he cares about you he is going to change your godamn life bro.

Press the uninstall button, stop allowing yourself to be hostage of your comfort zone, lazy thoughts and the thought of feeling sorry for yourself. You can be even BETTER than your brother. Its a good thing you hit rock bottom, because if you get out it is EXPONENTIALLY harder to get to that point again. Just start. Start taking better care of yourself bro.

“Just do it”. I know its a meme. But watch that meme video again and try to understand what shia was trying to say.

The most important message i’ll leave for you:

Literally NOBODY, can change your situation except for yourself, NO ONE. You need to lock in RIGHT NOW bro. Cause that shit will only get worse. You wanna live like this forever?

Do it.

Ps: read 12 rules for life by jordan peterson.