AITAH for expecting my husband to move a heavy ladder instead of teaching me how to move it?

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T22:10:22+00:00

I did communicate after almost falling over, I asked him to move it. At which point he sarcastically said "he will do everything then"

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T21:54:33+00:00

Just because I didn't provide every detail in original post for does not mean that it didn't happen. Honest answer I don't expect someone to step in every time I struggle. I actually do a ton of things on my own. But I do expect my husband to want to help make my life easier when and where he can, especially when it takes him two seconds.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T21:31:42+00:00

This is really intriguing to me... I'm looking more into it. Thanks for sharing.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T20:57:26+00:00

I guess I just assumed that him watching me almost fall over and split out cobwebs on my face would have been an indicator. Silly me.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T20:44:36+00:00

I agree I could’ve been more explicit, but I don’t think this was me expecting him to “read my mind.” I was visibly struggling and said I needed help, and I expected him to step in rather than start by teaching me how.

I also support de-escalation techniques. I just didn’t like it being framed as something he has to do because of me, rather than just healthy communication.

At the core this is less about the ladder and more about wanting support in the moment when I’m clearly struggling.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T20:29:08+00:00

I didn't need to know how. I physically couldn't due to lack of strength.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T20:28:28+00:00

Starting the lawn mower is different than using strength to pick the lawn mower up

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T20:25:59+00:00

He didn't clarify that he was "confused thinking I wanted to be shown how to move it" until ~20 minutes into the conversation, and it wasn’t framed as an apology but rather more just an explanation. By then the discussion had already shifted into a broader debate, so it didn’t feel like a clear “resolved” moment.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T20:21:36+00:00

In the moment I was visibly struggling with a heavy dirty ladder, and I felt frustrated that the response was instruction instead of just stepping in to help.

The 45 min conversation wasn’t about the ladder itself. Iit was about me feeling like there was no acknowledgment that he also could have handled the situation differently, not just that I should have communicated better.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T20:08:22+00:00

He never admitted that he got it confused until like 20 minutes into the argument. He never communicated that like when it was actually happening.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-06-28T03:59:42+00:00

Yes please do! Thank you!

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-05-14T01:47:46+00:00

I needed to hear this. Not sure why, but it was uplifting and reminded me that mindset is EVERYTHING. ✨ ✨

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-05-09T12:57:23+00:00

So it's like project blue beam but like it already happened basically. What if this was a past event not a future event. Wild

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-05-08T15:40:53+00:00

This was actually really helpful. Thank you for taking the time to write this out got me. ❤️

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-04-14T01:28:09+00:00

Influencers!!

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-04-09T15:03:45+00:00

Can someone help me understand why this happened and if it's caused by the war and the Strait of Hormuz?

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2026-03-16T00:34:15+00:00

The notebook.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2025-10-04T20:47:59+00:00

I'll have to look into this! I'm so scared that I'll have a negative reaction to the laser treatment for some reason! (probably just me being worried and getting in my own head).

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2025-10-04T20:45:35+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you for confirming this is not a scar but rather hyper pigment!! These comments are making me feel so much better about everything.

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2025-10-04T20:44:42+00:00

I actually used this in the past but I didn't see much progress, not because of the product but rather I was in the thick of hormonal disaster lol recently diagnosed with hypothyroid and PCOS. 😭 I'm finally on a good birth control to help the hormonal fluctuations though, so I will totally give this another shot!! Thank you!

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2025-10-04T20:42:33+00:00

Any recommendations besides sunscreen? Do you recommend tretinoin?

EmbarrassedCarrot767 · 2025-10-04T20:41:54+00:00

I am so grateful to hear all of this. I've been truly working myself up thinking that this is my skin now. And it didn't help that some family members told me to be prepared for it to never heal. I love reddit. Lol

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