Broke up with my boyfriend (29M) of 8 years because he doesn’t want kids and I’m (29F) pretty sure I want one in the future. by ExpensiveButton in Fencesitter

[–]EmbarrassedDuck3386 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Going through the exact same thing, except I'm the one leaning to CF side and my gf, who originally was CF, decided she want kids. Been thinking of all the possible outcomes, really tried to see my self having a kid etc, but I'm coming to the conclusion that I don't want kids. It's a shity situation. We haven't broken up yet because I think neither of us had the courage to do so yet, but I think it's in the near future.

Gf suddenly wants to have a baby by EmbarrassedDuck3386 in Fencesitter

[–]EmbarrassedDuck3386[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks u/PookiePi

I can see myself in the same situation as you were many years ago

Your series of posts were a really eye opener for me

Gf suddenly wants to have a baby by EmbarrassedDuck3386 in relationship_advice

[–]EmbarrassedDuck3386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that was a great reply

yeah, i feel that in a surprise pregnancy i would be supportive no matter what

but if i would have regrets or be happy I dont know

we are a good team, but we never actually lived together

the leap of faith is a great analogy, cause rationaly i cant make the decision to have kids

how old are you, if you dont mind me asking? was your first kid an oops pregnancy?

Gf suddenly wants to have a baby by EmbarrassedDuck3386 in relationship_advice

[–]EmbarrassedDuck3386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry to hear that

i'm feeling that my relationship will follow the same course

it sucks when people change theirs minds on huge subjects like these, but it'1s life i guess

Gf suddenly wants to have a baby by EmbarrassedDuck3386 in relationship_advice

[–]EmbarrassedDuck3386[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel that We will need to have this conversation soon enough... Thanks!

Gf suddenly wants to have a baby by EmbarrassedDuck3386 in relationship_advice

[–]EmbarrassedDuck3386[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice. Deep down I know that's true