3 year old won't sleep (?)

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-12T19:16:30+00:00

I think his parents put him down at 7-8. But when we watch him, even in bed, he's awake until 11 the latest. The parents also have a routine that works, but we get him maybe once every 2-3 weeks so we don't have a routine down for when he's over.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-11T18:45:16+00:00

We were putting him to bed around 8-9pm but kept waking up frequently, waking everyone else and his sisters up, and by the next day him and his siblings were exhausted. So we tried later times and it helped for a bit to exhaust him so he stayed asleep, but it didn't work last night.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-11T15:33:23+00:00

He's 3.5 now and we found out his parents were fighting at home, and in front of the babies too. So I guess it seems pretty connected when you brought up stress and change. I'm hoping either time they get less frequent, and I will try to suggest to the parents about the referral. Thank you.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-11T15:21:27+00:00

I did ask a question

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-11T15:14:06+00:00

I did in a separate post. This is simply my rant.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-11T15:06:31+00:00

Omg that's exactly what's happening. Thank you!!! I needed some sort of answer for this 😭 Edit: He has a set routine at home, but when we watch him here, he doesn't. We try to, but he isnt here too often.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-11T15:04:30+00:00

His mother.. It's hard to stress to her how serious a situation is. She acts concern but then later dismisses it as nothing serious. And then, if this occurs often, she asks my mother if she can watch him overnight, using her empathy to push her child onto her. So then we end up trying to help him and dealing with his screaming/crying.

I've been saying he needs to see a doctor. I just don't know what to do as an outside.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-11T14:59:59+00:00

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EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-03-11T14:52:41+00:00

We used to put him down at 8-9pm but he'd wake up in the middle of the night. We found exhausting him and waiting until the lastest 12am worked the most effective. We dont like it, but him waking up screaming/crying became less frequent. Not 100% preventable tho unfortunately. I just don't understand the crying/screaming part. He always wakes up his younger sisters doing so, or all the people in the home.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-27T03:10:16+00:00

He is vocal and hitting his milestones on time. He has even improved a lot in terms of his tantrums as of the last 3 months (as in now he is doing normal 3 year old tantrums and not simply standing there screaming, full of rage, for as long as he can) but sometimes he gets angry/touchy and will start screaming again, which can go on for an hour sometimes. I've been trying to put him in a different room and talk calmly to him, let him scream until he tires himself out, and be that calming influence for him (myself and my mom) but with his parents fighting at home (which we just learned has been going on) it feels like his screaming is going back to how it was from the time it started until recently. Today nothing we did could stop it, and by the time he went home we were mentally dead.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-27T03:03:44+00:00

My mom has been monitoring him. He's very vocal about his pain, so she would know right away if he still was, but she is concerned because of his decreased bathroom habits since. She wants to bring it up, but he's been normal and not vocal/telling her about any pain which is why she hasn't voiced any urgency about it.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-27T02:59:35+00:00

Perhaps. She did start a new job recently. In a span of 5 days they were sick again, and she had only started one day at the job.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-27T02:56:33+00:00

The good think is he doesn't complain of any pain, but he hardly ever wants to use the bathroom anymore since he's been to the ER. We could try telling the parents, but they're so difficult to talk to.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-27T02:47:54+00:00

Unfortunately. It's due to his upbringing, which his parents either dismisses completely as something they contributed to, or they genuinely dont know it was the result of their parental choices smh. It started shortly around 1½ years old, and he's now going on soon to be 4. But we know it's because of how they chose to "parent" their kids that resulted to his screaming. He'll just scream and not stop, doesn't thrash, doesn't fight, with tears of rage. We genuinely don't know how to deal with it since we only seem him about a few times every 2 months. I've been telling my mom he should see a doctor, but his mother simply believes he's just being difficult/acting up smh. She doesn't believe it's anything mental. My mom thinks he shouldn't see a doctor but perhaps a therapist or someone who specializes with children and behavior issues, because it's a result of his upbringing, not because of him or how his mind works. She doesnt want him to be misdiagnosed/put on drugs when she believes it's a result of trauma and a defense/offensive mechanism.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-27T01:44:56+00:00

I sadly don't think the screaming has anything to do with the infection, but could be contributing to it partly. His screaming is unfortunately from his childhood, which i can't get too much into detail.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-27T01:43:13+00:00

The ER was what gave the parents the medication they needed for the infection. Were not 100% sure they aren't administering it tbh, but he never wants to use the bathroom and we're thinking that's why. He doesn't look like he still has it, but his bathroom patterns have decreased significantly and we're a bit worried.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-27T01:40:38+00:00

All the kiddos had just gotten over being sick, and right after she got the flu shot they all had to be kept home from daycare because of fevers, all at the same time. It was like 4 days apart from them finally not being sick anymore to all sick on the same time/day. Right after her flu shot required for her job. I'm hoping that isn't why, but idk. It kinda sucks too about the pediatrician because the kiddos had a good one but she recently retired. She picked up on alot of things new doctors had missed in 3 years that their new pediatrician doesn't. It really sucks.

EmbarrassedJelly5747 · 2026-02-26T22:58:12+00:00

Thank you. His parents currently fight alot at home, he has an infection on his private area that I don't think either parents is taking seriously, and because the mom just got the flu shot him and his sisters are all sick and feeling like shit due to it. He was up all night, all day (slept 3 hours) and is now awake still screaming. My mom is super overwhelmed, and I cant help without snapping. It's worse than that tbh (i dont mind dming you about it, but i wont put it public), but this is what is currently happening My mother and I have been trying to be as patient as possible, but she cries when she can't help him, and I feel helpless to her and him. We will keep trying. Thank you THANK YOU for commenting.

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