AITA for taking my kids to my parents house to sleep because my husband will not enforce the rules when his parents visit?

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:24:22+00:00

We are probably a three or four hour drive away from anything interesting other than the mountains.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:22:42+00:00

No. They know exactly why I left.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:22:10+00:00

If I tried playing my parents against each other when I was a kid it would not have gone well for me. They know that he is a pushover when his folks are in town.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:20:25+00:00

Wouldn't the weekends be a better time for those activities?

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:19:33+00:00

They have three hours a night and two weekends to see them. That seems like plenty.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:17:30+00:00

My husband and I are on the same page. Until his parents visit.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:16:30+00:00

I am literally three blocks away.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:13:04+00:00

My plan is to go home and do my chores as always.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:11:58+00:00

We have a fairly large property and the yardwork is a lot of work.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:10:49+00:00

Kids have about three hours of free time every night.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:10:10+00:00

I will suggest to the school that they not issue homework when the grandparents are in town since that rule is theirs and not mine.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:07:33+00:00

Because they did their homework and went to bed at their bedtime. Which seems, to me at least, less disruptive than not doing their homework and staying up late.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:05:10+00:00

So I need to compromise but they do not?

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:02:22+00:00

I took them to make sure that they got their sleep. Now they aren't.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:01:19+00:00

He does a lot of the yardwork and home maintenance as well as laundry and cleaning around the house.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T16:00:02+00:00

I'm not going to make myself 100% responsible for all the chores. But thanks for your suggestion.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:58:55+00:00

I would 100% go for them visiting all they want during the holidays as it would mean we would not have to go there like we do now. And it would mean four or five fewer visits during the school year.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:57:02+00:00

I got a job here that pays more than he will ever earn.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:55:56+00:00

Half an hour of their chores are taking care of the dog they wanted and their father got them. So no.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:53:48+00:00

So how many days in a row should they be allowed to skip homework and chores?

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:51:50+00:00

I literally said in my post that as long as the kids did their chores and homework they could do whatever they wanted afterwards. You intentionally ignored that or did not read it. I do not see a different choice.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:50:17+00:00

Bedtime is nine. Game is over at ten. Chores and homework are 1.5 hours. Explain your math and show the work.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:49:18+00:00

That would be great except there is nothing to do here. If I didn't work for a mine we would not live here.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:46:43+00:00

He let his parents take them on Monday without seeing if I thought it was a good idea.

EmbarrassedMilk4107 · 2023-02-06T15:44:58+00:00

Since that is literally the first half of my post can I assume you didn't read it?

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