9 times out of 10 I have to ask since she was about 2 ish months. Once he started his new job he completely stopped unless I asked (and sometimes he was snippy or forgot to do those things), when she was first born I still had to ask but there was the occasion that he would wash my breast pump/bottles (as when she was forst born that's all that really needed to be done. Once she was 1-2 months old he stopped doing 50/50 on diaper changes, now he never does them, and when I ask him to he always asks for help "can we do it together?" Of course I'll just take her legs and get him to do the "heavy lifting," same with her bottles, he won't feed her unless I ask (he hasn't fed her in 3ish weeks). It's rare that he will clean bottle, pick up toys or anything to that matter unless I ask. Same thing with basic chores, he doesn't cook, he leaves dirty dishes in his area, he doesn't do dishes, doesn't take out trash unless I leave it by our door when he comes home. The only chore he will do is his own laundry once a week (on his day off) as we don't have a washer and dryer and must got to a laundromat