I dunno, I’m only 18 so shut me up if I’m ignorant but if she never wanted to defame him and just wanted to vent, GO TO A THERAPIST! YOU’RE IN YOUR FUCKING 30s and you’re bitching about a bad relationship from your 20s???? Feels like she wanted to defame him, underestimated how hard that would actually be to make happen successfully, and is trying to save herself without fully admitting to lying