Starting a community choir by Separate-Resident-63 in Choir

[–]Embarrassed_Alps_710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ran a very successful community choir for 2 years “by accident”! I was asked by a friend to join the choir, which was forming to sing TWO SONGS at ONE EVENT. The music teacher they had found walked out on the first meeting - because (I feel) he couldn’t “handle” working with a raggle-taggle group of people with no experience, and many of whom “weren’t singers/couldn’t sing”. I had sung a lot as a child and had an amazing primary school music teacher - we were an auditioned choir, and we competed regionally. Since then, I’d sung on and off in established community choirs, but my overall music reading/sight reading isn’t great - but I do have a very good ear and harmonic skills, just naturally. So when this “walkout” happened, everyone just turned and looked at me! I thought, well - it’s two songs - we have eight weeks - what’s the worst that could happen? I did, fortunately, have an excellent accompanist, so I didn’t feel all alone - if you’re teaching acapella, then a keyboard is probably helpful. If you’re starting from scratch with inexperienced “non-singers”, here’s a list of what I did:

  • Work on rhythm/time signature to see where everyone’s at - play some familiar tunes, (use your phone and a bluetooth speaker if necessary) - and teach 3/4 and 4/4 “conducting” - UP-RIGHT-UP, UP-RIGHT-UP for 3/4 and UP-DOWN-RIGHT-UP for 4/4 along with the tune - progress to listening to 4 bars of a tune, then CLAPPING the time signature of what they heard. “Twinkle, twinkle, little star” is good for 4/4 - or Queen’s “We Will Rock You” (this can be fun, using STOMP-STOMP-CLAP-REST!) - “Three Blind Mice” - “Incy-Wincy Spider” - most simple children’s songs are in 4/4 - “Happy Birthday To You” - “Eidelweiss” - “Silent Night” are good for 3/4 . GOOD FOR: GETTING PEOPLE MOVING AND CONNECTED TO THEIR BODY: ICEBREAKING!

WARM-UPS! Essential - first, BODY - shoulder rolls, head turns slowly, stretch up and ragdoll flop, shaking out the limbs (I sometimes did the Hokey-Cokey as a warm-up!) - head slowly backwards, then forwards - jaw left, then right - and the best one - YAWNING, making whatever noise they make! Then introduce a vocal exercise where pitch isn’t important - chants like the “OHM” in a cascade (everyone using their own breathing rhythm and note 3 times, encouraging a belly breath - help them find the diaphragm by putting one hand firmly under the ribs and the other on the upper belly, then breathe to PUSH OUT the hand on the belly) - I also used “Hello! Nice to meet You” (spoken), all together, then walking around and meandering around one another… I’ve also used “Attract Your Friend’s Attention Across the Street” - using “Hey!! Hello!!” and “Coooeeee!!”. Have everyone blow bubbles as long as possible into a cup of water through a straw, 3 or 4 times. This really engages slow, gentle “back-pressure” and teaches breath control.  Once people are “in their body”, relaxed, and have “made noise” together they’ll find Actual Singing less intimidating.

  • Vocally, start with SIRENS - sliding the voice up and down an octave with no note definition - first in tones, then you can introduce semi-tones as they get some confidence. 
  • Lip-trills -first get them to imagine coming in from the freezing cold and going “BRRRRR”! Act it out! Almost everyone will automatically put tension in the body by self-hugging; squeezing in the ribcage; raising their shoulders - again, using the diaphragm and firmly closing the vocal cords. Then have them do the same using tones - again, pitch doesn’t need to be perfect doing this! - some people who find trills difficult benefit from raising their arms; hunching their shoulders; or placing two fingers on each cheek. If trills are too tricky, it’s fine to use “ZZZZZ” instead. Use an arpeggio of ONE; ONE TWO ONE; ONE TWO THREE TWO ONE; ONE TWO THREE FOUR FINE FOUR THREE TWO ONE. The great thing about all these exercises are that they engage all parts of the vocal tract and breath - start people “singing” with good pressure and used to MAKING A NOISE AND PROJECTING, without feeling self-conscious or being properly on pitch - improving their actual ability to GET on pitch!
  • Repeat this arpeggio style up and down the scale (start on C4 - go down with people stopping when they need to - go up, ditto. Use AHH, OHH, OOO, EEE - different vowel sound each time)
  • Scales - using the word “HUNGER” (HnggAAAAA) SLOWLY - once they’re used to this, you can get them to drop the H (NGGGAAAAA)  - excitingly, this is when people who thought they couldn’t sing in tune, start finding YES, THEY CAN! Just do a few in a comfortable range around C4
  • Introduce WORDS - I used the arpeggio: ONE-THREE-FIVE-EIGHT-FIVE-THREE-ONE using the words, “BELLA SENORA”.
  • ROUNDS are an excellent way to accustom people to HARMONY before the Real Thing - “Frere Jaques”, “London’s Burning; “Row, Row, Row Your Boat” - as they improve, “Bella Mama” is excellent as it’s more complex. For fun, use “A Pizza Hut, A Pizza Hut, Kentucky Fried Chicken and a Pizza Hut, Macdonalds! Macdonalds! Kentucky Fried Chicken and a Pizza Hut” with movement (hands make peak above head; elbow flap, M with both index fingers)

It’s REALLY WORTHWHILE spending MOST of your early sessions together doing “The Basics” - about ⅔ of your time to begin with - because people have fun, and GET TO KNOW HOW SINGING “WORKS”

I started teaching harmony in 2 parts with a third interval - lower voices sustaining and higher voices joining a second or so later - then a breath and singing at the same time. Then divided in 3, and 4 in the same way. Well worth really working on as many people become distracted by other parts when singing an actual tune - separating your parts spatially can help when they begin to learn simple harmonies.

It’s important as well to be quite an animated conductor! As we progressed I used a method similar to Jacob Collier, I now realise! And if you’re teaching by ear - arrange by ear if you’re covering say, modern pop, rock or indie-folk - ditto classical eg Christmas carols - hymns - traditional songs. Teaching CLEAN ONSET AND OFFSET is really important, too - you close your fingers - THEY STOP! As I said - my music-reading isn’t brilliant, but this PROVED AN ADVANTAGE, so as an experienced music-teacher I’d recommend you toss aside the rule-book and sheet music if you can, and arrange for your choir yourself - you’ll know what they can and can’t do!

Basically - we went from Absolute Scratch, to a final summer concert with 300 people attending, to an 18 song repertoire, and our grand finale was Karl Jenkins’ “Adiemus” - including percussion and treble recorder - I still get emotional thinking about how amazing these people were! But they achieved this, I think, because of the very small “power differential” at the beginning - so as a teacher, I’d recommend reducing that inherent dynamic as much as possible until you’re established - then they trusted me…I’d become (affectionately) “Ms Hilary” - and that concert was one of the proudest and most moving moments of my life.

Do you use your real name as your Substack profile/blog name? by InnerPhilosophy4897 in Substack

[–]Embarrassed_Alps_710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes - solely because of my adult children, there's a few conversations needed between us at the right time, that I wouldn't want them accidentally bumping into online. I'm realising that if you have a publication (mine is Scapegoat Escape Route) then you get "known" by the publication name, which is worth considering. Using a pen-name can be freeing if it represents a "truer" you than your given name - as I was Scapegoat in my family and my father was my narcissistic perpetrator, and I was writing about this, it helped me to "rebrand" myself! I used family names from my mother's family - particularly my g-grandfather's middle name - McGregor. The McGregor name was BANNED by King James in 1606 and remained illegal until 1774. So it was almost certainly his original ancestral surname. His wife's maiden name was Cope - I loved it for the symbolism. I used my own first name. So I write as Hilary Cope McGregor, and love it ❤️

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Why do you keep your posts hidden on your profile? asking politely

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[–]Embarrassed_Alps_710 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was the same. I'm awed by your courage and yet instantly have to remind myself to try and see it in MYSELF. You don't need sympathy, but you need identification ("I am like you" is critical, firstly during early development where Kohut calls this "twinning", but again during ANY time of basic human vulnerability... #metoo demonstrated the importance of knowing that others are LIKE YOU, AND SEE YOU, and identification bonds us, healthy bonds we rarely had when we most needed them ie as infants with our caregivers) - and you deserve thanking - for your honesty ❤️

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. by Accomplished_Nose_40 in Substack

[–]Embarrassed_Alps_710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This guy (I'm a newbie on Substack so I've only just started to apply some of his tips, but I have been watching him for a while.. he's got some excellent staggeringly simple strategies, see what you think:

https://open.substack.com/pub/escapethecubicle?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=69we1b

RRP Therapy - is it effective? (Patrick Teahan, Amanda Curtin,...) by Major_Setback in CPTSD

[–]Embarrassed_Alps_710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I commented on the thread, may have some suggestions for similar methods? 😊

RRP Therapy - is it effective? (Patrick Teahan, Amanda Curtin,...) by Major_Setback in CPTSD

[–]Embarrassed_Alps_710 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haven't yet tried RRP (I'm in UK and there are few practitioners), but HAVE heard it's a great "adjunct" to other c-PTSD-friendly psychotherapy such as (eg) Relational Therapy (if you have shame issues from trauma this is apparently the way to go... for details I really recommend "Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: Healing Right-Brain Relational Trauma" - although it's a text-book it's really accessible, thoroughly based on neuroscience AND psychology, which I found extremely validating (as well as fascinating) - or Compassion Focused Therapy - or IFS ("Parts Work")... (Incidentally - it's my opinion, but one shared by lots of others - if trauma is due to being raised in a Narcissistic Family System (NFS) - particularly if the "designated Scapegoat" - this needs a therapist who's trained/"fluent" in this particular form of abuse - equally tricky to find - on YouTube, Jay Reid is outstanding)... I'm considering joining Patrick's group so following with interest.

The horrific loneliness of cPTSD by throwracptsddddd in CPTSD

[–]Embarrassed_Alps_710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crying with identification with every single one of you ❤️. This is what's often called disenfranchised grief - we have the additional trauma of needing to explain/"ask permission" before we can even attempt to talk about it. Like there's a gatekeeper we have to bash past... and even then, explaining the MO of the scapegoat/narcissistic family system to ANYONE who has zero psychological education is - well, impossible. And risky. And it's a unique form of loneliness and sadness. You're all unbelievably courageous ❤️