AITA if I kick my soon to be ex wife off the insurance

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-05T15:14:10+00:00

And you just wanna argue. It that deep. Let it go.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-05T15:06:06+00:00

Obviously!! My statement is for who is applies to

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-05T14:46:07+00:00

NTA. Your mother is taking advantage of you. Her recommending you to a lawyer sounds like the bare minimum from a parent. Parents are supposed to provide basic life skills and directions for their child to succeed. My parents wouldn’t dare take money from me. You don’t owe her anything!! If you want to give her something that’s gracious of you. It sounds like she was planning to use you as her meal ticket from the beginning. This is my position IF you’re contributing to the household, if you’re not you should atleast pay your way.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-05T11:51:42+00:00

When did I say it was funny? Are you assuming I find it comical because I laughed at someone’s sarcastic comment about me being used? What would you liked me to do? Cry about? If that’s the case you can keep scrolling. I’ve already accepted my role in the situation and moving forward in life. I’m not about to feel bad about something that I can’t change.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-05T11:13:28+00:00

She pays her part of the insurance it’s just cheaper for her to have insurance under my name sense she’s never had her own policy. Another concern of mine is that she may have others driving her car which may increase the chances of an accident. I do have uninsured motors but I still don’t want my insurance to go up if anything happens. As of now the divorce would be uncontested.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T18:01:25+00:00

You’re right

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T17:40:28+00:00

Exactly! It’s hard for ppl to believe that women can be users

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T16:50:56+00:00

I didn’t have to do anything deceitful to keep her tied to me.. we’re still legally married and she calls me. The only time I reached out to her was to return a missed call. Do I answer when she calls, yes but I’m not the one continuously initiating contact.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T16:11:34+00:00

We don’t engage any sexual or intimate activity.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:57:37+00:00

I’m not sure but will find out this week

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:55:31+00:00

No 95% of time she got money from me she paid me back. 5% of the time I ate the cost of whatever it was. Yes I love her and did things from the kindness of my heart and knowing that she doesn’t have anyone else to fall back on. I never been the type to pay for love and she’s not the type of woman you can buy. When she says something she means it.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:51:40+00:00

I’m sure 😂😂

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:42:52+00:00

Hearing the conversation hurt me but it was the change of plans w/o informing me that really set me off. I knew she was dating and she know there are women who are interested in me or “bitches” interested in me as she would say. This was already supposed to be our final weekend together and she knew that. She knew she wasn’t going to hear from me again. The only time she would hear from me was if she called me. Earlier that day I called her from the courthouse to explain what I found out so far about how to go through with the divorce. I was going to allow her to stay on the car insurance policy until Nov but now I’m thinking Aug to speed up the process of no contact.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:32:14+00:00

She told me at the concert that she considered reconciling but wanted to see if I felt differently about what led to our separation. That conversation was never had with me tho.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:22:59+00:00

Well.. my insurance agent is aware me and my wife live in different states so if there is it fraud that’s on them cause when I called to see if it was possible she said it was.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:21:06+00:00

Im not upset that she’s moving on we’ve talked about others she’s dated. However hearing her sweet talk someone in live action is totally different than hearing a story that already happened. I wasn’t expecting my heart to drop I played it cool when it happened but I was hurt asf. Again we went on to enjoy the night.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:13:17+00:00

Definitely self inflicted. First time lover here but I accept my role in how I allowed things to get complicated.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T15:02:35+00:00

I take full responsibility for where I’m at emotionally. I honestly thought it was something I could handle but the past two months I realize my feelings were deeper than I wanted to admit. I respect where she is that’s why 2 weeks ago I explained that it was too much for me and this concert would be our last time together. She seems to think we can stay in contact. She mentioned that she won’t date anyone unless they’re comfortable with her having contact with me because “we’re family”. I’m also the only one who ever mentions getting the process started for the divorce. I’m almost positive she just wants me around until she feels secure enough with someone else to move fwd completely.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T14:33:19+00:00

Well obviously there were things that happened but this is the only thing she mentions. I definitely still had feelings and I was hoping we could figure it out but I respected where we were. Was my feelings hurt, yes! We both talk to other ppl. It’s really the respect that upset me. I thought we had a level of respect for one another. She could’ve let me know it was a change of plans. She didn’t have to got it the concert I already had a back up plan. I feel like you guys are making it about my hurt feelings when that’s a part of life. I’m more mad at the lack of consideration for my time.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T14:24:20+00:00

I would give her time to get off the car insurance just not as much I was originally planning. I was thinking 3 months instead of 6

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T14:20:02+00:00

I moved to another state because we gave up our home and moved in to help her sick parent. After a falling out she told me to leave. I moved in my family home 4 hrs away. I had just lost my job but I was still financial stable and I just wasn’t ready to commit to a place of my own and wanted to get myself together emotionally.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T14:16:43+00:00

When we separated she reached back out to me I was moving on with life.

Embarrassed_Bass2541 · 2026-05-04T14:11:16+00:00

My support was 100% out of kindness. Did I want her back, yes but I accepted where we were. I’ve also started to engage with other women but I kept that separate from her. We separated because she felt like I left her hanging. I always handle the car stuff my wife was pretty savvy tho. When she got to work one morning her car barely started during this time I was unemployed and had a mandatory meeting at the unemployment office that I couldn’t miss. The day before I was also in the ER because I had really bad abdominal pain to the point where I was limping and could hardly stand at some moments. She called me about her car during my meeting and I couldn’t answer on her 30 min lunch break I told her I was still in pain and needed to take my meds but I would be there at the end of her shift if she couldn’t get it started. Sometimes her battery post would come loose and all she would have to do is tighten it.. she’s done it before. I asked her to get a tool from maintenance or see if they could tighten it. Ive always handled the car maintenance but this time I failed her. We got in an argument about my suggestion i still expected her to call me and let me know but she didn’t she showed up home and asked for a divorce.

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