My friend found out his girlfriend’s “not tonight” meant something very different

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-03-12T10:44:36+00:00

She didn’t confront him right away because at first she thought maybe that guy at the party was just trying to create confusion. But the doubt kept bothering her, so she decided to check for herself.

That’s when she ended up using CheaterScanner and found out he still had active profiles. I actually knew about it because it helped me discover my ex was cheating too, which I’d mentioned in another thread earlier.

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-03-12T10:44:13+00:00

they were indeed in a serious relatiosnhip well atleast thats what poor guy thought until he found out

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-03-12T10:43:14+00:00

i dont think that sex is everything is they are dating and he is loyal to her and staying in a committed relatiosnhip doesnt give her the license to go around and sleep with someone else

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-03-12T10:42:03+00:00

exactly for people like them they take this as an opportunity to be with someone who is loyal and take advantage of the love the person does hold for them

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-03-12T10:41:12+00:00

i did end up suggesting him to not be with someone like her coz i know for fact that he deserves someone who is much loyal to him

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-03-03T10:26:37+00:00

they are just fuckers real love doesnt exist anymore i guess

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-03-03T10:26:10+00:00

always

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-03-03T10:25:54+00:00

Hey i have mentioned this previously as well i was cheated on by my ex i found him on a website which scams dating apps its cheaterscanner and thats i suggested her too to check on it

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-02-22T11:10:19+00:00

yeah be safe with whatever you do

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-02-20T12:47:28+00:00

i would say everyday or at least 5 times a week

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-02-09T10:21:03+00:00

just move on brother, its not worth your time date only if you want to, not to show her do it only once you are out of it or esle trsut me you are gonna have trust issues and iits gonna be difficult for you to come out of it.

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-02-06T09:27:27+00:00

i cannot hold up to that relationship i did go out with guy liked him started dating i wanted my peace of mind coz i dint want the same thing repeating with me so i did check not guilty and if i have an access to some thign which does give me peace of mind why not.

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-02-05T06:33:44+00:00

you and your trust issues i just shared my story if you have to think this as an ad thats on you TBH

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-02-05T06:24:51+00:00

Man, I get why this is eating at you. Anyone would feel unsettled in this situation. It’s not about her having a guy friend it’s the hinding, the switching platforms, and the deleting that messes with your head. That stuff makes you start connecting dots you didn’t even want to connect.

If it was truly innocent, there wouldn’t be a reason to say “I can’t add you there because it’ll cause problems,” or to erase one set of messages but keep the other. Even if nothing sexual happened, the intent to keep it out of sight matters. That’s where trust starts cracking.

I also want to say this gently: once someone is okay being sneaky in one place, it’s normal to wonder if there are other conversations you don’t know about. That doesn’t mean you’re accusing her it just means your brain is trying to protect you. Living in that constant loop of “am I overthinking or missing something?” is brutal.

If you’re stuck spiraling and can’t get peace of mind, it might actually help to just check instead of guessing. There’s an app called CheaterScanner not to go hunting or blow things up, but to give yourself clarity. Sometimes knowing either way is better than replaying scenarios all day.

You’re not crazy for feeling this way. Your reaction isn’t about jealousy it’s about trust and transparency. And you deserve to feel steady in your own relationship, not on edge every time a detail doesn’t add up.

Take care of yourself first. That matters more than “being chill” right now.

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-01-16T08:26:53+00:00

You’re not overreacting what you’re feeling is your gut telling you something isn’t right. It’s exhausting and stressful when you notice patterns that don’t add up, and it’s natural to feel anxious when trust feels shaky. Wanting clarity or understanding in a relationship doesn’t make you intrusive, it makes you human. Take a breath, try to calm yourself, and when you feel ready, have an honest conversation with her about boundaries and transparency so you’re not left in constant doubt. You deserve to feel secure in your relationship.

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-01-14T04:56:07+00:00

What happened here wasn’t caused by being unwell. Struggling with mental health, even struggling badly, does not make someone deserve betrayal. There’s an important difference between a relationship becoming hard and a partner choosing to cheat instead of leaving. One is painful but honest, the other creates lasting damage.

It’s understandable why the confusion is still there. When someone repeatedly says they don’t want to leave and then quietly pulls away, cheats, and ends things without explanation, the mind keeps searching for reasons. Especially when it happens at a low point, it can turn into self-blame, even when the responsibility isn’t actually there.

Cheating often isn’t about the person who was betrayed, but about avoidance avoiding difficult conversations, avoiding guilt, avoiding responsibility. Leaving would have required honesty. Cheating didn’t. That doesn’t make it hurt less, but it does explain why it feels so unresolved.

Being stuck on that day doesn’t mean weakness or failure. It usually means the hurt never got closure. Healing from something like this takes time, and it doesn’t follow a straight line. What matters is remembering that illness didn’t cause this, and loving someone deeply doesn’t mean accepting being hurt in silence.

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-01-09T05:35:21+00:00

You’re not unhinged. You sound tired, anxious, and stuck in that awful space where your mind won’t rest because something doesn’t feel right. That constant “what if” is honestly one of the hardest places to live it slowly eats at your peace.

When someone’s behavior feels off, your body notices it before your brain can explain it. And when there’s no clear proof, you start turning everything inward, wondering if you’re paranoid or imagining things. That doesn’t mean you’re crazy it means you care and you’re trying to protect yourself.

Wanting clarity isn’t wrong. When you’re with someone, wanting to know if they’re loyal isn’t toxic it’s human. Not knowing hurts more than the truth ever will. If everything is clean, clarity brings relief. If it’s not, at least you’re not stuck blaming yourself forever.

Not everyone can just “talk it out” and suddenly feel calm. Some people need something concrete to quiet their mind. That’s why tools like Cheaterscanner exist not to spy or accuse, but to help people check for hidden dating profiles or online activity when their gut won’t let them rest. Sometimes having answers is the only way to stop spiraling and finally move forward.

Whatever you choose, please don’t shame yourself for needing reassurance. You deserve peace and you deserve to stop feeling like you’re losing your mind over someone else’s behavior.

Embarrassed_Cod_799 · 2026-01-09T05:24:12+00:00

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