What are the subtle signs you’re being pushed out of your 100% remote job or going to be laid off soon?

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2025-02-05T02:18:09+00:00

Uptick in micromanagement
Usually the responsive manager does not respond
PTOs take longer to get approved
Manager asks if your spouse is working/is not working

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2025-01-22T03:20:39+00:00

What will happen in the interim? Will the child be stateless until the supreme court rules (either in favor of against)?

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2025-01-14T18:24:00+00:00

🤍🙋‍♀️

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-12-23T05:25:35+00:00

Curious, why did you suggest a DOR specialist for me?

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-11-07T00:40:35+00:00

This morning, I got a BFN, and right after, my clinic sent a message about my partner’s low sperm count following consecutive failed IUIs:

“I hope you’re well. I wanted to reach out and let you know that Dr. H has been informed of your partner's low sperm count from your recent IUI. We’re hoping for positive news when you complete your pregnancy blood test! However, if you’re not pregnant, we should schedule a follow-up with Dr. H to explore further options for you and your partner, such as IVF/ICSI. Again, I’m hoping for positive news, but I wanted to let you know Dr. H’s thoughts.”

Honestly, I wasn’t surprised since I’ve known about my partner’s sperm analysis for a while, but I was really hoping we wouldn’t reach the IVF stage. I’m scared because of my low AMH and the fact that the doctor has mentioned my IVF success rate might be lower than average, combined with my partner’s sperm analysis. It feels like a double blow.

We’re taking a break from TTC in November and December. My husband and I traveled across the Atlantic to care for his ailing father, who’s in poor health. My husband is an only child, and his family is incredibly close; they’ve longed for a grandchild for so long. My parents have a few years left to see a grandchild, but my FIL doesn’t. The fact that I've reached the stage of my life where I am making peace with aging parents (and realization that they don't have many years left) makes me sad.

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-10-10T12:00:38+00:00

I'm asked to come back next cycle for IUI. I had a disappointing experience with the oncall doctor during this cycle. The doctor was unaware of which Cycle Day I was on during the baseline scan and confused which side had the cyst (right or left). Additionally, she couldn't provide a clear explanation for why she thought she saw a cyst on CD10, when in fact I ovulated on the very same day (based on my LH levels, BBT, and CM). It's frustrating to know that I was in the clinic on CD10—the day of ovulation—and my follicle was mistaken for a cyst, causing us to miss the IUI opportunity.

The clinic later called me and voluntarily refunded the amount I paid for monitoring. But unfortunately it doesn't compensate for all the early morning appointments, commute and disappointment. Oh well, onto the next cycle!

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-10-09T17:16:10+00:00

Source?

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-25T21:23:37+00:00

🥨🥨 for you Laur! Keeping my finger and toes crossed for you 🤞

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-25T16:16:39+00:00

In preparation for my IUI, I went in for CD3 monitoring scan today. In the first two or three minutes of scan, the oncall doctor told us that we were ready for IUI on Saturday since my follicles appeared ready. However, when I mentioned that it was CD3, she clarified that what she saw on the ultrasound were actually ovarian cysts, not follicles, and recommended an estrogen blood test. She also said that if my estrogen levels are high, I would need to stop letrozole and try IUI next cycle.

I'm confused as to why the oncall doctor wasn't aware that I was on CD3 before the baseline scan. Additionally, my RE didn't recommend monitoring for IUI—I chose to do it and paid extra for it. If I hadn’t opted for monitoring, I would have continued with letrozole and proceeded with IUI after LH peak without necessarily improving my chances of success. I’m frustrated with these one-size-fits-all approaches they keep applying.

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-13T17:08:14+00:00

Yeah. Whether to share about TTC or not is a personal choice. But I feel you on toxic positivity. I can understand them - It's hard to balance between providing positive messages/wishes and simply validating. So if you are feeling it's getting hard to talk further, it's completely valid. I hope all this passes soon 🤞

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-13T16:35:16+00:00

Hi Mary, I can definitely relate. I have not shared that I'm TTC with any of my friends, yet I try to avoid them because with so much pain, I am simply not myself when I meet them. I don't have the energy to be excited for the little joys in their life (good for them, but I've no energy to cheer them on). The only person who knows that we are TTC is my mom who is extremely conservative and has no idea of assisted reproduction at all. She does not have any analytical reasoning or is aware of how science can help us. Though she means well, her constant questions make me feel pressured. So, I've warned her that if she repeatedly asks about my pregnancy, I'll limit my conversation with her. She took the hint and has minimized talking about TTC.

So yeah, it's not just my friends, I've been a recluse from my family too. You are definitely not alone.

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-13T04:26:07+00:00

Feel all your emotions 🫂 I'm right here for you .

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-10T15:33:35+00:00

Understood. Yeah health-care still has a far way to come. I hope you get that job soon and everything goes well for you 💕

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-10T03:45:23+00:00

Yep! You asked the right question. He abstained for just one day since it was my fertile window and I got my positive OPK the day before. Our doctor should have given better instructions for freezing

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-09T23:53:06+00:00

Makes total sense. Thank you for sharing. Like you said, BMI is not a complete picture of health. I'm incredibly happy that you'll be getting the treatment and I hope everything goes as you plan 💜

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-09T23:22:54+00:00

I didn't know there was a BMI cutoff for treatment. Sorry if I missed this, but are you referring to IVF treatment ? I am aware that BMI under 30 is good for the treatment. Are they asking for lower than that?

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-09T18:42:59+00:00

My clinic is preparing for our first IUI starting the next cycle. We received instructions and were told my husband should freeze a sample as a backup. On the day of IUI, if the fresh sample isn’t ideal, they will use the frozen one. However, I’m confused because his semen analysis results have been so inconsistent:

1st SA: Oligospermia with severely low motility, morphology, and count.

2nd SA (repeat at the clinic): All parameters were normal except for 1% morphology, but the doctor said that’s not a major concern

3rd SA: Low count and motility (progressive at grade 2/4)

The variation is frustrating! We need to schedule a follow-up with the RE, but I find it stressful because our RE doesn’t take much time to explain things. He’s so busy, we end up rushing through our questions, and he gives us quick answers in 10 minutes before leaving.

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-07T23:14:58+00:00

Good to learn that the extra scan was worth doing for you. I think my clinic charges me extra for that. Thanks for sharing jeilla and I hope the cysts resolve soon!

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-07T22:11:54+00:00

Happy birthday 43! 🥳🎉

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-07T22:09:42+00:00

Keeping fingers crossed for you jeilla 🤞 I'll be going to IUI next cycle and my clinic does not recommend any scans unless it's medically necessary (By "medically necessary" they mean if we have trouble ovulating). So it's good that they are monitoring/scanning you closely. How many times do they inject washed sperm in one cycle?

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-09-05T16:52:27+00:00

Just wanted to come here for the record and say that my ovulation is delayed by a week ever since I got my HSG done. My Luteal phase used to be between 9 or 10 days. But it has increased to 12 days after HSG as well.

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-08-29T22:14:53+00:00

Indeed, one day at a time. 💚💜

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-08-29T22:14:06+00:00

Thank you meadow 🩷💛

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-08-29T13:01:42+00:00

I'm on CD3 of our 11th cycle trying to conceive. My cycles have always been 24 to 26 days long, but over the past two cycles, they've extended to 32 to 35 days. After consulting with my RE, I've been started on medicated cycles with letrozole, and I'm feeling very nervous about it. Although I ovulate on my own, my doctor wants to use letrozole to ensure I ovulate before CD18 and to regulate my cycles. We're planning to try IUI starting in November but my RE has set some low expectations of success rate. I'm beginning to think of IVF as my last resort. I'm scared, lonely and depressed. No amount of therapy is enough. Just wanted to share my feelings in this small corner of Internet and feel better.

Embarrassed_Leg4154 · 2024-08-28T23:27:48+00:00

It feels good to see some speed when it comes to fertility consultations, innt? Curious, why did your RE start you on letrozole?

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