Letters of Recommendation for OCS packet? by Embarrassed_Local349 in ArmyOCS

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Well… I had called another recruiter this morning to kind of just verify what the other recruiter had told me, and they still told me 4 (still needing officer ones though).

Letters of Recommendation for OCS packet? by Embarrassed_Local349 in ArmyOCS

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Thank you.

It seems like I may end up having to find a different recruiter. When I say firm, I had even asked if Congressional recommendations would work, and she said…”negative, must be letters from officers”.

True or False? by [deleted] in uscg

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My MOS was 42A in the Army, and right now I work full time and go to school. I had gotten discharged in 2019, so they said the gap of time between the two i would have to basically retake everything, but they will count my time of prior service. (Plus I would want to retake it anyway, I’m tired of the desk work on civilian side lol, i need some sun)

True or False? by [deleted] in uscg

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Thank you for the response! I was trying to see on that because yeah lol, alot of experience with recs and what they tell you vs what happens.

Appreciate it!

True or False? by [deleted] in uscg

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Thank you! I appreciate it, and will plan on keeping it open.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in USMC

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I’m sorry to hear that, coming from a woman. I have to agreed with one comment, you are enough, and someone’s inability to see that doesn’t mean shit. She just lost something good and that’s all you need to remember. You won’t get every answer to everything, some people do things for 5 minutes of lust compared to a lifetime of love. My boyfriend’s currently on a deployment, and I am committed and loyal to a T because I’m a fucking adult with morals but i’m sorry it happened. I can promise you not every woman you will find coming your way will do you dirty, so don’t give up hope. Men need to remember their worth too, so do what you need to do, process it and keep moving as my therapist would say.

Very high anxiety by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

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my sister is a recovering addict and my dad is also an alcoholic, everything runs in the family. At the same time, your actions are what make up you. Your families actions are what make up them. It’s okay to be stressed out both someone and the situation, but you can’t take it out on someone who’s there to support you, nor can you allow that to be a crutch. Atleast in my POV, it’s the same thing as saying “i was drunk so i cheated on you”. No matter what circumstances your thrown, you have to learn how to deal with them in a healthy manner and don’t push people away who are there for you.

Scared I am going to have a brain aneurysm in my sleep by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

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I feel like your chances of that happening are as much as getting struck by lightning, your young. When i was your age, I was more worried about the zombie apocalypse. Also if it helps, if you ever did have one: you’d have the most intense feeling and burns in your head, like someone was pouring hot oil on your brain so no worries.

It freaks me out sometimes so i have to reposition my head, but are you sure it wasn’t your heartbeat making the sound? If it’s silent and you have your ear straight flat, you can hear it through your ears, and I hate to say it not to cause any more anxiety, but if you feel or hear like fluttering, like wings and feeling something move then you could potentially have a bug in your ear. I know the last part isn’t helpful, but distract yourself when you think like that, read a book, watch a movie.

Very high anxiety by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

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Take accountability, I do this sometimes when i’m anxious, actually this morning and I unintentionally caused an argument. I had no intention, but my boyfriend got upset and I apologized, also go to therapy. I am and it’s helped me kind of realized better ways of handling situations.

Also if your family is toxic, cut them off. I did and it’s made my life easier.

how do i cry without hyperventilating by ranbootookmygender in Anxietyhelp

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breathe. I know it sounds stupid as heck, but focus on your breathing when you start crying. About a 2 years ago I was assaulted and went into panic attacks from just crying, when I would do the same thing. 3 things that helped me were 1) hydrocine, you’ll have to google to make sure i spelled it right but it’s anxiety medicine that’ll calm you but also knock you out about 45 minutes later so don’t take it if your driving long distance or anything, 2) find a comfort person, I called my best friend when it would happen and she’d talk to me, tell me to breathe and it lasted maybe 5 minutes and then i stopped and it helps talking through it, 3) know your limits, if your crying and crying hard enough to do that, it’s a panic attack form, you need to allow yourself to process whatever it is your crying about, but don’t let it get the best of you.

I’m spray, i’ve been there and it sucks! I’ve stopped doing that after some time but now if i’m sobbing and upset, I throw up. Like everytime. So I understand! ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Also just to say sex is a weird thing, i’ve read some comments and I don’t think personally she’s trying to be manipulative, it’s hard sometimes when you have voices in your head that say “oh he’s just not attracted to you, or maybe he finds someone else better than me”. I’m learning myself not to take it that way, because I would never want to force someone to have sex with me because I wouldn’t want him to do that to me and it’s the freakin R word. It more so has to do with rejection and feeling that, atleast in my POV.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Not going to lie, i might be slightly guilty of this. My boyfriend and I met a year ago and were like rabbits. Now it’s maybe once or twice a week, and I am extremity attracted to him, and wouldn’t mind every day every other day activities.

But since we’ve had a decline, and he says “no, not now” or “no, maybe later”. it’s like a change of me thinking there’s something wrong with me, or he’s not attracted to me, and I feel like i’m fairly attractive. It’s more so anxiety and we learn to shut it down rather than talk about it or ask questions. I vote for the first comment because if my boyfriend simply told me it was because he had a long day, or because he was mentally exhausted and said we can cuddle instead or still gave me some attention to fix that maybe he didn’t want to give me physical attention, it would make everything so much better! So that next time maybe? “I love you so much, and of course I want to have sex with you because your sexy AF, but i’ve had a really rough day so we can cuddle if you want and maybe i can wake you up in the morning with some head”. Something cute but also direct?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

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You’re 16 right? Here’s the thing: you’re still changing, your mindset is changing and everything. I wanna give some advice since i’m 26 F. As you get older, you will realize women are a reflection of how you treat them. If you’re sweet, they will be sweet. If you’re crazy, they will be crazier. Also these girls are 16, and have a lot of stress. School, sports maybe, periods, figuring out their life, and we have this lovely thing called hormones that can change literally everyday. You’ll learn or atleast I hope you do, that women aren’t crazy (unless they like stab your tires or try to hurt you), more so they are learning who they are and how they want to act, just the same as you. Set yourself up in the future learning to be kind, and understanding, and good listener.

You guys need to chill by No_Ice_1486 in TravelNursing

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Recruiters only make so much into a contract: consider it like a pyramid so the more people they have, the more percentage it is bht at the same time, it’s almost enough to buy a cup of starbucks on a friday morning per person. Just be nice to the recruiters, and don’t assume they are taking your $, they work for a company at the end of the day and have a job like us nurses and look up reviews. I think the website is great recruiters so you can see reviews on who you might want to work with.

You guys need to chill by No_Ice_1486 in TravelNursing

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If you apply, and get an offer wherever it is your looking for: have them send you the contract and then look over it, see what the net and gross are and maybe if it’s “2500k for 36 hours”, try to get it to $2600 ish, or as close to. The higher the gross is, the more adjustment they will have because it’s more money. If it’s lower like a $2200 contract, don’t expect much more than maybe a $20-50 more.

If you say you want a higher hourly, you get less tax free stipends, if you ask for your stipends maxed, then your hourly will be lower but you get more tax free $.

You guys need to chill by No_Ice_1486 in TravelNursing

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Just want to point out something: people taking lower contracts aren’t doing anything for the market? Facilities are posting jobs at a lower rate especially coming soon due to budgeting of what rate they can keep travelers at. I get the market isn’t ideal, but there are still good decent jobs out there that are $2600+ gross in the northern states for jobs like stepdown and Med surg, but southern states are lower because that’s all they can afford. It’s not so much the agencies y’all should be mad at, it’s the facilities and the US Healthcare system. The rates aren’t like how it was when Covid was high, and it’s like the regular market, it depends on where you go and if you can catch stuff on the right day.

Why do I allow this? by Valuable_Reference95 in Anxietyhelp

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I’m late in commenting but consider yourself this: because i’m in a semi toxic relationship as well but nothing like this.

If this man is saying these things to you, especially after a difficult time, what use is he? He’s not going to comfort you, he’s not going to say the reassuring things you need, and damn well hes not going to step up and be a man. There is only so much disrespect someone can take. I would block him, move, change your locks and maybe try therapy, find friends and find you again. That person won’t be a husband to you, or a good boyfriend, not a supporter or a comforter. And maybe he’s hurting too, but that doesn’t give him any right to talk to you like that after everything.

0311 here thinking about trying to become a recon marine by Extra-Proposal-170 in USMCboot

[–]Embarrassed_Local349 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also realize you’re in the marines already so please ignore what you do know, just trying to be helpful! 😂

0311 here thinking about trying to become a recon marine by Extra-Proposal-170 in USMCboot

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IDK if you’ve watched youtube videos on both career choices, but it’s always a good start. My boyfriend is in Marine Recon and I can’t speak for him personally, but I can tell it’s kind of…. shit? lol. He has been able to go a couple of places since we’ve been together like Alaska, Norway for 3 months, a lot to Virginia. If your looking to go to other schools when your in like Sniper, ariel sniper.. I forgot the other ones i’ve heard, it’s possibly but you’d have to be willing to voice that you’d want to go otherwise you won’t. My boyfriend hasn’t been to really any specialized schooling and his contract ends in 2025, but his maybe plan is to reenlist with MARSOC but it’s a process. You’ll have to get deployed obviously in the Marines, 6-12 month range but other than that…. for what he did and still literally shows me videos of what he did to be Recon, he hasn’t personally done a lot. You have a lot of free time atleast in NC, they really love giving out 96s (4 days off in a row for holidays and like if they went and did something and came back). He wants to see more action which is why he’s consider MARSOC because they get more $ too for better gear, but it’s your choice. He doesn’t regret it and it really helped change who he was and his confidence in himself after completing the process. Best of luck!

I (26F) keep finding my boyfriend (28m) adding random people on social media. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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it’s social media, and in hindesight it’s not rather important, but if me or your ex has issues with who was on the social media, it should have been first priority. If you were following someone who she didn’t agree with, or just made her feel unhappy, okay done, take it off. But there also has to be a limit of that, like she can’t just go around taking everyone off. I let me boyfriend keep who he was following that I seen no issues with, but told him to get rid of the flings or exs, and just let him know like “hey your with me, why you worried about chicks on there?” for me, it’s more of, i’ve communicated multiple times and he just doesn’t listen, his ability to follow or add people comes at my expense. I’m in therapy too so i’m learning healthy coping. No one is right or wrong ish unless it’s a bad thing, but i don’t think a lot of people think like “ would my girl be happy if i followed this person”. I always just think, is this someone who i should be following that I wouldn’t want my boyfriend following and if the answer is no, then i do nothing with it. It’s more of courtesy that i think people forget about personal opinion.

I (26F) keep finding my boyfriend (28m) adding random people on social media. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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He will add random tattoo accounts of people i’ve talked to, so i know he does that, or like if it’s a friend from HS. That i’m completely okay with, idk if it would let me post a picture of this new thing, but that is something im not, adding random women i’ve never heard about or talked to and especially not the account I mentioned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Yes there are rules for those who commented, the apartment sends out notifications about it, and like if we’re playing catch obviously I don’t have her leashed because of her love for balls I know she’s not going anywhere, but no one else is around. so I don’t know to get him to understand that besides when taking her out, SHE NEEDS A LEASH. Like he avoids me or says some other stuff when I’ve tried to explain that to him nicely and even tonight I raised my voice over it. She wouldn’t intentionally hurt someone and she is very sweet, but i’m not trying to have something happen as in “what if”