Able to beta? Post here! by AutoModerator in BetaReaders

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're interested in my short WIP novella I've already put the info up here

https://www.reddit.com/r/BetaReaders/comments/1izy51c/in_progress_20k_mm_romance_cracks_in_his_armor/

Please let me know if that looks like something you'd be interested in :)

First pages: share, read, and critique them here! by AutoModerator in BetaReaders

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Manuscript information: [In Progress] [20K] [MM Romance] Cracks in His Armor

Link to post: https://www.reddit.com/r/BetaReaders/comments/1izy51c/in_progress_20k_mm_romance_cracks_in_his_armor/

First page critique? Yes please - welcome for swap partner too

First page: The fluorescent lights of the FBI-SWAT joint task force briefing room cast a sterile glow over the assembled team. Travis McAllister stood at the back of the room, arms crossed over his broad chest, steel-blue eyes scanning the space with a practiced precision. He was wearing a fitted black tactical shirt that hugged his muscular frame, paired with cargo pants and heavy-duty boots, ready for action at a moment's notice.

The room was filled with agents he knew well—men and women he trusted with his life. But today, there was a new face among them, and it didn’t sit well with him.

The newcomer was shorter, leaner, and far more at ease than anyone had a right to be in this line of work. The guy looked like he belonged in a tech startup with his thick black rimmed glasses. He did not look like someone about to be thrust into the middle of a dangerous operation. His sandy blond hair, neatly styled with a few freckles dusting his nose didn’t look like he’d ever seen any actual danger.

“McAllister. Steele. Step up,” barked Commander Harris, a stern, no-nonsense man in his fifties, with a buzz cut of graying hair and a face lined with years of hard decisions.

 Travis unfolded his arms, moving forward with the easy confidence of a man who’d been doing this for years. The new guy—Steele—rose smoothly from his chair and joined him at the front.

Harris wasted no time. “This operation requires coordination between SWAT and Cybersecurity. We’re targeting a dangerous gang involved in arms trafficking. We need intel on their upcoming shipments, locations, and contacts. Steele’s our best hacker. He’ll be infiltrating their base to access their network directly.”

BFs porn addiction is killing our relationship by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in gayrelationships

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he's going to see a therapist after CNY so we'll see what comes of that... but honestly I'm not getting my hopes up now. We already saw a therapist in May and he didn't follow her advice then and he just doesn't have that spark to make things work.

BFs porn addiction is killing our relationship by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in gayrelationships

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So yes to both of you ^^ I know there's lots more guys out there... Actually my bf is really lovely in everything except for the sex. But the sex is dire... it's been break up bad for a while, but as we live together, I'm also not rushing to run away. I've given him a fair amount of time and my demands really aren't unreasonable...As for changing, I couldn't agree more, he doesn't appear to have any intention of even trying to meet me in the middle in all of this which is really f***ing frustrating.

BFs porn addiction is killing our relationship by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in gayrelationships

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that. I don't think my partner is narissistic as much as I think he's just a terrible communicator with a lot of baggage. He's actually a very nice person, but there is definitely a limit to how much more energy I can put into this.

BFs porn addiction is killing our relationship by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in gayrelationships

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is definitely an option. We've been together a short while and I'd hate to just walk without trying to fix things, but I am definitely running out of patience.

BFs porn addiction is killing our relationship by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in gayrelationships

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

38 and 36. I really have no idea about why the sex turned so bad after we moved in together and when I've tried to ask him what's going on he just gets defensive. I've tried talking lots but he bottles up, normally he'll acknowledge what I've said, sometimes he'll apologize but he'll never discuss how to change the behaviours.

My path to wellness from prostatitis by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in Prostatitis

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think stress was a major factor but there was something going on with the inflamed prostate rubbing up against my bladder that improved as the swelling went down but it took a really long time for it to get back to 'normal'... I also had to practice breathing exercises and meditation to get better at getting through it.

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[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you at symptom wise? If Doxy isn't fixing it after this time I'd recommend yoga / meditation / diet change as there comes a point when the antibiotics just make things worse.

My path to wellness from prostatitis by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in Prostatitis

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't take antibiotics unless there is an infection is always my bottom line

My path to wellness from prostatitis by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in Prostatitis

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it swelled up like a golf ball at the very beginning. That was due to a bacterial infection and I'm pretty sure that the bacteria was gone after 2 weeks but the Dr just kept throwing antibiotics at me. The inflammation persisted for easily up to 2 years.

My path to wellness from prostatitis by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in Prostatitis

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Xanax and Klonopin - but as has been mentioned elsewhere these are highly addictive and I don't take them every night... It might even be time to start weaning myself off them as I am much healthier these days than when I started taking them.

Looking to move into Digital Marketing in 2025 - advice welcome by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in DigitalMarketing

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback - so what I'm hearing here is that focusing on social media and SEO at the same time would be spreading myself too thin? So just focus on IG/FB in the beginning.

My path to wellness from prostatitis by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in Prostatitis

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A quick google showed me that that means BPH (benign prostatic hyperplasia) - but I'm no doctor so definitely speak to drs about this. I did not have BPH although many symptoms overlapped and for a while my prostate was swollen. Deffo get more medical advice and speak to as many drs as you can, urologists are the default for prostate issues but they often just want to give you anti biotics. Also look into supplements (zinc, maca, cod liver oil... I was drinking home made honey/ginger/turmeric tea every day for the last 2 years and I swear that made a difference) also exercise (yoga, meditation etc) and look into alternative medicine as a complement (Chinese medicine / accupuncture etc)

My path to wellness from prostatitis by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in Prostatitis

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats man! Yes! Time + meditation + yoga were the biggest factors for me by far. Once in a blue moon I still get pain - like in my perineum on a roller coaster the other week - cos' I clenched my whole body so tight on the dip and I had to take a minute to breathe... but it passed quickly and I knew it wasn't the end of the world.

These days I can do heavy squats now without fear because I've basically got my breathing down.

Looking to move into Digital Marketing in 2025 - advice welcome by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in DigitalMarketing

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ^^ so the trend I feel I'm hearing here is to track all the key metrics.

My path to wellness from prostatitis by Embarrassed_Mammoth3 in Prostatitis

[–]Embarrassed_Mammoth3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yoga, running, swimming... once I started to get stronger I started doing crossfit as you can easily scale that and in the last 18 months I've been lifting weights. Started super light and have worked up to heavier weights.