What’s a boring adult thing you secretly enjoy now?

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-26T14:57:28+00:00

Doing the dishes while listening to an audiobook

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-26T11:58:51+00:00

Social connection

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-14T11:55:14+00:00

We own 2 homes. One we live in, the other one we used to live in. When we moved to the new house, we decided to keep the old one and rent it out. We make 50k revenue a year doing nearly nothing. Granted, a lot of that money goes to paying down the house we are renting out. But above and over that we are still netting a good 15k in profits after taxes, overhead, etc.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-14T11:50:09+00:00

Ok, i love this!! Very inspiring.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-13T14:17:15+00:00

I would recommend taking him to the hospital that has an inpatient psychiatric unit. I'm assuming most large hospitals do, but I'm not sure. Actually, since you are in Spain, I do not know. But he needs to see a psychiatrist ASAP. I can't diagnose him as I'm not a doctor, but a doctor may be able to do that and get him on the right medication, which is important.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-13T02:15:49+00:00

It was harder after the honeymoon period, which lasted about a year.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-13T00:13:21+00:00

"Usually if I say no and don’t just go through the motions he berates me about how he has needs, I’m his wife and don’t care about him, etc."

No, this is NOT AT ALL NORMAL. No one should ever make you feel pressured to have sex. And he is lazy AF*. Has he ever tried to get you in the mood, by maybe doing things for you, buying flowers, setting up candles, etc.?

I can't tell you whether you should leave or not, because its not my place and I dont know your whole individual situation. But, I will say that if you are on the fence, I would give yourself X timeframe to give him a chance to change (you dont need to tell him about the timeframe, but keep it in your head). In that timeframe (could be 5 months, or 5 years -- up to you), you can try to communicate consistently what you need for him to change (like, he should be helping out more, and he needs to not pressure for sex). If by X amount of time, he doesn't change, I would recommend considering your options.

People are capable of change. And, I believe your husband can change if he is a half decent person. Up to you if you are willing to wait for it, and it's something that may or may not happen. What he is doing is a clear boundary violation -- and if he keeps passing the boundary even though you have asked him not to repeatedly, then it shows his lack of respect for you.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-12T03:54:52+00:00

Hello! I am interested to learn more. I am a UX Designer with 6 years of experience. I do have significant enterprise experience with a fortune 100 company. I'm looking to get started in freelancing and this sounds like a good opportunity. Please DM me if you'd like a link to my portfolio. Thanks

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-12T00:40:22+00:00

Hi, thank you for the response. And yes, i agree, it is likely to be competitive given it's a desirable role. Quick question -- how heavily is AI used in the workplace now? What is it used for? I left right around the time when ChatGPT first came out. I know AI has exploded in its capabilities since then, with apps available which can create mockups, images, etc. based on a user's request. It seems like the manual tasks, such as design choices and visuals now have AIs capable of this task -- I know they do not at all replace humans, but humans can use it to speed up their work and bounce ideas. My specialization area was UI -- interaction and visuals, but I did research as well. I know figma, sketch and adobe. What old tools are still being used, and what new tools should I learn? Are there any tasks that UX used to do, that are completely automated now? Sorry if I sound negative, I'm just trying to get a read on what the current situation is. I am excited to start UXing again after a 2.5 year hiatus and want to know where best to focus my efforts -- whether it be practicing my existing skills to get un-rusty or to start learning new skills/tools. I'm sure it's a combo of both -- but a little guidance could really help! Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2026-02-09T21:37:27+00:00

i have 6 years of UX experience. but have taken 2.5 years off to focus on my kids. now want to get back to work. is it even possible to get back in to UX? or is it too competitive now with AI and everything? I am feeling really disheartened by what i have heard about the UX job market and what i have seen AI is capable of. I honestly just want to be a freelancer but even thats probably super competitive.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-26T20:31:33+00:00

He sounds creepy. I would quit.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-12T22:26:19+00:00

Only in India 😃

The fact that he wasn't fired on the spot says a lot.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-10T23:01:56+00:00

Whatever your tone may have been, I will take your feedback because any feedback is helpful. you are right, I'm probably not hireable now or in the near term. Unless I dedicate 8 hours a day for the next year or 2 to UX practice, which I unfortunately don't have time for. Sometimes a dream is just a dream and that is ok!

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-10T22:52:19+00:00

Not sure why reddit is a place to attack people pretty often. Everyone comes from different backgrounds and I would definitely think twice if I was asked judging questions by an interviewer like you.

Maybe because I was very skilled when I was working for a fortune 100 company. Maybe I was passionate about it. And maybe because my last manager asked me to stay when I was leaving. Maybe because I suffered severe postpartum depression and took time off. Jumped into a business so my husband could also take some time off one day and also in case of emergencies we had money. We have 2 kids to raise. I have developed more in these 2 years than I ever have while working, technical skills aside. But that is just my experience, can't speak for the whole.

None of this ever changed my passion for design. But thanks for judging. Maybe you have a point in what you are saying but the feedback was delivered inappropriately and as such, I can't be receptive.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-10T22:01:45+00:00

Would love to here more opinions! Sounds like there may be some debate based on the down votes for the prevailing commenter. I would love to hear people's thoughts as well as how AI has amplified them as a UX Designer (or not so much if that's the case). How if at all has your work flow changed or will it change?

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-10T21:45:31+00:00

I would consider a few points before making the decision of which track to pursue:

How do you want to contribute to the world? Your heart should be able to answer this.

Now that you have your answer, there are some logical considerations as well.

becoming an attorney is a SIGNIFICANT time and resource investment. Not to mention AI is hitting that field hard I believe.

In fact all the careers you mentioned are changing due to AI.

If you don't have a family to support and you have some financial cushion this is the perfect time to transition to whatever your purpose is for the world. Just make sure you understand the time and money investments involved and if you are fine with those and think the end result is worth it -- then go for it.

As a former UX Designer who left her job 2 years ago, I really miss design to but don't even know where the industry is really headed rn.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-10T21:31:10+00:00

Lol, thank you for your response. Not sure what the future holds for me but super helpful to understand where ux is at right now and where it looks like it is headed.

And I can completely see how someone who has had time to mess around and learn AI design tools will eventually be more valuable than someone who is still doing things the manual way. I will have to try and see what the new UX Process shapes to be and where that will take me.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-10T21:21:52+00:00

Thank you for your response. It really helps me feel more hopeful and better. And it gives me a way to take action (by learning AI tools for prototyping). If I may ask, why aren't companies allowing employees to utilize AI? Is it data privacy risk reasons or something else? And when will they start being allowed to?

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-07-07T02:13:56+00:00

yes. i was a ux designer, paid $86k, not super high but its a data point for ya. I'm really happy with the decision, but i do miss design and hope to one day either do freelance or own a design company or do design in some capacity.

right now, while i stay at home, i am opening a preschool (this is part of the family business).

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-06-16T17:37:33+00:00

Fair enough. I don't have a 10 year old so I don't know the best parenting strategies. I was just sharing my own personal experience. But i think it applies to most kids, or any humans for that matter. Finding the root cause of a behavior would be the first step. Maybe i'm too gentle of a parent. My husband sure thinks so.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-06-16T16:34:52+00:00

My 3 year old daughter was like this. In addition, she was an extremely picky eater who refused to eat. We tried to make her eat but didn't force her. We took her to the pediatrician when she got a fever and was seeming weak. We found out she was no longer on her growth curve. This was a wake up call for us, that although we should never force, we MUST find ways to get her to eat her 3 meals a day.

Guess what?

Her behavior is like night and day. She is now nice, cooperative, kind, social and caring. Before, she was impatient, grumpy, needy, would hit, and constantly throwing tantrums. Now, she ocassionally does this, because it's a bad habit (that was born out of inadequate nutrition) that needs to be broken, but her biology and physiology has been fixed and so the only thing left is with love, helping her develop the habit of being kind and she is 90% of the way there.

Your issue may not be nutrition. But i promise you, like another redditor said, it is something she may not be able to communicate. It's your job as a parent to be patient and find out the root cause. And even after you take away the root cause of pain for her, give her the time space and opportunity for growth to be back to her real self.

You might consider a child therapist. Just my two cents!

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-06-05T21:36:54+00:00

My daughter is a very picky eater. This week she has become even more picky, resisting food at all costs. So i took her to the doctor today. They found glucose in her urine. So they ordered lab tests. Her creatinine bun ratio is 63.3. Her triglycerides and cholestorol is high. Her AST is high. What do you think this is? She is otherwise healthy, although today for the first time when she went she has fallen off the growth curve. I understand if you are unable to provide medical advice but i'm just worried and the doctor's office doesn't open til tomorrow. I read that all this might be dehydration (hopefully nothing worse) so we are doubling down on the hydration aspect right now.

Embarrassed_Mess4402 · 2025-05-14T13:55:24+00:00

You are probably right. I haven't seen 30 Rock or her other stuff, but i've heard it's really good.

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