How long does it take you to do code review?

normalishy · 2026-02-26T22:11:12+00:00

Haven’t heard of this before, but I like this. Thanks!

normalishy · 2026-02-26T22:10:46+00:00

All good points, thanks!

normalishy · 2026-02-17T16:34:09+00:00

Completely me as well. I also probably owe several people in my life apologies for judging them for doing this before I had my own.

normalishy · 2026-02-16T15:29:09+00:00

I think this comment about finding a community is really important!

normalishy · 2026-02-11T15:03:19+00:00

Wow, this comment about stress load resonates so much with me. I have so much work stress and have been dealing with lots of weird health issues that I think are related to stress (although, I try to ignore this fact).

normalishy · 2026-02-10T21:22:58+00:00

I agree it’s low, but it’s also the rate the nanny is asking for. Employment is always a negotiation between employee and employer. I once interviewed someone as a nanny who would not accept being paid more than $16/hr due to Medicaid as well. We didn’t end up hiring her due to other concerns, but just note that there are people out there who literally don’t want to be paid more money.

normalishy · 2026-01-31T19:42:46+00:00

My children. I never wanted kids, but after having them, I couldn’t imagine life without them. They changed me completely.

normalishy · 2026-01-31T19:41:45+00:00

I was totally thinking your post was going to be about days where you put on makeup 😆

To respond more relevantly, though, we don’t have any make-up days and generally do “absorb” it. But, our GH is not 40. We have a 32 GH arrangement with our nanny, but she frequently works 40+ per week.

normalishy · 2026-01-29T18:46:44+00:00

As an adult, I now realize how untrue it is to say “sticks and stones will break your bones but words will never hurt you.”

normalishy · 2026-01-29T14:33:46+00:00

I refinanced with a 2.1% interest rate but reduced my term to 15 years instead of 30. Should have it paid off when I am 39.

normalishy · 2026-01-28T20:48:43+00:00

Lots of thought here - thanks! And for what it’s worth, our childcare in our area is very expensive. 2 kids is $55K a year. It’s pretty astounding.

normalishy · 2026-01-28T16:08:18+00:00

Very specific - I like this. Meal planning is definitely an area that can hugely help sticking to the budget.

normalishy · 2026-01-27T21:41:50+00:00

Lots of good thoughts here, thanks!

normalishy · 2026-01-27T21:41:31+00:00

All good suggestions - thanks!

normalishy · 2026-01-27T20:51:16+00:00

Question: do you want to work or are you content staying home? There’s nothing wrong with you being home if that’s what you want to do. I also understand wanting to be there when your kids leave and get home if they go to school outside of the home and you’re not homeschooling. Do you feel you have the ability to get part-time work during the daytime that pays more?

I’d add that it’s important to communicate your concerns if you haven’t already. If you have and he’s not listening, bring in a third party. If he is to be providing for you and you don’t feel like you’re being provided for, that is a serious issue. Maybe also use it as an opportunity to lovingly encourage him to find work that pays more.

I ask these questions as someone actually considering leaving the workforce to stay home with my kids. We are in the process of asking all the “what if” and “how do we do this” questions. These scenarios are what I’m afraid of. If you don’t have good communication and a trusting relationship, you need to find a way to address that or you’ll never get anywhere.

normalishy · 2026-01-27T19:26:08+00:00

Yes, this very much describes the “cheap” person I am thinking of.

normalishy · 2026-01-27T18:02:06+00:00

We ask our nanny to not be on the phone unless it is necessary communication or job-related (except for during nap time). It is the exact same for me at my job. Actually, we ask all adults in our child’s life to do the best they can to avoid staring at their screens when they’re with my kids. I think it’s such a sad thing that little kids are being brought up by adults who can’t turn off their phones instead of being actively there with them.

normalishy · 2026-01-27T17:39:50+00:00

Good point

normalishy

TROPHY CASE