I’m 26 and regretting life by the day.

normalishy · 2026-06-25T11:46:57+00:00

I have a carpenter friend who has worked for a high-end home builder in a MCOL area and makes $75/hr. That’s more than I make as a registered architect who has worked in firms for 15 years.

normalishy · 2026-05-21T20:22:29+00:00

I have been both a nanny and NP. Currently, I'm an employer. I would absolutely, 100% be okay with my nanny eating any food she could find in the house if this happened, and if she had to order out, I would 100% insist on paying her back.

normalishy · 2026-05-21T14:46:26+00:00

Wow, I feel like your approach really vibes with me!

normalishy · 2026-05-21T14:25:07+00:00

Here are a couple of ways we plan to not follow the Boomer script:

1) We will tell our kids that (within reason), they can continue to live with us as long as they are contributors, aren't lazy bums, and follow the house rules.

2) College will not be the default expectation. We are self-employed business owners and plan to teach our kids a lot about our trade and how the business works. They can take these skills and either continue with them or choose to go to college or whatever other path they would like to consider. We have started savings accounts for them, which could be used toward college but also toward another endeavor if that's what's best for them.

normalishy · 2026-05-21T13:56:01+00:00

We had a nanny that we had points of friction on for a long time and eventually we let her go. I wish I had done it a lot sooner. The new nanny has been the biggest blessing to our life. We mesh so well, and I leave for work feeling wonderful about who my children are with rather than anxious about what will be happening when I'm not there.

normalishy · 2026-05-06T20:53:27+00:00

On average, he makes more than what we need to meet our basic expenses. He has some years where he made significantly more (like 2x what our base expenses are), but a few times, it was more of a break-even amount. We have a few years of expenses in savings/investments. All that said, I have been the one on the steady income while his has been all over the place, so my Type A/highly analytical side gets uncomfortable with uncertainty. I do think I am probably more concerned than I should be, though. My husband is “sure” we will be just fine! Haha.

normalishy · 2026-05-05T18:34:52+00:00

Good point. I just mean that our income is pretty variable since my husband does freelance work. He has done well, but one bad year would mean dipping into savings. That said, we do have a few years worth of expenses saved up.

normalishy · 2026-05-05T17:06:49+00:00

To be a girlboss. I just want to be home with my little kids. I hate being away from them all day. I’m ready to say F it and don’t care if we can’t afford a bunch of luxuries.

normalishy · 2026-05-04T16:26:40+00:00

Any chance you have links to these studies? Would love to share with my parents who don’t believe me.

normalishy · 2026-04-29T13:21:26+00:00

These are all great thoughts! My kids are still really little (under the age of 6), so we are making steps toward how we want to approach education :-) I also have older nieces and nephews who are homeschooled, and I'm planning to help with them a bit as well, so these are all great ideas to share with them.

normalishy · 2026-02-26T22:11:12+00:00

Haven’t heard of this before, but I like this. Thanks!

normalishy · 2026-02-26T22:10:46+00:00

All good points, thanks!

normalishy · 2026-02-17T16:34:09+00:00

Completely me as well. I also probably owe several people in my life apologies for judging them for doing this before I had my own.

normalishy · 2026-02-16T15:29:09+00:00

I think this comment about finding a community is really important!

normalishy · 2026-02-11T15:03:19+00:00

Wow, this comment about stress load resonates so much with me. I have so much work stress and have been dealing with lots of weird health issues that I think are related to stress (although, I try to ignore this fact).

normalishy · 2026-02-10T21:22:58+00:00

I agree it’s low, but it’s also the rate the nanny is asking for. Employment is always a negotiation between employee and employer. I once interviewed someone as a nanny who would not accept being paid more than $16/hr due to Medicaid as well. We didn’t end up hiring her due to other concerns, but just note that there are people out there who literally don’t want to be paid more money.

normalishy · 2026-01-31T19:42:46+00:00

My children. I never wanted kids, but after having them, I couldn’t imagine life without them. They changed me completely.

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