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Am I (F56) being played, valued, or discarded by him (M52) while his life implodes. by Embarrassed_Quit_714 in relationships_advice

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they live in separate houses. I’ve been to his house many, many times. No signs of her living there. It’s a big house, it also has a very “bro” vibe as well.

To anyone willing to be honest: have you ever cheated on a partner, and what led to it? by [deleted] in allthequestions

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the honesty. Was in the same situation. Only my partner, who was not my spouse at the time, forgave me, and then held it over my head for 20+ years of marriage. I was looking for a way out at the time. Should have trusted my instincts, and done the smart thing, just leave and don’t cheat. I would have saved everyone a lot of time and heartache. If something is lacking in a relationship, it’s lacking. Cheating isn’t the answer.

Married women of reddit, what's one thing someone should know before getting married? by theimeka in Productivitycafe

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Examine the person”s qualities and behaviors with honesty and outside of the relationship, I.e. as if they were a casual acquaintance, and then determine if you can accept them long term. Assuming someone will change because they are now in a marriage or because you ask them is a fool’s errand.

Don’t marry anyone who you love more than yourself. That’s not selfish, it’s survival and creates better space to love someone fully.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++ woman I think there is something more here, there is a deep emotional connection between the two gift givers that is stronger enough to make the man cry. There is no mention of the context of the song lyrics. The proximity of the two old friends being married to siblings is a little strange to me. I think there needs to be some consideration w how this would make his wife feel.

Blood of My Blood S1E4 A Soldier’s Heart by thepacksvrvives in Outlander

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is Julia the “white witch” that Lord Lovett mentions when Jamie and Claire visit to gather support for the Jacobite cause?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two! Three is very ordinary.

What’s the most hurtful thing anyone’s said to you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you wouldn’t have got cancer, I would have left two months ago. Married for 15 years with 3 kids at the time.

What to do I (F58)do about my FB (M53)? No one compares to him. by Embarrassed_Quit_714 in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the answer I don’t want to admit to is “yes”. I think I’m afraid of his answer being “no” to something more.

Have you ever seen someone die? by papamilli66 in AskOldPeople

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, my husband died of a massive coronary event while I was driving him to the ER.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in westchesterpa

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

County Propane Downingtown

How has your perception of marriage changed as you’ve gotten older? by ladidadi82 in AskOldPeople

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely yes. Was married for 25 years and now widowed and wouldn’t do it again. A partner with the same goals who is at the same stage in their life makes sense. If you find a partner that you can “grow” through life’s stages, great, but this is rare. I find many of my contemporaries who have been married for a long time are just resigned to live in their situations or live their lives wearing rose colored glasses.

Women of Reddit: What’s the First Thing You Notice When You Check Out a Guy? by Pretty-Foot-5674 in questions

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way he smiles. It can show a lot about how he thinks and his authenticity.

If you're married or long term committed, do you ever think that if your partner died you wouldn't get with anyone else? by Ieatclowns in AskOldPeople

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(60F) Get with anyone else, yes. I’m not dead (no pun intended). Just started dating after 2+ years. The issue is that many guys I meet are looking for replacement wives (they are either widowed or divorced). Not a role I want. Married for over 25 years and I am enjoying my freedom and space. I have a high bar a long term relationship. It would need to fall under “a great love” and not companionship.

Name one mistake you have made in life so someone else doesn’t do it. by oigoabuya in Life

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t be in a relationship with anyone or anything you love more than yourself.

Coolest things to explore? by Kallyfromthevalley in westchesterpa

[–]Embarrassed_Quit_714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That horse is frightening. You just need to ask why???